become conditioned to its realization. This practice will
bring all of your powers to focus upon the attainment of the
best. It will bring the best to you.
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Chapter 8
I Don't Believe in Defeat
IF YOU ARE thinking thoughts of defeat, I urge you to rid
yourself of such thoughts, for as you think defeat you tend to
get it. Adopt the "I don't believe in defeat" attitude.
I want to tell you about some people who have put this
philosophy into effect with excellent results and shall explain
the techniques and formulas which they used so successfully.
If you read these incidents carefully and thoughtfully and
believe as they did and think positively and put these
techniques into operation, you too, can overcome defeats
which at the present moment may seem inevitable.
I hope you are not like an "obstacle man" of whom I was
told. He was called an obstacle man because, regardless of
whatever suggestion was advanced, his mind instantly went
to all possible obstacles in connection with it, but he met his
match and learned a lesson which helped to change his
negative attitude. It came about in the following manner.
The directors of his firm had a project under consideration
which involved considerable expense and some definite
hazards as well as success possibilities. In the discussions
regarding this venture the obstacle man would invariably
say, and always with a scholarly air (invariably this type acts
wise, probably a cover-up for inner doubt feelings), "Now
just a moment. Let's consider the obstacles involved."
Another man, who said very little but who was respected by
his associates for his ability and achievements and for a
certain indomitable quality which characterized him,
presently spoke up and asked, "Why do you constantly
emphasize the obstacles in this proposition instead of the
possibilities?"
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"Because," replied the obstacle man, "to be intelligent one
must always be realistic, and it is a fact that there are certain
definite obstacles in connection with this project. What
attitude would you take toward these obstacles, may I ask?"
The other man unhesitatingly replied, "What attitude would I
take toward these obstacles? Why, I would just remove them,
that's all, and then I would forget them."
"But," said the obstacle man, "that is easier said than done.
You say you would remove them and then you would forget
them. May I ask if you have any technique for removing
obstacles and for forgetting them that the rest of us have
never discovered?"
A slow smile came over the face of the other man as he said,
"Son, I have spent my entire life removing obstacles and I
never yet saw one that could not be removed provided you
had enough faith and guts and were willing to work. Since
you want to know how it's done, I will show you."
He then reached into his pocket and took out his wallet.
Under the isinglass window was a card on which were
written some words. He shoved the wallet across the table
and said, "There, son, read that. That is my formula, and
don't give me the song and dance that it won't work either. I
know better from experience."
The obstacle man picked up the wallet and with a strange
look on his face read the words to himself.
"Read them out loud," urged the owner of the wallet.
This is what he read in a slow, dubious voice, "I can do all
things through Christ which strengtheneth me." (Philippians
4 : 13 )
The owner of the wallet put it back in his pocket and said, "I
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have lived a long time and have faced a lot of difficulties in
my time, but there is power in those words — actual power —
and with them you can remove any obstacle."
He said this with confidence and everybody knew he meant
it. This positiveness, together with the facts of his experience
which were known to all, for he was a remarkable man who
had overcome many odds, and because of the further fact
that he was not in any sense "holier than thou," made his
words convincing to the men around the table. At any rate,
there was no more negative talk. The project was put into
operation and, despite difficulties and risks, turned out
successfully.
The technique used by this man is based on the primary fact
about an obstacle which is — don't be afraid of it. Practice
believing that God is with you and that in combination with
Him you have the power to handle it.
So the first thing to do about an obstacle is simply to stand
up to it and not complain about it or whine under it but
forthrightly attack it. Don't go crawling through life on your
hands and knees half-defeated. Stand up to your obstacles
and do something about them. Y ou will find that they haven't
half the strength you think they have.
A friend in England sent me a book by Winston Churchill
entitled Maxims and Reflections. In this book Churchill tells
of the British General Tudor, who commanded a division of
the British Fifth Army which faced the great German assault
in March 1918. The odds were heavily against him, but
General Tudor knew how to meet an apparently immovable
and undefeatable obstacle. His method was simple. He
merely stood and let the obstacle break on him and he, in
turn, broke the obstacle.
Here is what Churchill said about General Tudor. This is a
very great sentence and it is filled with power: "The
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impression I had of Tudor was of an iron peg, hammered into
the frozen ground, immovable."
General Tudor knew how to stand up to an obstacle. Just
stand up to it, that's all, and don't give way under it, and it
will finally break You will break it. Something has to break,
and it won't be you, it will be the obstacle.
You can do this when you have faith, faith in God and faith
in yourself. Faith is the chief quality you need. It is enough.
In fact, it is more than enough.
Use that formula which the businessman suggested and you
will develop this brand of powerful faith in God and in
yourself. You will learn to know yourself, your own ability,
your power to do things. To the degree to which your attitude
shifts from negative to positive the mastery touch will come
to you. Then, with assurance, you can say to yourself under
any and all circumstances and mean it, "I don't believe in
defeat."
Take the story of Gonzales, who won the national tennis
championship a few years ago in a grueling battle. He had
been practically unknown, and because of wet weather he
had not been able to perfect his game prior to the
tournament. The sports writer of a metropolitan newspaper in
analyzing Gonzales said that there were certain defects in his
techniques, and gave it as his opinion that probably greater
champions had played on the courts, however, he credited
Gonzales with a marvelous serve and a skillful volley. But
the factor that won the championship, said the writer, was his
staying power and the further fact that "he was never
defeated by the discouraging vicissitudes of the game."
That is one of the most subtle lines I have ever read in any
sports story — "He was never defeated by the discouraging
vicissitudes of the game."
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It means, does it not, that when the game seemed to go
against him he did not let discouragement creep in nor
negative thoughts dominate and thus lose the power needed
to win. This mental and spiritual quality made that man a
champion. He was able to face obstacles, to stand up to them
and overcome them.
Faith supplies staying power. It contains dynamic to keep
one going when the going is hard. Anybody can keep going
when the going is good, but some extra ingredient is needed
to enable you to keep fighting when it seems that everything
is against you. It is a great secret, that of never being
"defeated by the discouraging vicissitudes of the game."
You may counter, "But you don't know my circumstances. I
am in a different situation than anybody else and I am as far
down as a human being can get."
In that case you are fortunate, for if you are as far down as
you can get there is no further down you can go. There is
only one direction you can take from this position, and that is
up. So your situation is quite encouraging. However, I
caution you not to take the attitude that you are in a situation
in which nobody has ever been before. There is no such
situation.
Practically speaking, there are only a few human stories and
they have all been enacted previously. This is a fact that you
must never forget — there are people who have overcome
every conceivable difficult situation, even the one in which
you now find yourself and which to you seems utterly
hopeless. So did it seem to some others, but they found an
out, a way up, a path over, a pass through.
One of the most inspiring illustrations of this act is the story
of Amos Parrish who twice every year brings together
hundreds of leading department- store executives and style
experts in two huge clinics held in the Grand Ballroom of the
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Waldorf-Astoria Hotel in New York City. At these clinics
Mr. Parrish gives advice to the merchants and their
associates on business trends, on merchandise, on selling
methods, and other matters important to the conduct of their
business. Having attended a number of the clinics, however,
I am convinced that the greatest values Mr. Parrish transmits
to his customers are courage and positive thinking, a deep
belief in themselves, and the confidence that they can
overcome all difficulties.
He seems a living example of the philosophy which he
teaches. As a boy he was sickly. Moreover, he stuttered. He
was sensitive and a victim of an inferiority complex. It was
thought that he would not live because of his weakened
physical condition, but one day Amos Parrish had a spiritual
experience. Faith dawned in his mind, and from then on he
knew that with the help of God and the utilization of his own
powers he could achieve.
He developed a unique idea of service to businessmen, and
so highly do they rate it that they are willing to pay large fees
to attend a two-day session twice a year under the business
wisdom and inspiration of Amos Parrish. To me it is a
moving experience to sit with that big crowd in a hotel
ballroom and listen to "A. P.," as he is affectionately called,
talk positive thinking to those important businessmen and
women.
Sometimes he has the greatest difficulty with his stuttering,
but he is never discouraged. He refers to it frankly and with a
sense of humor. One day, for example, he was trying to say
the word Cadillac. He tried several times and was unable to
get it out, and finally did so with a powerful effort. Then he
commented, "I can't even say C-C-C-Cadillac, let alone buy
one." The audience roared with laughter, but I noted that they
looked up at him with affection written on their faces.
Everyone leaves a meeting at which he speaks with the
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conviction that they, too, can turn their obstacles into assets.
Again I repeat, there is no difficulty you cannot overcome. A
wise and philosophical Negro man once said to me, when
asked how he overcame his difficulties, "How do I get
through a trouble? Well, first I try to go around it, and if I
can't go around it, I try to get under it, and if I can't get under
it, I try to go over it, and if I can't get over it, I just plow right
through it." Then he added, "God and I plow right through
it."
Take seriously that formula of a businessman given earlier in
this chapter. Stop reading for a moment and repeat it over to
yourself five times, and each time you say it conclude with
this affirmation, "I believe that." Here is the formula again,
"I can do all things through Christ which strengthened
me." (Philippians 4:13) Say that five times every day and it
will release indomitable power in your mind.
Your subconscious, which always resents any change, may
say to you, "You don't believe any such thing." But
remember that your subconscious mind in a sense is one of
the greatest liars in existence. It concurs in and sends back to
you your own errors about your abilities. You have created
the negative attitude in your subconscious and it gives this
error back to you. So just turn on your subconscious and say
to it, "Now look here, I do believe that. I insist upon
believing it." If you talk to your subconscious mind with that
positiveness, in due course it will be convinced. One reason
is because you are now feeding it positive thoughts. In other
words, you are at last telling the truth to your subconscious.
After a while your subconscious mind will begin to send
back the truth to you, the truth being that with the help of
Jesus Christ there isn't any obstacle you cannot overcome.
An effective method for making your subconscious positive
in character is to eliminate certain expressions of thought and
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speech which we may call the "little negatives." These so-
called "little negatives" clutter up the average person's
conversation, and while each one is seemingly unimportant
in itself, the total effect of these attitudes is to condition the
mind negatively. When this thought of "little negatives" first
occurred to me, I began to analyze my own conversational
habits and was shocked by what I found. I discovered that I
was making such statements as, "I'm afraid I'll be late," or "I
wonder if I'll have a flat tire," or "I don't think I can do that,"
or "I'll never get through this job. There's so much to do." If
something turned out badly, I might say, "Oh, that's just what
I expected." Or, again, I might observe a few clouds in the
sky and would gloomily state, "I knew it was going to rain."
These are "little negatives" to be sure, and a big thought is of
course more powerful than a little one, but it must never be
forgotten that "mighty oaks from little acoms grow," and if a
mass of "little negatives" clutter up your conversation, they
are bound to seep into your mind. It is surprising how they
accumulate in force, and presently, before you know it, they
will grow into "big negatives." So I determined to go to work
on the "little negatives" and root them out of my
conversation. I found that the best way to eliminate them was
deliberately to say a positive word about everything. When
you keep asserting that things are going to work out well,
that you can do the job, that you will not have a flat tire, that
you will get there on time, by talking up good results you
invoke the law of positive effects and good results occur.
Things do turn out well.
On a roadside billboard I saw an advertisement of a certain
brand of motor oil. The slogan read, "A clean engine always
delivers power." So will a mind free of negatives produce
positives, that is to say, a clean mind will deliver power.
Therefore flush out your thoughts, give yourself a clean
mental engine, remembering that a clean mind, even as a
clean engine, always delivers power.
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So to overcome your obstacles and live the "I don't believe in
defeat" philosophy, cultivate a positive-idea pattern deeply in
your consciousness. What we do with obstacles is directly
determined by our mental attitude. Most of our obstacles, as
a matter of fact, are mental in character.
"Ah," you may object, "mine are not mental, mine are real."
Perhaps so, but your attitude toward them is mental. The
only possible way you can have an attitude is by the mental
process, and what you think about your obstacles largely
determines what you do about them. Form the mental
attitude that you cannot remove an obstacle and you will not
remove it, not if you think you can't. But get the idea firmly
fixed that the obstacle is not so great as you previously
considered it to be. Hold the idea that it is removable, and
however faintly you entertain this positive thought, from the
very moment you begin to think in this manner, the process
is inaugurated which will lead to its ultimate removal.
If you have been long defeated by a difficulty, it is probably
because you have told yourself for weeks, months, and even
for years that there is nothing you can do about it. You have
so emphasized your inability to yourself that your mind
gradually accepted the conclusion upon which you have
insisted, and when your mind is convinced, you are
convinced, for as you think so are you.
But, on the contrary, when you employ this new and creative
concept, "I can do all things through Christ," then you
develop a new mental slant. Emphasize and re-emphasize
that positive attitude and you will finally convince your own
consciousness that you can do something about difficulties.
When at last your mind becomes convinced, astonishing
results will begin to happen. Of a sudden you discover that
you have the power you would never acknowledge.
I played golf with a man who was not only an excellent
golfer but a philosopher as well. As we went around the golf
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course the game itself drew out of him certain gems of
wisdom for one of which I shall ever be grateful.
I hit a ball into the rough, into some high grass. When we
came up to my ball I said in some dismay, "Now just look at
that. I certainly am in the rough. I have a bad lie. It is going
to be tough getting out of here."
My friend grinned and said, "Didn't I read something about
positive thinking in your books?"
Sheepishly I acknowledged that such was the case.
"I wouldn't think negatively about that lie of yours," he said
"Do you think you could get a good hit if this ball were lying
out on the fairway on the short grass?"
I said I thought so.
"Well," he continued, "why do you think you could do better
out there than here?"
"Because," I replied, "the grass is cut short on the fairway
and the ball can get away better."
Then he did a curious thing. "Let's get down on our hands
and knees," he suggested, "and examine the situation. Let's
see just how this ball does lie."
So we got down on our hands and knees, and he said,
"Observe that the relative height of the ball here is about the
same as it would be on the fairway, the only difference being
that you have about five or six inches of grass above the
ball."
Then he did an even more whimsical thing. "Notice the
quality and character of this grass," he said. He pulled off a
blade and handed it to me. "Chew it," he said.
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I chewed, and he asked, "Isn't that tender?"
"Why, yes," I replied. "It certainly does seem to be tender
grass."
"Well," he continued, "an easy swing of your number-five
iron will cut through that grass almost like a knife." And then
he gave me this sentence which I am going to remember as
long as I live, and I hope you will also.
"The rough is only mental. In other words," he continued, "it
is rough because you think it is. In your mind you have
decided that here is an obstacle which will cause you
difficulty. The power to overcome this obstacle is in your
mind. If you visualize yourself lifting that ball out of the
rough, believing you can do it, your mind will transfer
flexibility, rhythm, and power to your muscles and you will
handle that club in such a manner that the ball will rise right
out of there in a beautiful shot. All you need to do is to keep
your eye on that ball and tell yourself that you are going to
lift it out of that grass with a lovely stroke. Let the stiffness
and tension go out of you. Hit it with exhilaration and power.
Remember, the rough is only mental."
To this day I remember the thrill, the sense of power and
delight I had in the clean shot that dropped the ball to the
edge of the green.
That is a very great fact to remember in connection with
difficult problems — "the rough is only mental."
Your obstacles are present all right. They are not fanciful,
but they are not actually so difficult as they seem. Your
mental attitude is the most important factor. Believe that
Almighty God has put in you the power to lift yourself out of
the rough by keeping your eye firmly fixed on the source of
your power. Affirm to yourself that through this power you
can do anything you have to do. Believe that this power is
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taking the tension out of you, that this power is flowing
through you. Believe this, and a sense of victory will come.
Now take another look at that obstacle that has been
bothering you. You will find that it isn't so formidable as you
thought. Say to yourself, "The rough is only mental. I think
victory — I get victory." Remember that formula. Write it on
a piece of paper, put it in your wallet, stick it up on your
mirror where you shave each morning, put it over the kitchen
sink, put it on your dressing table and on your desk — keep
looking at it until its truth drives into the depths of your
consciousness, until it permeates your whole mental attitude,
until it becomes a positive obsession — "I can do all things
through Christ which strengthened! me."
What may seem to be a difficult proposition is, as I have
pointed out, hard or easy in proportion to how we think about
it. It may be said that three men vitally affected the thought
processes of Americans — Emerson, Thoreau, and William
James. Analyze the American mind even to this late date and
it is evident that the teachings of these three philosophers
combined to create that particular genius of the American
who is not defeated by obstacles and who accomplishes
"impossibles" with amazing efficiency.
A fundamental doctrine of Emerson is that the human
personality can be touched with Divine power and thus
greatness can be released from it. William James pointed out
that the greatest factor in any undertaking is one's belief
about it. Thoreau told us that the secret of achievement is to
hold a picture of a successful outcome in mind.
Still another wise American was Thomas Jefferson, who, like
Franklin, set for his guidance a series of rules. Franklin had
thirteen daily rules; Jefferson only ten. One of Jefferson's
rules was this, and I think it is priceless, "Always take hold
of things by the smooth handle." That is, go at a job or at
your difficulty by the use of a method that will encounter the
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least resistance. Resistance causes friction in mechanics,
therefore it is necessary in mechanics to overcome or reduce
friction. The negative attitude is a friction approach. That is
why negativism develops such great resistance. The positive
approach is the "smooth handle" technique. It is in harmony
with the flow of the universe. It not only encounters less
resistance, but actually stimulates assistance forces. It is
remarkable how from early life until the end of your
existence the application of this philosophy will enable you
to attain successful results in areas where otherwise you
would be defeated.
For example, a woman sent her fifteen- year-old son to us.
She said she wanted him "straightened out." It annoyed her
to no end that her boy could never get over 70 in any of his
studies. "This boy has a great mind potentially," she declared
proudly.
"How do you know he has a great mind?" I asked.
"Because he is my son," she said. "I graduated from college
magna cum laude "
The boy came in very glumly, so I asked, "What's the matter,
son?" ‘
"I don't know. My mother sent me to see you."
"Well," I commented, "You don't seem to be burning with
enthusiasm. Your mother says you get only 70's."
"Yes," he said, "that's all I get, and," he added, "that isn't the
worst of it. I've even received less than that."
"Do you think you have a good mind, son?" I asked.
"My mother says I have. I don't know — I think I'm awful
dumb. Dr. Peale," he said earnestly, "I study the stuff. At
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home I read it over once and then close the book and try to
remember it. I repeat this process about three times, and then
I think that if three times doesn't get it into my head how am
I ever going to get it into my head? And then I go to school
thinking maybe I have it, and the teacher calls on me to say
something, and I stand up and can't remember a thing. Then,"
he said, "examinations come along and I sit there and just get
hot and cold all over and I can't think of the answers. I don't
know why," he continued. "I know that my mother was a
great scholar. I guess I just haven't got it in me."
This negative thought pattern combined with the inferiority
feeling stimulated by his mother's attitude was of course
overwhelming him. He froze up in his mind. His mother had
never told him to go to school and study for the wonder and
glory of learning knowledge. She was not wise enough to
encourage him to compete with himself rather than with
others. And she was constantly insisting that he duplicate her
success in scholarship. Little wonder that under this pressure
he froze mentally.
I gave him some suggestions that proved helpful. "Before
you read your lessons, pause a moment and pray in this
manner, 'Lord, I know I have a good mind and that I can get
my work.' Then get yourself relaxed and read the book
without strain. Imagine you are reading a story. Do not read
it twice unless you wish. Simply believe that you got it on
the first reading. Visualize the material as soaking in and
germinating. Then next morning, as you go to school, say to
yourself, 'I have a wonderful mother. She is very pretty and
sweet, but she must have been an old bookworm to get those
high marks. And who wants to be an old bookworm anyway?
I don't want to become magna cum nothing. I only want to
get through school creditably.'
"In class, when the teacher calls on you, quickly pray before
answering. Then believe the Lord will at that moment help
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your mind to deliver. When an examination is given, affirm
in prayer that God is releasing your mind and that the right
answers are given you."
The boy followed these ideas, and what marks do you think
he got the following semester? Ninety! I am sure that this
boy, having discovered the amazing workability of the "I
don't believe in defeat philosophy," will employ the amazing
power of positive thinking in all the affairs of his life.
I could use so many illustrations of the manner in which
men's lives have been revamped by these procedures that this
book would grow to unwieldy size. Moreover, these are
incidents and experiences out of everyday life that are in no
way theoretical, but are entirely practical. My mail is literally
filled with testimonials sent by people who, having heard or
read accounts I have told of victorious life experiences, have
felt moved to relate similar occurrences in their own lives.
Such a letter came from a gentleman who tells about his
father as follows. I know several people who have used the
plan in this letter with amazing results.
"My father was a traveling salesman. One time he sold
furniture, another time hardware, sometimes it was leather
goods. He changed his line every year.
"I would hear him telling Mother that this was his last trip in
stationery or in bed lamps or whatever it was he was selling
at the moment. Next year everything would be different; we
would be on Easy Street. He had a chance to go with a firm
that had a product that sold itself. It was always the same.
My father never had a product that sold. He was always
tense, always afraid of himself, always whistling in the dark.
"Then one day a fellow salesman gave father a copy of a
little three- sentence prayer. He was told to repeat it just
before calling on a customer. Father tried it, and the results
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were almost miraculous. He sold 85 percent of all calls made
during the first week, and every week thereafter the results
were wonderful. Some weeks the percentage ran as high as
95, and Father had sixteen weeks in which he sold every
customer called on.
"Father gave this prayer to several other salesmen, and in
each case it brought astounding results.
"The prayer my father used is as follows:
'I believe I am always divinely guided.
I believe I will always take the right turn of the road.
I believe God will always make a way where there is no
way.' "
The head of a small firm who had a great many difficulties in
establishing his business told me that he was immeasurably
helped by a technique which he invented. He had trouble, he
said, with the tendency to "blow up" a small difficulty into a
seemingly insurmountable obstacle. He knew that he was
approaching his problems in a defeatist attitude, and had
common sense enough to realize that these obstacles were
not so difficult as he made them appear to be. As he told the
story, I wondered if he did not have that curious
psychological difficulty known as the will to fail.
He employed a device which reconditioned his mental
attitude and after a time had a noticeable effect on his
business. He simply placed a large wire basket on his office
desk. The following words were printed on a card and wired
to this basket, "With God all things are possible." Whenever
a problem came up which the old mechanism of defeat began
to develop into a big difficulty, he threw the paper pertaining
to it into the basket marked "With God all things are
possible" and let it rest there for a day or two. "It is queer
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how each matter when I took it out of that basket again didn't
seem difficult at all," he reported.
In this act he dramatized the mental attitude of putting the
problem in God's hands. As a result he received power to
handle the problem normally and therefore successfully.
As you finish this chapter please say the following line
aloud: "I don't believe in defeat." Continue to affirm that
until the idea dominates your subconscious attitudes.
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Chapter 9
How to Break the Worry Habit
YOU DO NOT need to be a victim of worry. Reduced to its
simplest form, what is worry? It is simply an unhealthy and
destructive mental habit. You were not born with the worry
habit. You acquired it. And because you can change any
habit and any acquired attitude, you can cast worry from
your mind. Since aggressive, direct action is essential in the
elimination process, there is just one proper time to begin an
effective attack on worry, and that is now. So let us start
breaking your worry habit at once.
Why should we take the worry problem this seriously? The
reason is clearly stated by Dr. Smiley Blanton, eminent
psychiatrist, "Anxiety is the great modern plague."
A famous psychologist asserts that "fear is the most
disintegrating enemy of human personality," and a prominent
physician declares that "worry is the most subtle and
destructive of all human diseases."
Another physician tells us that thousands of people are ill
because of "dammed-up anxiety." These sufferers have been
unable to expel their anxieties which have turned inward on
the personality, causing many forms of ill-health. The
destructive quality of worry is indicated by the fact that the
word itself is derived from an old Anglo-Saxon word
meaning "to choke." If someone were to put his fingers
around your throat and press hard, cutting off the flow of
vital power, it would be a dramatic demonstration of what
you do to yourself by long-held and habitual worry.
We are told that worry is not infrequently a factor in arthritis.
Physicians who have analyzed the causes of this prevalent
disease assert that the following factors, at least some of
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them, are nearly always present in arthritic cases: financial
disaster, frustration, tension, apprehension, loneliness, grief,
long-held ill will, and habitual worry.
A clinic staff is said to have made a study of one hundred
seventy-six American executives of the average age of forty-
four years and discovered that one half had high blood
pressure, heart disease, or ulcers. It was notable in every case
of those thus afflicted that worry was a prominent factor.
The worrier, so it seems, is not likely to live as long as the
person who learns to overcome his worries. The Rotarian
magazine carried an article entitled "How Long Can You
Live?" The author says that the waistline is the measure of
your life line. The article also declares that if you want to
live long, observe the following rules: (1) Keep calm. (2) Go
to church. (3) Eliminate worry.
A survey shows that church members live longer than non-
church members (better join the church if you don't want to
die young). Married people, according to the article, live
longer than single people. Perhaps this is because a married
couple can divide the worry. When you are single, you have
to do it all alone.
A scientific expert on length of life made a study of some
450 people who lived to be one hundred years of age. He
found that these people lived long and contented lives for the
following reasons: (1) They kept busy. (2) They used
moderation in all things. (3) They ate lightly and simply. (4)
They got a great deal of fun out of life. (5) They were early
to bed and early up. (6) They were free from worry and fear,
especially fear of death. (7) They had serene minds and faith
in God.
Haven't you often heard a person say, "I am almost sick with
worry," and then add with a laugh, "But I guess worry never
really makes you ill." But that is where he is wrong. Worry
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can make you ill.
Dr. George W. Crile, famous American surgeon, said, "We
fear not only in our minds but in our hearts, brains, and
viscera, that whatever the cause of fear and worry, the effect
can always be noted in the cells, tissues, and organs of the
body."
Dr. Stanley Cobb, neurologist, says that worry is intimately
connected with the symptoms of rheumatoid arthritis.
A doctor recently stated that there is an epidemic of fear and
worry in this country. "All doctors," he declared, "are having
cases of illness which are brought on directly by fear, and
aggravated by worry and a feeling of insecurity."
But do not be discouraged, for you can overcome your
worries. There is a remedy that will bring you sure relief. It
can help you break the worry habit. And the first step to take
in breaking it is simply to believe that you can. Whatever
you believe you can do, you can do, with God's help.
Here, then, is a practical procedure which will help to
eliminate abnormal worry from your experience.
Practice emptying the mind daily. This should be done
preferably before retiring at night to avoid the retention by
the consciousness of worries while you sleep. During sleep,
thoughts tend to sink more deeply into the subconscious. The
last five minutes before going to sleep are of extraordinary
importance, for in that brief period the mind is most
receptive to suggestion. It tends to absorb the last ideas that
are entertained in waking consciousness.
This process of mind drainage is important in overcoming
worry, for fear thoughts, unless drained off, can clog the
mind and impede the flow of mental and spiritual power. But
such thoughts can be emptied from the mind and will not
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accumulate if they are eliminated daily. To drain them,
utilize a process of creative imagination. Conceive of
yourself as actually emptying your mind of all anxiety and
fear. Picture all worry thoughts as flowing out as you would
let water flow from a basin by removing the stopper. Repeat
the following affirmation during this visualization: "With
God's help I am now emptying my mind of all anxiety, all
fear, all sense of insecurity." Repeat this slowly five times,
then add, "I believe that my mind is now emptied of all
anxiety, all fear, all sense of insecurity." Repeat that
statement five times, meanwhile holding a mental picture of
your mind as being emptied of these concepts. Then thank
God for thus freeing you from fear. Then go to sleep.
In starting the curative process the foregoing method should
be utilized in midmorning and midafternoon as well as at
bedtime. Go into some quiet place for five minutes for this
purpose. Faithfully perform this process and you will soon
note beneficial results.
The procedure may be further strengthened by imaginatively
thinking of yourself as reaching into your mind and one by
one removing your worries. A small child possesses an
imaginative skill superior to that of adults. A child responds
to the game of kissing away a hurt or throwing away a fear.
This simple process works for the child because in his mind
he believes that that is actually the end of it. The dramatic act
is a fact for him and so it proves to be the end of the matter.
Visualize your fears as being drained out of your mind and
the visualization will in due course be actualized.
Imagination is a source of fear, but imagination may also be
the cure of fear. "Imagineering" is the use of mental images
to build factual results, and it is an astonishingly effective
procedure. Imagination is not simply the use of fancy. The
word imagination derives from the idea of imaging. That is
to say, you form an image either of fear or of release from
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fear. What you "image" (imagine) may ultimately become a
fact if held mentally with sufficient faith.
Therefore hold an image of yourself as delivered from worry
and the drainage process will in time eliminate abnormal fear
from your thoughts. However, it is not enough to empty the
mind, for the mind will not long remain empty. It must be
occupied by something. It cannot continue in a state of
vacuum. Therefore, upon emptying the mind, practice
refilling it. Fill it with thoughts of faith, hope, courage,
expectancy. Say aloud such affirmations as the following:
"God is now filling my mind with courage, with peace, with
calm assurance. God is now protecting me from all harm.
God is now protecting my loved ones from all harm. God is
now guiding me to right decisions. God will see me through
this situation"
A half-dozen times each day crowd your mind with such
thoughts as these until the mind is overflowing with them. In
due course these thoughts of faith will crowd out worry. Fear
is the most powerful of all thoughts with one exception, and
that one exception is faith. Faith can always overcome fear.
Faith is the one power against which fear cannot stand. Day
by day, as you fill your mind with faith, there will ultimately
be no room left for fear. This is the one great fact that no one
should forget. Master faith and you will automatically master
fear.
So the process is — empty the mind and cauterize it with
God's grace, then practice filling your mind with faith and
you will break the worry habit.
Fill your mind with faith and in due course the accumulation
of faith will crowd out fear. It will not be of much value
merely to read this suggestion unless you practice it. And the
time to begin practicing it is now while you think of it and
while you are convinced that the number-one procedure in
breaking the worry habit is to drain the mind daily of fear
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and fill the mind daily with faith. It is just as simple as that.
Learn to be a practicer of faith until you become an expert in
faith. Then fear cannot live in you.
The importance of freeing your mind of fear cannot be
overemphasized. Fear something over a long period of time
and there is a real possibility that by fearing you may
actually help bring it to pass. The Bible contains a line which
is one of the most terrible statements ever made — terrible in
its truth: "For the thing which I greatly feared is come upon
me..." (Job 3:25) Of course it will, for if you fear something
continuously you tend to create conditions in your mind
propitious to the development of that which you fear. An
atmosphere is encouraged in which it can take root and grow.
You tend to draw it to yourself.
But do not be alarmed. The Bible also constantly reiterates
another great truth, "That which I have greatly believed has
come upon me." It does not make that statement in so many
words, and yet again and again and still again the Bible tells
us that if we have faith "nothing is impossible" unto us, and
"according to your faith be it done unto you." So if you shift
your mind from fear to faith you will stop creating the object
of your fear and will, instead, actualize the object of your
faith. Surround your mind with healthy thoughts, thoughts of
faith, and not fear, and you will produce faith results instead
of fear results.
Strategy must be used in the campaign against the worry
habit. A frontal attack on the main body of worry with the
expectation of conquering it may prove difficult. Perhaps a
more adroit plan is to conquer the outer fortifications one by
one, gradually closing in on the main position.
To change the figure, it might be well to snip off the little
worries on the farthest branches of your fear. Then work
back and finally destroy the main trunk of worry.
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At my farm it was necessary to take down a large tree, much
to my regret. Cutting down a great old tree is fraught with
sadness. Men came with a motor-driven saw and I expected
them to start by cutting through the main trunk near the
ground. Instead, they put up ladders and began snipping off
the small branches, then the larger ones, and finally the top
of the tree. Then all that remained was the huge central
trunk, and in a few moments my tree lay neatly stacked as
though it had not spent fifty years in growing.
"If we had cut the tree at the ground before trimming off the
branches, it would have broken nearby trees in falling. It is
easier to handle a tree the smaller you can make it," so
explained the tree man.
The vast tree of worry which over long years has grown up
in your personality can best be handled by making it as small
as possible. Thus it is advisable to snip off the little worries
and expressions of worry. For example, reduce the number
of worry words in your conversation. Words maybe the
result of worry, but they also create worry. When a worry
thought comes to mind, immediately remove it with a faith
thought and expression. For example: "I'm worried that I will
miss the train." Then start early enough to be sure you get
there on time. The less worrying you do, the more likely you
are to start promptly, for the uncluttered mind is systematic
and is able to regulate time.
As you snip off these small worries you will gradually cut
back to the main trunk of worry. Then with your developed
greater power you will be able to eliminate basic worry, i.e.,
the worry habit, from your life.
My friend Dr. Daniel A. Poling gives a valuable suggestion.
He says that every morning before he arises he repeats these
two words, "I believe," three times. Thus at the day's
beginning he conditions his mind to faith, and it never leaves
him. His mind accepts the conviction that by faith he is going
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to overcome his problems and difficulties during the day. He
starts the day with creative positive thoughts in his mind. He
"believes," and it is very difficult to hold back the man who
believes.
I related Dr. Poling's "I believe" technique in a radio talk and
had a letter from a woman who told me that she had not been
very faithful to her religion which happened to be the Jewish
faith. She said their home was filled with contention,
bickering, worry, and unhappiness. Her husband, she
declared, "drank far too much for his own good" and sat
around all day doing no work. He weakly complained that he
couldn't find a job. This woman's mother-in-law lived with
her and the latter "whined and complained of her aches and
pains all the while."
This woman said that Dr. Poling's method impressed her and
she decided to try it herself. So the next morning upon
awakening she affirmed, "I believe, I believe, I believe." In
her letter she excitedly reported, "It has been only ten days
since I started this plan and my husband came home last
night and told me he had a job paying $80 a week. And he
also says that he is going to quit drinking. I believe he means
it. What is even more wonderful, my mother-in-law has
practically stopped complaining of her aches and pains. It is
almost as if a miracle has happened in this house. My
worries seem to have just about disappeared."
That does indeed seem almost magical, and yet that miracle
happens every day to people who shift over from negative
fear thoughts to positive faith thoughts and attitudes.
My good friend, the late Howard Chandler Christy, the artist,
had many a sound anti- worry technique. Scarcely ever have I
known a man so filled with the joy and delight of life. He
had an indomitable quality, and his happiness was infectious.
My church has a policy of having the minister's portrait
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painted sometime during his pastorate. This portrait hangs in
the minister's home until his death, when it reverts to the
church and is placed in a gallery along with pictures of his
predecessors. It is usually the policy of the Board of Elders
and Deacons to have a portrait painted when in their wise
judgment the minister is at the height of his good looks
(mine was painted several years ago).
While sitting for Mr. Christy, I asked, "Howard, don't you
ever worry?"
He laughed. "No, not on your life. I don't believe in it."
"Well," I commented, "that is quite a simple reason for not
worrying. In fact, it seems to me too simple — you just don't
believe in it, therefore you don't do it. Haven't you ever
worried?" I asked.
He replied, "Well, yes, I tried it once. I noticed that
everybody else seemed to worry and I figured I must be
missing something, so one day I made up my mind to try it. I
set aside a day and said, 'That is to be my worry day.' I
decided I would investigate this worry business and do some
worrying just to see what it was like.
"The night before the day came I went to bed early to get a
good night's sleep to be rested up to do a good job of
worrying the next day. In the morning I got up, ate a good
breakfast — for you can't worry successfully on an empty
stomach — and then decided to get to my worrying. Well, I
tried my best to worry until along about noon, but I just
couldn't make heads nor tails of it. It didn't make sense to
me, so I just gave it up."
He laughed one of those infectious laughs of his.
"But," I said, "you must have some other method of
overcoming worry." He did indeed, and it is perhaps the best
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method of all.
"Every morning I spend fifteen minutes filling my mind full
of God," he said. "When your mind is full of God, there is no
room for worry. I fill my mind full of God every day and I
have the time of my life all day long."
Howard Christy was a great artist with a brush, but he was an
equally great artist with life because he was able to take a
great truth and simplify it down to its basic fact, namely, that
only that comes out of the mind which originally you put
into the mind. Fill the mind with thoughts of God rather than
with thoughts of fear, and you will get back thoughts of faith
and courage.
Worry is a destructive process of occupying the mind with
thoughts contrary to God's love and care. Basically that is all
worry is. The cure is to fill the mind with thoughts of God's
power, His protection, and His goodness. So spend fifteen
minutes daily filling your mind full of God. Cram your mind
full of the "I believe philosophy," and you will have no
mental room left to accommodate thoughts of worry and lack
of faith.
Many people fail to overcome such troubles as worry
because, unlike Howard Christy, they allow the problem to
seem complicated and do not attack it with some simple
technique. It is surprising how our most difficult personal
problems often yield to an uncomplicated methodology. This
is due to the fact that it is not enough to know what to do
about difficulties. We must also know how to do that which
should be done.
The secret is to work out a method of attack and keep
working it. There is value in doing something that dramatizes
to our own minds that an effective counterattack is in
process. In so doing we bring spiritual forces to bear upon
the problem in a manner both understandable and usable.
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One of the best illustrations of this technique strategy against
worry was a scheme developed by a businessman. He was a
tremendous worrier. In fact he was fast getting himself into a
bad state of nerves and ill-health. His particular form of
worry was that he was always doubtful as to whether he had
done or said the right thing. He was always rehashing his
decisions and getting himself unnerved about them. He was a
post-mortem expert. He is an exceptionally intelligent man,
in fact a graduate of two universities, in both instances with
honors. I suggested that he ought to work out some simple
method that would help him to drop the day when it was over
and go ahead into the future and forget it. I explained the
gripping effectiveness of simple, dramatized spiritual truth.
It is always true that the greatest minds have the best ability
to be simple, that is, they have the capacity to work out some
simple plans for putting profound truths into operation, and
this man did that in connection with his worries. I noticed
that he was improving and commented on it.
"Oh, yes," he said, "I finally got the secret and it has worked
amazingly well." He said that if I would drop into his office
sometime toward the close of the day he would show me
how he had broken the worry habit. He telephoned me one
day and asked me to have dinner that evening. I met him at
his office at closing time. He explained that he had broken
his worry habit by working out "a little ritual" that he
performed every night before leaving his office. And it was
very unique. It made a lasting impression upon me.
We picked up our hats and coats and started toward the door.
By the door of his office stood a wastebasket and above it on
the wall was a calendar. It was not one of those calendars
where you see a week or a month, or three months, it was a
one-day calendar. You could see only one date at a time, and
that date was in large print. He said, "Now I will perform my
evening ritual, the one that has helped me break the worry
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habit.
He reached up and tore off the calendar page for that
particular day. He rolled it into a small ball and I watched
with fascination as his fingers slowly opened and he dropped
that "day" into the wastebasket. Then he closed his eyes and
his lips moved, and I knew that he was praying, so was
respectfully silent. Upon finishing his prayer he said aloud,
"Amen. O.K., the day is over. Come on, let's go out and
enjoy ourselves."
As we walked down the street I asked, "Would you mind
telling me what you said in that prayer?"
He laughed and said, "I don't think it is your kind of prayer."
But I persisted, and he said, "Well, I pray something like
this: 'Lord, you gave me this day. I didn't ask for it, but I was
glad to have it. I did the best I could with it and you helped
me, and I thank you. I made some mistakes. That was when I
didn't follow your advice, and I am sorry about that. Forgive
me. But I had some victories and some successes, too, and I
am grateful for your guidance. But now, Lord, mistakes or
successes, victories or defeats, the day is over and I'm
through with it, so I'm giving it back to you. Amen.' "
Perhaps that isn't an orthodox prayer, but it certainly proved
to be an effective one. He dramatized the finishing of the day
and he set his face to the future, expecting to do better the
next day. He co-operated with God's method. When the day
is over, God blacks it out by bringing down the curtain of
night. By this method this man's past mistakes and failures,
his sins of omission and commission gradually lost their hold
on him. He was released from the worries that accumulated
from his yesterdays. In this technique this man was
practicing one of the most effective anti-worry formulas,
which is described in these words, "...but this one thing I do,
forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth
unto those things which are before, I press toward the mark
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for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ
Jesus." (Philippians 3:13-14)
Other practical anti-worry techniques may suggest
themselves to you, and I should l ik e to hear of those which
after careful use prove effective. I believe that all of us who
are interested in self-improvement are fellow students in
God's great spiritual laboratory. Together we work out
practical methods of successful living. People from
everywhere are kind enough to write me about their methods
and the results attained. I try to be helpful in making tested
methods available to others through books, sermons,
newspaper columns, radio, television, and other media. In
this manner there can be developed a great many people who
have the know-how for overcoming not only worry but other
personal problems as well.
To conclude this chapter in a manner designed to help you
go to work now to break the worry habit, I list a ten-point
worry-breaking formula.
1. Say to yourself, "Worry is just a very bad mental habit.
And I can change any habit with God's help."
2. You became a worrier by practicing worry. You can
become free of worry by practicing the opposite and stronger
habit of faith. With all the strength and perseverance you can
command, start practicing faith.
3. How do you practice faith? First thing every morning
before you arise say out loud, "I believe," three times.
4. Pray, using this formula, "I place this day, my life, my
loved ones, my work in the Lord's hands. There is no harm in
the Lord's hands, only good. Whatever happens, whatever
results, if I am in the Lord's hands it is the Lord's will and it
is good."
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5. Practice saying something positive concerning everything
about which you have been talking negatively. Talk
positively. For example, don't say, "This is going to be a
terrible day." Instead, affirm, "This is going to be a glorious
day." Don't say, "I'll never be able to do that." Instead,
affirm, "With God's help I will do that."
6. Never participate in a worry conversation. Shoot an
injection of faith into all your conversations. A group of
people talking pessimistically can infect every person in the
group with negativism. But by talking things up rather than
down you can drive off that depressing atmosphere and make
everyone feel hopeful and happy.
7. One reason you are a worrier is that your mind is literally
saturated with apprehension thoughts, defeat thoughts,
gloomy thoughts. To counteract, mark every passage in the
Bible that speaks of faith, hope, happiness, glory, radiance.
Commit each to memory. Say them over and over again until
these creative thoughts saturate your subconscious mind.
Then the subconscious will return to you what you have
given it, namely, optimism, not worry.
8. Cultivate friendships with hopeful people. Surround
yourself with friends who think positive, faith-producing
thoughts and who contribute to a creative atmosphere. This
will keep you re-stimulated with faith attitudes.
9. See how many people you can help to cure their own
worry habit. In helping another to overcome worry you get
greater power over it within yourself.
10. Every day of your life conceive of yourself as living in
partnership and companionship with Jesus Christ. If He
actually walked by your side, would you be worried or
afraid? Well, then, say to yourself, "He is with me." Affirm
aloud, "I am with you always." Then change it to say, "He is
with me now." Repeat that affirmation three times every day.
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Chapter 10
Power to Solve Personal Problems
I WANT TO tell you about some fortunate people who found
the right solution to their problems.
They followed a simple but highly practical plan and in each
case the outcome was a happy and successful one. These
people are in no sense different than you. They had the same
problems and difficulties that you have, but they found a
formula which helped them to get the right answers to the
difficult questions facing them. This same formula applied
by you can get similar results.
First, let me tell you the story of a husband and wife,
longtime friends of mine. For years Bill, the husband,
worked hard until he finally reached the rung next to the top
of the ladder in his company. He was in line for the
presidency of the firm and felt certain that upon retirement of
the president he would be advanced to that position. There
was no apparent reason why his ambition should not be
realized, for by ability, training, and experience he was
qualified. Besides, he had been led to believe he was to be
chosen.
However, when the appointment was made he was bypassed.
A man was brought in from the outside to fill the post.
I arrived in his city just after the blow had fallen. The wife,
Mary, was in an especially vindictive state of mind. At
dinner she bitterly outlined all that she would "like to tell
them." The intense disappointment, humiliation, frustration,
focused in a burning anger which she poured out to her
husband and me.
Bill, on the contrary, was quiet. Obviously hurt,
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disappointed, and bewildered, he took it courageously. Being
essentially a gentle person, it was not surprising that he
failed to become angry or violent in his reaction. Mary
wanted him to resign immediately. She urged him to "tell
them off and tell them plenty, then quit."
He seemed disinclined to take this action, saying perhaps it
was for the best and he would go along with the new man
and help him in any way that he could.
That attitude admittedly might be difficult, but he had
worked for the company for so long that he would not be
happy elsewhere, and, besides, he felt that in the secondary
position the company could continue to use him.
The wife then turned to me and asked what I would do. I told
her that I would, like herself, undoubtedly feel disappointed
and hurt, but that I would try not to allow hate to creep in, for
animosity not only corrodes the soul, but disorganizes
thought processes as well.
I suggested that what we needed was Divine guidance, a
wisdom beyond ourselves in this situation. There was such
an emotional content in the problem that we might possibly
be incapable of thinking the matter through objectively and
rationally.
I suggested, therefore, that we have a few minutes of
quietness, no one saying anything, that we sit quietly in an
attitude of fellowship and prayer, turning our thoughts to the
One who said, "Where two or three are gathered together in
my name, there am I in the midst of them." (Matthew 18:20)
I pointed out that there were three of us, and if we sought to
achieve the spirit of being gathered in "His" name, He would
also be present to quiet us and show us what to do.
It was not easy for the wife to accommodate herself to the
mood suggested, but basically she was an intelligent, high-
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type person, and she joined in the plan.
Presently, after a few quiet minutes, I suggested that we join
hands, and even though we were in a public restaurant I
would quietly offer a prayer. In the prayer I asked for
guidance. I requested peace of mind for Bill and Mary, and I
went a step further and even asked God's blessing upon the
new appointee. I also prayed that Bill would be able to fit in
with the new administration and give more effective service
than before.
After the prayer we sat silent for a time, then with a sigh the
wife said, "Yes, I guess that is the way to do it. When I knew
you were coming to dinner with us I feared that you would
tell us to take a Christian position on this. Frankly, I didn't
feel l ik e doing that. I was boiling inwardly, but of course I
realize that the right answer to this problem is to be found
through that approach. I will try it faithfully, as difficult as it
may be." She smiled wanly, but the animus was gone.
From time to time I checked with my friends, and found that
while everything was not entirely as they desired, they
gradually became fairly contented under the new
arrangement. They were able to overcome their disap-
pointment and ill will.
Bill even confided to me that he liked the new man and in a
way enjoyed working with him. He told me that the new
president often called him in for consultation and seemed to
lean on him.
Mary was nice to the president's wife, and in fact they went
to the fullest extent to be co-operative.
Two years passed. One day I arrived in their city and
telephoned them.
"Oh, I am so excited I can hardly speak," Mary said.
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I commented that anything that could put her in that state
must be of unusual importance.
Ignoring this remark, she cried, "Oh, the most wonderful
thing has happened. Mr. So-and-So," naming the president,
"has been selected by another company at a big promotion
for a special job which will take him out of our organization
into a much better position and" — she posed the question —
"guess what? Bill has just been notified that he is now
president of this company. Come over right away and let the
three of us give thanks together."
Later, as we sat together, Bill said, "Do you know, I am
beginning to realize that Christianity isn't theoretical after all.
We have solved a problem according to well-defined
spiritually scientific principles. I shudder to think," he said,
"of the terrible mistake we would have made had we not
gone at this problem according to the formula contained in
the teachings of Jesus.
"Who in the world," he asked, "is responsible for the silly
idea that Christianity is impractical? Never again will I let a
problem come up without attacking it in just the way the
three of us solved this one."
Well, several years have passed, and Mary and Bill have had
other problems, and to each of them they have applied this
same technique, invariably with good results. By the "put it
in God's hands" method they have learned to solve their
problems right.
Another effective technique in problem solving is the simple
device of conceiving of God as a partner. One of the basic
truths taught by the Bible is that God is with us. In fact,
Christianity begins with that concept, for when Jesus Christ
was bom He was called Immanuel, meaning "God with us."
Christianity teaches that in all the difficulties, problems, and
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circumstances of this life God is close by. We can talk to
Him, lean upon Him, get help from Him, and have the
inestimable benefit of His interest, support, and help.
Practically everybody believes in a general way that this is
true, and many have experienced the reality of this faith.
In getting correct solutions to your problems, however, it is
necessary to go a step further than believing this, for one
must actually practice the idea of presence. Practice
believing that God is as real and actual as your wife, or your
business partner, or your closest friend. Practice talking
matters over with Him; believe that He hears and gives
thought to your problem. Assume that He impresses upon
your mind through consciousness the proper ideas and
insights necessary to solve your problems. Definitely believe
that in these solutions there will be no error, but that you will
be guided to actions according to truth which results in right
outcomes.
A businessman stopped me one day following a Rotary Club
meeting in a Western city at which I had made a speech. He
told me that something he had read in one of my newspaper
columns had, as he put it, "completely revolutionized his
attitude and saved his business."
Naturally I was interested and pleased that any little thing I
had said would bring about such a splendid result.
"I had been having quite a difficult time in my business," he
said. "In fact, it was beginning to be a very serious question
as to whether I could save my business. A series of
unfortunate circumstances together with market conditions,
regulatory procedures, and dislocations to the economy of
the country generally affected my line profoundly. I read this
article of yours in which you advanced the idea of taking
God in as a partner. I think you used the phrase, 'effect a
merger with God.'
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"When I first read that it seemed to me a rather 'cracked-
brain idea.' How could a man on earth, a human being, take
God as a partner? Besides, I had always thought of God as a
vast being, so much bigger than man that I was like an insect
in His sight, and yet you were saying that I should take Him
as a partner. The idea seemed preposterous. Then a friend
gave me one of your books and I found similar ideas
scattered all through it. You told actual life stories about
people who followed this advice. They all seemed to be
sensible people, but still I was unconvinced. I always had the
idea that ministers are idealistic theorists, that they know
nothing about business and practical affairs. So I sort of
'wrote you off,' " he said with a smile.
"However, a funny thing happened one day. I went to my
office so depressed that I actually thought perhaps the best
thing for me to do would be to blow my brains out and get
away from all these problems which seemed completely to
floor me. Then into my mind came this idea of taking God as
a partner. I shut the door, sat in my chair, and put my head
on my arms on the desk. I might as well confess to you that I
hadn't prayed more than a dozen times in as many years.
However, I certainly did pray on this occasion. I told the
Lord that I had heard this idea about taking Him in as a
partner, that I wasn't actually sure what it meant, or how one
did it. I told Him I was sunk, that I couldn't get any ideas
except panicky ones, that I was baffled, bewildered, and very
discouraged. I said, 'Lord, I can't offer Y ou much in the way
of a partnership, but please join with me and help me. I don't
know how You can help me, but I want to be helped. So I
now put my business, myself, my family, and my future in
Your hands. Whatever You say goes. I don't even know how
You are going to tell me what to do, but I am ready to hear
and will follow Your advice if You will make it clear.'
"Well," he continued, "that was the prayer. After I finished
praying I sat at my desk. I guess I expected something
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miraculous to happen, but nothing did. However, I did
suddenly feel quiet and rested. I actually had a feeling of
peacefulness. Nothing out of the ordinary occurred that day
nor that night, but next day when I went to my office I had a
brighter and happier feeling than usual. I began to feel
confident that things would turn out right. It was hard to
explain why I felt that way. Nothing was any different. In
fact, you might even say things were a shade worse, but I
was different, at least a little different.
This feeling of peacefulness stayed with me and I began to
feel better. I kept praying each day and talked to God as I
would to a partner. They were not church prayers — just plain
man-to-man talk. Then one day in my office, all of a sudden
an idea popped up in my mind. It was like toast popping up
in a toaster. I said to myself, 'Well, what do you know about
that?' for it was something that had never occurred to me, but
I knew instantly that it was just the method to follow. Why I
had never thought of it before I haven't the slightest idea. My
mind was too tied up, I guess. I hadn't been functioning
mentally.
"I immediately followed the hunch." Then he stopped. "No,
it was no hunch, it was my partner talking to me. I
immediately put this idea into operation and things began to
roll. New ideas began to flow out of my mind, and despite
conditions I began to get the business back on an even keel.
Now the general situation has improved considerably, and
I'm out of the woods."
Then he said, "I don't know anything about preaching or
about writing the kind of books you write, or any books for
that matter, but let me tell you this — whenever you get a
chance to talk to businessmen tell them that if they will take
God as a partner in their business they will get more good
ideas than they can ever use, and they can turn those ideas
into assets. I don't merely mean money," he said, "although a
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way to get a good return on your investment, I believe, is to
get God-guided ideas. But tell them that the God-partnership
method is the way to get their problems solved right."
This incident is just one of many similar demonstrations of
the law of Divine-human relationship working itself out in
practical affairs. I cannot emphasize too strongly the
effectiveness of this technique of problem solving. It has
produced amazing results in the many cases coming under
my observation.
In the very necessary business of solving personal problems,
it is important, first of all, to realize that the power to solve
them is inherent within you. Second, it is necessary to work
out and actualize a plan. Spiritual and emotional planlessness
is a definite reason for the failure of many people to meet
their personal problems successfully.
A business executive told me that he puts his dependence
upon the "emergency powers of the human brain." It is his
theory, and a sound one, that a human being possesses extra
powers that may be tapped and utilized under emergency
situations. In the ordinary conduct of day-by-day living,
these emergency powers lie dormant, but under extraordinary
circumstances the personality is able, when called upon, to
deliver extra power if needed.
A person who develops a working faith does not allow these
powers to lie dormant, but in proportion to his faith brings
many of them into play in connection with normal activity.
This explains why some people demonstrate greater force
than others in daily requirements and in a crisis. They have
made it a habit normally to draw upon powers that would
otherwise be ignored except in some dramatic necessity.
When a difficult situation arises, do you know how to meet
it? Have you any clearly defined plan for solving unusually
difficult problems as they develop? Many people proceed on
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a hit-or-miss method, and, sadly enough, most frequently
they miss. I cannot urge too strongly the importance of a
planned use of your greater powers in meeting problems.
In addition to the method of two or three praying together in
the "surrender of God" technique and that of establishing a
partnership with God and the importance of a plan to tap and
utilize emergency inner powers, there is still another
tremendous technique — that of practicing faith attitudes. I
read the Bible for years before it ever dawned on me that it
was trying to tell me that if I would have faith — and really
have it — that I could overcome all of my difficulties, meet
every situation, rise above every defeat, and solve all of the
perplexing problems of my life. The day that realization
dawned on me was one of the greatest, if not the greatest, of
my life. Undoubtedly many people will read this book who
have never gotten the faith idea of living. But I hope you will
get it now, for the faith technique is without question one of
the most powerful truths in the world having to do with the
successful conduct of human life.
Throughout the Bible the truth is emphasized again and
again that "If ye have faith as a grain of mustard
seed... nothing shall be impossible unto you." (Matthew
17:20) The Bible means this absolutely, factually,
completely, and literally. It isn't an illusion, it isn't a fantasy.
It is not an illustration, nor a symbol, nor a metaphor, but the
absolute fact — "Faith, even as a grain of mustard seed," will
solve your problems, any of your problems, all of your
problems, if you believe it and practice it. "According to
your faith, be it unto you." (Matthew 9:29) The requirement
is faith, and directly in proportion to the faith that you have
and use will you get results. Little faith gives you little
results, medium faith gives you medium results, great faith
gives you great results. But in the generosity of Almighty
God, if you have only the faith symbolized by a grain of
mustard seed, it will do amazing things in solving your
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problems.
For example, let me tell you the thrilling story of my friends
Maurice and Mary Alice Flint. I became acquainted with
them when a previous book of mine, A Guide to Confident
Living , was condensed in Liberty magazine. Maurice Flint at
that time was failing, and failing badly. Not only was he
failing in his job, but as a person as well. He was filled with
fear and resentment and was one of the most negative
persons I have ever encountered. He was endowed with a
nice personality and at heart was a wonderful fellow, but he
had simply messed life up as he himself admitted.
He read the condensation of the book in which is emphasized
the idea of "mustard-seed faith." At this time he was living in
Philadelphia with his family, a wife and two sons. He
telephoned my church in New York, but for some reason did
not make contact with my secretary. I mention this to show
his already changing mental attitude for normally he would
never have called the second time, because it was his
pathetic habit to give up everything after a feeble effort, but
in this instance he persevered until he got through and
secured the information relative to the time of church
services. The next Sunday he drove from Philadelphia to
New York with his family to attend church, which he
continued to do even in the most inclement weather.
In an interview later he told me his life story in full detail
and asked if I thought he could ever make anything of
himself. The problems of money, of situations, of debts, of
the future, and primarily of himself were so complicated and
he was so overwhelmed with difficulty that he regarded the
situation as completely hopeless.
I assured him that if he would get himself personally
straightened out and get his mental attitudes attuned to God's
pattern of thought, and if he would learn and utilize the
technique of faith, all of his problems could be solved.
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One attitude that both he and his wife had to clear out of
their minds was that of resentment. They were dully mad at
everybody and acutely so at some. They were in their present
unhappy condition, so they reasoned in their diseased
thoughts, not because of any failure on their part but because
of "dirty deals" other people had given them. They actually
used to lie in bed at night telling each other what they would
like to say to other people by way of insult. In this unhealthy
atmosphere they tried to find sleep and rest, but with no
successful result.
Maurice Flint really took to the faith idea. It gripped him as
nothing ever had. His reactions were weak, of course, for his
will power was disorganized. At first he was unable to think
with any power or force due to his long habit of negativism,
but he held on tenaciously, even desperately, to the idea that
if you have "faith as a grain of mustard seed, nothing is
impossible." With what force he did have he absorbed faith.
Of course, his capacity to have faith gradually increased as
he practiced it.
One night he went into the kitchen where his wife was
washing dishes. He said, "The faith idea is comparatively
easy on Sunday in church, but I can't hold it. It fades. I was
thinking that if I could carry a mustard seed in my pocket, I
could feel it when I began to weaken and that would help me
to have faith." He then asked his wife, "Do we have any of
those mustard seeds, or are they just something mentioned in
the Bible? Are there mustard seeds today?"
She laughed and said, "I have some right here in a pickle
jar."
She fished one out and gave it to him. "Don't you know,
Maurice," Mary Alice said, "that you don't need an actual
mustard seed. That is only the symbol of an idea."
"I don't know about that," he replied. "It says mustard seed in
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the Bible and that's what I want. Maybe I need the symbol to
get faith."
He looked at it in the palm of his hand and said wonderingly,
"Is that all the faith I need — just a small amount like this tiny
grain of mustard seed?" He held it for a while and then put it
in his pocket, saying, "If I can just get my fingers on that
during the day, it will keep me working on this faith idea."
But the seed was so small he lost it, and he would go back to
the pickle jar for another one, only to lose it also. One day
when another seed became lost in his pocket, the idea came
to him, Why couldn't he put the grain of mustard seed in a
plastic ball? He could carry this ball in his pocket or put it on
his watch chain always to remind him that if he had "faith as
a grain of mustard seed, nothing would be impossible unto
him."
He consulted a supposed expert in plastics and asked how to
insert a mustard seed in a plastic ball so there would be no
bubble. The "expert" said it could not be done for the reason
that it had never been done, which of course was no reason at
all.
Flint had enough faith by this time to believe that if he had
faith "even as a grain of mustard seed" he could put a
mustard seed in a plastic sphere. He went to work, and kept
at it for weeks, and finally succeeded. He made up several
pieces of costume jewelry: necklace, bow pin, key chain,
bracelet, and sent them to me. They were beautiful, and on
each gleamed the translucent sphere with the mustard seed
within. With each one was a card which bore the title,
"Mustard Seed Remembrancer." The card also told how this
piece of jewelry could be used; how the mustard seed would
remind the wearer that "if he had faith, nothing was
impossible."
He asked me if I thought these articles could be
merchandised. I was no expert in such matters so I showed
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them to Grace Oursler, consulting editor of Guideposts
magazine. She took the jewelry to our mutual friend, Mr.
Walter Hoving, president of Bonwit Teller Department
Store, one of the greatest executives in the country. He at
once saw the possibilities in this project. Imagine my
astonishment and delight when in the New York papers a
few days later was a two-column advertisement reading,
"Symbol of faith — a genuine mustard seed enclosed in
sparkling glass makes a bracelet with real meaning." And in
the advertisement was the Scripture passage, "If ye have faith
as a grain of mustard seed... nothing shall be impossible unto
you." (Matthew 17:20) These articles sold like hot cakes.
Now hundreds of great department stores and shops
throughout the country find difficulty keeping them in stock.
Mr. and Mrs. Flint have a factory in a Midwestern city
producing Mustard Seed Remembrancers. Curious, isn't it — a
failure goes to church and hears a text out of the Bible and
creates a great business. Perhaps you had better listen more
intently to the reading of the Bible and the sermon the next
time you go to church. Perhaps you, too, will get an idea that
will rebuild not only your life but your business as well.
Faith in this instance created a business for manufacturing
and distributing a product that has helped and will help
thousands upon thousands of people. So popular and
effective is it that others have copied it, but the Flint Mustard
Seed Remembrancer is the original. The story of the lives
that have been changed by this little device is one of the most
romantic spiritual stories of this generation. But the effect on
Maurice and Mary Alice Flint — the transformation of their
lives, the remaking of their characters, the releasing of their
personalities — this is a thrilling demonstration of faith
power. No longer are they negative — they are positive. No
more are they defeated — they are victorious. They no longer
hate. They have overcome resentment and their hearts are
filled with love. They are new people with a new outlook and
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a new sense of power. They are two of the most inspiring
people I ever knew.
Ask Maurice and Mary Alice Flint how to get a problem
solved right. They will tell you — "Have faith — really have
faith." And believe me, they know.
If as you read this story you have said to yourself negatively
(and that is being negative), "The Flints were never so bad
off as I am," let me tell you that I have scarcely ever seen
anybody as badly off as were the Flints. And let me say
further that regardless of however desperate your situation
may be, if you will use the four techniques outlined in this
chapter, as did the Flints, you, too, can get your problem
solved right.
In this chapter I have tried to show various methods for
solving a problem. Now I wish to give ten simple
suggestions as a concrete technique to use generally in
solving your problems:
1. Believe that for every problem there is a solution.
2. Keep calm. Tension blocks the flow of thought power.
Your brain cannot operate efficiently under stress. Go at your
problem easy-like.
3. Don't try to force an answer. Keep your mind relaxed so
that the solution will open up and become clear.
4. Assemble all the facts impartially, impersonally, and
judicially.
5. List these fact on paper. This clarifies your thinking,
bringing the various elements into orderly system. You see
as well as think. The problem becomes objective, not
subjective.
6. Pray about your problem, affirming that God will flash
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illumination into your mind.
7. Believe in and seek God's guidance on the promise of the
"3rd Psalm, "Thou wilt guide me by thy counsel."
8. Trust in the faculty of insight and intuition.
9. Go to church and let your subconscious work on the
problem as you attune to the mood of worship. Creative
spiritual thinking has amazing power to give "right" answers.
10. If you follow these steps faithfully, then the answer that
develops in your mind, or comes to pass, is the right answer
to your problem.
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Chapter 11
How to Use Faith in Healing
IS RELIGIOUS FAITH a factor in healing? Important
evidence indicates that it is. There was a time in my own
experience when I was not convinced of this, but now I am,
and that very definitely. I have seen too many evidences to
believe otherwise.
We are learning that faith properly understood and applied is
a powerful factor in overcoming disease and establishing
health.
My conviction regarding this important question is shared by
many medical men. Newspapers carried an account of the
visit to this country of the famous Viennese surgeon, Dr.
Hans Finsterer. I quote the newspaper story which was
headed "Honor Surgeon 'Guided by God.' "
"A Viennese doctor, Dr. Hans Finsterer, who believes 'the
unseen hand of God' helps make an operation successful, was
selected by the International College of Surgeons for its
highest honor, 'master of surgery.' He was cited for his work
in abdominal surgery with the use of local anesthesia only.
"Finsterer, seventy-two-year-old professor at the University
of Vienna, has performed more than 20,000 major
operations, among them 8,000 gastric resections (removal of
part or all of the stomach) using only local anesthesia.
Finsterer said that although considerable progress has been
made in medicine and surgery in the past few years 'all
advances are not sufficient in themselves to insure a happy
outcome in every operation. In many instances,' he said, 'in
what appeared to be simple surgical procedures the patients
died, and in some cases where the surgeon despaired of a
patient there was recovery.
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" 'Some of our colleagues attribute these things to
unpredictable chance, while others are convinced that in
those difficult cases their work has been aided by the unseen
hand of God. Of late years, unfortunately, many patients and
doctors have lost their conviction that all things depend on
the providence of God.
" 'When we are once again convinced of the importance of
God's help in our activities, and especially in the treatment of
our patients, then true progress will have been accomplished
in restoring the sick to health.' "
So concludes the account of a great surgeon who combines
his science with faith.
I spoke at the national convention of an important industry. It
was a large gathering of the leaders in an amazingly creative
merchandising enterprise that has established this particular
industry as a vital factor in American business life.
I was somewhat surprised when one of the leaders of this
organization at the convention luncheon where the
discussion centered around taxation, rising costs, and
business problems, turned to me and asked, "Do you believe
that faith can heal?"
"There are a good many well-authenticated examples on
record of people who have been healed by faith," I answered.
"Of course, I do not think we should depend on faith alone to
heal a physical ailment. I believe in the combination of God
and the doctor. This viewpoint takes advantage of medical
science and the science of faith, and both are elements in the
healing process."
"Let me tell you my story," the man continued. "A number of
year ago I had a malady that was diagnosed as osteoma of
the jaw, that is, a bone tumor on my jaw. The doctors told me
it was practically incurable. You can imagine how that
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disturbed me. Desperately I sought for help. Although I had
attended church with fair regularity, still I was not a
particularly religious man. I scarcely ever read the Bible.
One day, however, as I lay in my bed it occurred to me that I
would like to read the Bible, and I asked my wife to bring
one to me. She was very surprised, for I have never before
made such a request.
"I began to read, and found consolation and comfort. I also
became a bit more hopeful and less discouraged. I continued
to read for extended periods every day. But that wasn't the
chief result. I began to notice that the condition which had
troubled me was growing less noticeable. At first I thought I
imagined this, then I became convinced that some change
was taking place in me.
"One day while reading the Bible I had a curious inward
feeling of warmth and great happiness. It is difficult to
describe, and long ago I got over trying to explain the
feeling. From that time on my improvement was more rapid.
I went back to the doctors who had first diagnosed my case.
They examined me carefully. They were obviously surprised
and agreed that my condition had improved, but warned me
that this was only a temporary respite. Later, however, upon
further examination, it was determined that the symptoms of
osteoma had disappeared entirely. Still the doctors told me it
would probably start all over again. This did not disturb me,
for in my heart I knew that I was healed."
"How long has it been since your healing?" I asked.
"Fourteen years," was the answer.
I studied this man. Strong, sturdy, healthy, he is one of the
outstanding men in his industry. The incident was told to me
in the factual way that a businessman would recount it. There
was not the slightest indication of doubt in this man's mind.
Indeed how could there be, for whereas he had been
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ought patterns upon
physical states. We realize that a person can make himself ill
by resentmecondemned to death, here he was alive and vigorous.
What did it? The skillful work of the physician plus! And
what was the plus? Obviously the faith that heals.
The healing described by this gentleman is but one of many
similar accounts, and so many of them are attested by
competent medical evidence that it seems we must encourage
people to make greater use of the amazing power of faith in
healing. Sadly the healing element in faith has suffered
neglect. I am certain that faith can and does work what we
call "miracles" but which are, in truth, the operation of
spiritually scientific laws.
There is a growing emphasis in present-day religious practice
which is designed to help people find healing from the
sicknesses of mind, heart, soul, and body. This is a return to
the original practice of Christianity. Only in recent times
have we tended to overlook the fact that for centuries
religion carried on healing activities. The very word "pastor"
derives from a word meaning "the cure of souls." In modern
times, however, man made the false assumption that it is
impossible to harmonize the teachings of the Bible with what
is called "science" and so the healing emphasis of religion
was abandoned almost entirely to materialistic science.
Today, however, the close association of religion and health
is increasingly recognized.
It is significant that the word "holiness" derives from a word
meaning "wholeness" and the word "meditation," usually
used in a religious sense, closely resembles the root meaning
of the word "medication." The affinity of the two words is
startlingly evident when we realize that sincere and practical
meditation upon God and His truth acts as a medication for
the soul and body.
Present-day medicine emphasizes psychosomatic factors in
healing, thus recognizing the relationship of mental states to
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bodily health. Modern medical practice realizes and takes
into consideration the close connection between how a man
thinks and how he feels. Since religion deals with thought
and feeling and basic attitudes, it is only natural that the
science of faith should be important in the healing process.
Harold Sherman, author and playwright, was asked to revise
an important radio presentation with the promise that he
would be contracted as the permanent writer. After some
months of work, he was dismissed and his material used
without credit. This resulted in financial difficulty and
humiliation. The injustice rankling in his mind developed
into a growing bitterness against the radio executive who had
broken faith with him. Mr. Sherman declares that this is the
one time in his life when he had murder in his heart. His
hatred made him subject to a physical affliction in the form
of a mycosis, a fungus growth which attacked the
membranes of his throat. The best medical attention was
secured, but something in addition was required. When he
gave up his hate and developed a feeling of forgiveness and
understanding, the condition gradually corrected itself. With
the aid of medical science and a new mental attitude, he was
healed of his affliction.
A sensible and effective pattern for health and happiness is to
utilize the skills and methods of medical science to the fullest
possible extent and at the same time apply the wisdom, the
experience, and the techniques of spiritual science. There is
impressive evidence to support the belief that God works
through both the practitioner of science, the doctor, and the
practitioner of faith, the minister. Many physicians join in
this point of view.
At a Rotary Club luncheon I sat at a table with nine other
men, one of them a physician who had recently been
discharged from military service and had resumed his
civilian practice. He said,
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"Upon my return from the Army, I noticed a change in my
patients' troubles. I found that a high percentage do not need
medicine but better thought patterns. They are not sick in
their bodies so much as they are sick in their thoughts and
emotions. They are all mixed up with fear thoughts,
inferiority feelings, guilt, and resentment. I found that in
treating them I needed to be about as much a psychiatrist as a
physician, and then I discovered that not even those therapies
helped me fully to do my job. I became aware that in many
cases the basic trouble with people was spiritual. So I found
myself frequently quoting the Bible to them. Then I fell into
the habit of 'prescribing' religious and inspirational books,
especially those that give guidance in how to live."
Directing his statements to me, he said, "It's about time you
ministers began to realize that in the healing of many people
you, too, have a function to perform. Of course you are not
going to overlap on the work of the physician any more than
we shall intrude on your function, but we doctors need the
co-operation of ministers in helping people find health and
well-being."
I received a letter from a physician in an upstate New York
town who said, "Sixty percent of the people in this town are
sick because they are maladjusted in their minds and in their
souls. It is hard to realize that the modern soul is sick to such
an extent that the physical organs pain. I suppose in time,"
continues the doctor, "that ministers, priests, and rabbis will
understand this relationship."
This physician was kind enough to say that he prescribes my
book, A Guide to Confident Living, and other similar books
to his patients and that noteworthy results have been
achieved thereby.
The manager of a Birmingham, Alabama, bookstore sent me
a prescription form made out by a physician of that city to be
filled not at a drugstore, but at her bookstore. He prescribes
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specific books for specific troubles.
Dr. Carl R. Ferris, formerly president of the Jackson County
Medical Society of Kansas City, Missouri, with whom I had
the pleasure of appearing on a joint health-and-happiness
radio program, declared that in treating human ills the
physical and spiritual are often so deeply interrelated that
there is often no clearly defined dividing line between the
two.
Years ago my friend, Dr. Clarence W. Lieb, pointed out to
me the effect on health of spiritual and psychiatric problems,
and through his wise guidance I began to see that fear and
guilt, hate and resentment, problems with which I was
dealing, were often closely connected with problems of
health and physical well-being. So profoundly does Dr. Lieb
believe in this therapy that he with Dr. Smiley Blanton
inaugurated the religio-psychiatric clinic which for years has
ministered to hundreds at the Marble Collegiate Church in
New Y ork.
The late Dr. William Seaman Bainbridge and I worked
closely together m the relationship of religion and surgery,
and we were able to bring health and new life to many.
Two of my medical friends in New York, Dr. Z. Taylor
Bercovitz and Dr. Howard Westcott, have been of
inestimable help in my pastoral work through their wisely
scientific and yet deeply spiritual understanding of the ills of
the body, mind, and soul as related to faith.
"We have discovered the psychosomatic cause of high blood
pressure as some form of subtle, repressed fear — a fear of
things that might happen, not of things that are," says Dr.
Rebecca Beard. "They are largely fears of things in the
future. In that sense, therefore, they are imaginary, for they
may never happen at all. In the case of diabetes, it is grief or
disappointment which we found uses up more energy than
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any other emotion, thereby exhausting the insulin which is
manufactured by the pancreas cells until they are worn out.
"Here we find the emotions involved in the past — reliving
the past and not being able to go forward into life. The
medical world can give relief in disorders like these. They
can give something that can lower the blood pressure when it
is high, or raise it when it is low, but not permanently. They
can give insulin which will bum up more sugar into energy
and give the diabetic relief. These are definite aids, but they
do not offer complete cure. No drug or vaccine has been
discovered to protect us from our own emotional conflicts. A
better understanding of our own emotional selves and a
return to religious faith seem to form the combination that
holds the greatest promise of permanent help to any of us.
"The answer," Dr. Beard concludes, "is in the healing
teachings of Jesus."
Another efficient woman physician wrote me of her own
development in combining the therapy of medicine and faith.
"I became interested in your straightforward religious
philosophy. I had been working at top speed and getting
tense, irritable, and at times beset with old fears and guilts, in
fact in need of a release from morbid tension. At a low
moment early one morning I picked up your book and began
to read it. This was the prescription that I needed. Here was
God, the great Physician, with faith in Him as an antibiotic to
kill the germs of fear and render useless the virus of guilt.
"I began to practice the good Christian principles outlined in
your book. Gradually there came a release of tension and I
felt relaxed and happier and I slept well. I quit taking vitamin
and pep pills. Then," she adds, and this is what I want to
emphasize, "I began to feel that I wanted to share this new
experience with my patients, those who came to me with
neuroses. I was surprised to find how many had read your
book and others. The patient and I seemed to have a common
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ground to work on. It has been an enriching experience. To
talk about a faith in God has become a natural and easy thing
to do.
"As a doctor," she adds, "I have seen a number of miraculous
recoveries due to Divine aid being given. In the past few
weeks I have had an additional experience. My sister had to
undergo a serious operation about three weeks ago.
Following the operation she developed an intestinal
obstruction. On her fifth day she was very critically ill, and
as I left the hospital at noon I realized that she must take a
turn for the better very soon or her hope of recovery would
be slim. I was very worried, so I drove slowly around for
about twenty minutes praying for a relief of this obstruction.
(Everything that could be done medically was being taken
care of.) I had not been home more than ten minutes when
the phone rang and her nurse told me that the obstruction had
relieved itself and that she had taken a definite turn for the
better, and since that time she has recovered completely.
Could I feel otherwise than that God's intervention had saved
her life?"
So runs the letter of a successful practicing physician.
In the light of this viewpoint based on a strictly
commonsense scientific attitude we may approach the
phenomenon of healing through faith with credibility. If I did
not believe sincerely that the faith factor in healing is sound I
would certainly not develop the point of view contained in
this chapter.
Over a period of time I have received from many readers and
radio listeners as well as from my own parishioners accounts
of healings in which the element of faith has been present. I
have meticulously investigated many of these to satisfy my
own mind as to their truthfulness. Also I wanted to be able to
declare to the most cynical that here is a way of health,
happiness, and successful living which is so buttressed by
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evidence that only the person who wants to remain ill
because of some subconscious will-to-fail attitude will
ignore his possibilities for health implied in these
experiences.
The formula which these many incidents together present is
briefly stated — the employment of all the resources of
medical and psychological science combined with the
resources of spiritual science. This is a combination of
therapies that can surely bring health and well-being if it is
the plan of God for the patient to live. Obviously for each of
us there comes a time for this mortal life to end (life itself
never ends, only the earthly phase of it).
We in the so-called old-line churches have, in my humble
judgment, missed one of our greatest possible contributions
by failing to point out with positiveness that there is a sound
message of health in Christianity. Failing to find this
emphasis in the church, groups, organizations, and other
spiritual bodies have been created to supply this deficiency
in Christian teaching. But there is no longer any valid reason
why all the churches should not recognize that which is
authenticated, namely, that there is healing in faith and more
generally offer sound healing techniques to our people.
Fortunately everywhere today throughout our religious
organizations thoughtful, scientifically minded spiritual
leaders are taking that extra step of faith based on the facts
(and the Scripture) and are making available to the people as
never before the formulas of the marvelous healing grace of
Jesus Christ.
In all of the investigations I have made into successful cases
of healing, there seem to be certain factors present. First, a
complete willingness to surrender oneself into the hands of
God. Second, a complete letting go of all error such as sin in
any form and a desire to be cleansed in the soul. Third, belief
and faith in the combined therapy of medical science in
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harmony with the healing power of God. Fourth, a sincere
willingness to accept God's answer, whatever it may be, and
no irritation or bitterness against His will. Fifth, a substantial,
unquestioning faith that God can heal.
In all these healings there seems to be an emphasis upon
warmth and light and a feeling of assurance that power has
passed through. In practically every case that I have
examined, in one form or another, the patient talks about a
moment when there was warmth, heat, beauty, peace, joy,
and a sense of release. Sometimes it has been a sudden
experience; other times a more gradual unfolding of the
conviction that the healing has occurred.
Always in my investigation of these matters I have waited
for elapsed time to prove that the healing is permanent and
those cases which I report are not based on any temporary
improvement which might conceivably be the result of a
momentary resurgence of strength.
For example, may I relate a healing experience written for
me by a woman whose reliability and judgment I profoundly
respect. Documentation in this case is thoroughgoing and
scientifically impressive. This woman was told that an
immediate operation was necessary to remove a growth
which had been diagnosed as malignant.
I quote her exact words: "All precautionary treatments were
taken, but the manifestations returned. As may be expected, I
was terrified; I knew further hospital treatments were futile.
There was no hope, so I turned to God for help. A very
consecrated and spiritual child of God helped me by prayer
to realize that the right knowledge of God and His healing
Christ would help me too. I was most receptive to this kind
of thinking, and placed myself in God's hands.
"I had asked for this help one morning, as usual, and spent
the day going about my household duties, which were many
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at that time. I was preparing the evening meal, all alone in
the kitchen. I was aware of an unusually bright light in the
room and felt a pressure against my whole left side, as
though a person were standing very close beside me. I had
heard of healings; I knew prayers were being offered in my
behalf, so I decided this must be the healing Christ who was
with me.
"I decided to wait until morning, to be sure; if the symptoms
of the trouble were gone, then I would know. By morning,
the improvement was so noticeable, and I was so free in my
mind, that I was certain, and reported to my friend that the
healing had taken place.
"The memory of that healing and the presence of Christ are
as fresh in my mind today as then. That was fifteen years
ago, and my health steadily improved until I am in excellent
condition now."
In many heart cases the therapy of faith (a quiet, serene faith
in Jesus Christ) undoubtedly stimulates healing. People who
experience "a heart attack" who thereupon thoroughly and
completely practice faith in Christ's healing grace, observing
at the same time the rules prescribed by their physicians,
report remarkable recovery histories. Perhaps such a person
may even gain a greater degree of health than previously for
having learned his limitations and, realizing the excess
strains he has been placing upon himself, now conserves his
strength.
But more than that he has learned one of the greatest
techniques of human well-being, that of surrendering himself
to the recuperative power of God. This is done by
consciously attaching himself to the creative process through
mentally conceiving of recreative forces as operating within
himself. The patient opens his consciousness to the tides of
vitality and re-creative energy inherent in the universe which
have been barred from his life through tension, high
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pressure, and other departures from the laws of well-being.
An outstanding man suffered a heart attack about thirty-five
years ago. He was told that he would never be able to work
again. The orders were that he must spend much of his time
in bed. He would likely be an invalid the remainder of his
days, which days would be relatively few in number, so he
was informed. It is doubtful whether such statements would
be made to him in present-day medical practice. At any rate
he listened to these dire prophecies about his future and
considered them carefully.
One morning he awakened early and picked up his Bible and
by chance (or was it chance?) opened it to the account of one
of the healings of Jesus. He also read the statement, "Jesus
Christ the same yesterday, and today and forever." (Hebrews
13:8) It occurred to him that if Jesus could and did heal
people long ago, and that if He is the same as He was then,
why couldn't He heal today? "Why cannot Jesus heal me?"
he asked. Then faith welled up within him.
Therefore, with simple confidence, he asked the Lord to heal
him. He seemed to hear Jesus say, "Believest thou that I can
do this?" And his answer was, "Yes, Lord, I believe that You
can."
He closed his eyes and "seemed to feel the touch of the
healing Christ upon his heart." All that day he had a strange
sense of rest. As the days passed he became convinced that
there was a rising tide of strength within him. Finally one
day he prayed, "Lord, if it is Your will, tomorrow morning I
am going to get dressed, go outside, and within a few days I
am going back to work. I put myself completely in Your
care. If I should die tomorrow as a result of the increased
activity, I want to thank You for all the wonderful days I
have had. With You to help me, I shall start out tomorrow
and You will be with me all day long. I believe I will have
sufficient strength, but if I should die as a result of this effort,
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I will be with You in eternity, and all will be well in either
case."
In this calm faith he increased his activities as the days
passed. He followed this formula every day for the entire
period of his active career, which numbered thirty years from
the date of his heart attack. He retired at seventy-five. Few
men I have known have been more vigorous in their
undertakings or have made a greater contribution to human
welfare. Always, however, he conserved his physical and
nervous strength. It was invariably his habit to lie down and
rest after lunch, and he never allowed himself to get under
stress. He was early to bed and early up, always employing
rigorous and disciplinary rules of living.
In all his activities there was an absence of worry,
resentment, and tension. He worked hard but easily.
The doctors were right. Had he continued according to the
debilitating habits of his earlier life he would probably have
long since been dead or at least an invalid. The advice of the
physicians brought him to the point where the healing work
of Christ could be accomplished. Without the heart attack he
would not have been mentally or spiritually ready for
healing.
Another friend of mine, a prominent businessman, suffered a
heart attack. For weeks he was confined to his bed, but
presently returned to his important responsibilities where he
now accomplishes all that he ever did previously, but with
much less tension. He seems to possess a new power that he
did not enjoy before. His recovery proceeded from a definite
and scientific spiritual approach to his health problem. He
had competent physicians and followed their directions
explicitly, which is an important factor in such situations.
In addition to the program of medication and treatment,
however, he worked out a spiritual healing formula. He
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outlined it as follows, writing from the hospital, "An intimate
friend of mine, only twenty-five years old, was brought into
the hospital with an attack similar to mine and died within
four hours. Two acquaintances of mine have suffered a
similar fate in rooms near by. It must be that I have work yet
to do. So I shall return and apply myself to the tasks before
me with the expectation of living longer and more
abundantly than I might have done without this experience.
The doctors were wonderful, the nurses grand, the hospital
ideal."
He then proceeds to outline the technique of spiritual
convalescence which he employed. The formula consists of
three parts. "(1) During the first stages, when absolute rest
was demanded, I heeded the admonition of the Psalmist, 'Be
still and know that I am God.' " (Psalm 46:10) That is to say,
he completely relaxed and rested in the hands of God. "(2)
As the days grew brighter, I used the affirmation, 'Wait on
the Lord: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine
heart.' " (Psalm 27:14) The patient put his heart under the
care of God and God placed His hand of healing upon his
heart and renewed it. "(3) Finally with the return of strength
came a new assurance and confidence to which I gave
expression in the affirmation, 'I can do all things through
Christ which strengtheneth me.' " (Philippians 4:13) In this
he affirmed positively that strength was being conferred
upon him and in so doing he received new power.
In this three-point formula this man found healing. The able
ministrations of his physicians conserved and stimulated the
healing forces of his physical being. The equally wise
application of faith completed his recovery by stimulating
the spiritual powers within his nature. The two therapies
together draw upon the two great renewal forces within our
life, one the recuperative power of the human body and the
other the restorative forces resident within the mind. One
responds to medical treatment, the other to faith treatment,
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and God presides in both areas. He made both body and
mind and He established the processes of health and well-
being governing both. "...In Him we live and move and have
our being." (Acts 17:28)
In the prevention of sickness and in healing mind and body,
do not fail to draw upon one of the greatest resources
available to you — the faith that heals.
In the light of the principles outlined in this chapter, what
can you do of a constructive nature when a loved one or you
are ill? Following are eight practical suggestions:
1. Follow the advice of a prominent medical school head
who said, "In sickness, send for your minister even as you
send for your doctor." In other words, believe that spiritual
forces as well as medical technique are important in healing.
2. Pray for the doctor. Realize that God uses trained human
instrumentality to aid His healing powers. As one doctor has
put it, "We treat the patient and God heals him." Pray,
therefore, that the doctor may be an open channel of God's
healing grace.
3. Whatever you do, do not become panicky or filled with
fear, for if you do, you will send out negative thoughts and
therefore destructive thoughts in the direction of your loved
one when he requires positive and healing thoughts to assist
him.
4. Remember that God does nothing except by law. Also
remember that our little materialistic laws are only
fragmentary revelations of the great power flowing through
the universe.
Spiritual law also governs illness. God has arranged two
remedies for all illness. One is healing through natural laws
applicable by science, and the other brings healing by
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spiritual law applicable through faith.
5. Completely surrender your loved one into the hands of
God. By your faith you can place him in the flow of Divine
power. There is healing there, but in order for it to be
effective the patient must be completely released to the
operation of God's will. This is difficult to understand and
equally difficult to perform, but it is a fact that if the great
desire for the loved one to live is matched with an equally
great willingness to relinquish him to God, healing powers
are amazingly set in motion.
6. It is also important that harmony prevail in the family, that
is, a spiritual harmony. Remember the emphasis in the
scripture, Matthew 18:19: "If two of you shall agree on earth
as touching anything that they shall ask, it shall be done for
them of my Father which is in heaven." Apparently
disharmony and disease are akin.
7. Form a picture in your mind of the loved one as being
well. Visualize him in perfect health. Picture him as radiant
with the love and goodness of God. The conscious mind may
suggest sickness, even death, but nine tenths of your mind is
in the subconscious. Let the picture of health sink into the
subconscious and this powerful part of your mind will send
forth radiant health energy. What we believe in the
subconscious we usually get. Unless your faith controls the
subconscious, you will never get any good thing, for the
subconscious gives back only that which you real thought is.
If the real thought is negative, the results will also be
negative. If the real thought is positive, you will get positive
and healing results.
8. Be perfectly natural. Ask God to heal your loved one. That
is what you want with all your heart, so ask Him please to do
it, but we suggest that you say PLEASE just once. Thereafter
in your prayer, thank Him for His goodness. This affirmative
faith will help to release deep spiritual power and also joy
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through reassurance of God's loving care. This joy will
sustain you, and remember that joy itself possesses healing
power.
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Chapter 12
When Vitality Sags, Try This Health Formula
A WOMAN, SO I have heard, went into a drugstore and
asked for a bottle of psychosomatic medicine.
Such medicine, of course, is not found on drugstore shelves
for it does not come in pills or bottles. But there is a
psychosomatic medicine just the same and many of us need
it. It is a prescription compounded of prayer, faith, and
dynamic spiritual thinking.
It has been variously computed that from 50 to 75 percent of
present-day people are ill because of the influence of
improper mental states on their emotional and physical
make-up. Therefore such a medicine is of great importance.
Many people who are below par will find that there is a
health formula which, in addition to the services of their
physicians, can be of great value to them.
The manner in which spiritual and emotional treatment can
restore declining vitality is illustrated by the sales manager
referred to us by the head of a large company. This sales
executive, formerly a man of outstanding efficiency and
energetic driving power, experienced a serious decline both
in ability and energy. He lost his creative skill. Previously his
sales ideas had been unique and outstanding. It soon become
noticeable to his associates that this sales manager was
slipping badly. He was urged to consult a doctor, and the
company sent him to Atlantic City for a rest and later to
Florida for a second attempt at recovery. Neither of these
vacations seemed to be productive of any definite
improvement.
His physician, who knew about our religio-psychiatric clinic,
recommended to the company president that this sales
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manager come to us for an interview. The president asked
him to come, which he did, but he was rather indignant at
being sent to a church.
"This is a pretty pass," he fumed, "when they send a
businessman to a preacher. I suppose you are going to pray
with me and read the Bible," he said irritably.
"I wouldn't be surprised," I answered, "for sometimes our
trouble lies in an area where prayer and the therapy of the
Bible can have an important effect."
He proved most sullen and unco-operative until finally I was
forced to say to him, "I want to tell you bluntly that you had
better co-operate with us or you're going to be fired."
"Who told you that?" he demanded.
"Your boss," I replied. "In fact, he says that unless we can
straighten you out, as much as he regrets it, you are going to
be through."
You never saw such a stunned expression on anybody's face.
"What do you think I ought to do?" he stammered.
"Often," I replied, "a person gets into the state in which you
find yourself because the mind is filled with fear, anxiety,
tension, resentment, guilt, or a combination of all of them.
When these emotional impediments accumulate to a certain
weight, the personality cannot support them any longer and
gives way. Normal sources of emotional, spiritual, and
intellectual power become clogged up. So a person becomes
bogged down by resentment, by fear, or by guilt. I do not
know your trouble, but I would suggest that you think of me
as a sympathetic friend with whom you can be absolutely
confident, and that you tell me about yourself." I emphasized
that it was important he conceal nothing and that he
completely empty himself of whatever fears, resentments, or
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guilt feelings might be in his mind. "I assure you that our
interview will be held in strictest confidence. All your
company wants is to have you back, the same highly
efficient person you were."
In due course the trouble came out. He had committed a
series of sins and these had involved him in a complicated
maze of lies. He was living in fear of exposure, and all in all
it was a most pathetic mass of inner confusion. It came little
short of mental filth.
It was rather difficult to get him to talk, for he was
essentially a decent person and had a strong sense of shame.
I told him that I understood his reticence, but that this
operation had to be performed and that it could not be
accomplished without a thorough mind-emptying.
When it was all over, I shall never forget the manner in
which he reacted. Standing on his feet he began to stretch.
He stood on tiptoes, reaching his fingers toward the ceiling,
and then took a deep breath. "My," he said, "I feel good." It
was a dramatic expression of release and relief. Then I
suggested that he pray and ask God to forgive him and to fill
him with peace and cleanness.
"Do you mean for me to pray aloud?" he asked dubiously. "I
never did that in my life."
"Yes," I said, "it is a good practice and will strengthen you."
It was a simple prayer, and as best as I can recall it, this is
what he said, "Dear Lord, I have been an unclean man and I
am sorry for the wrong I have done. I have poured it all out
to my friend here. I now ask You to forgive me and to fill me
with peace. Also make me strong so that I will never repeat
these actions. Help me to be clean again and better — lots
better."
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He went back to his office that very day. Nothing was ever
said to him, and it did not need to be, for soon he got back
into stride and is one of the best sales managers in his city
today.
Later I met his president, who said, "I don't know what you
did to Bill, but he is certainly a ball of fire."
"I did nothing. God did it," I replied.
"Yes," he said, "I understand. Anyway, he is the old-time
Bill."
When this man's vitality sagged, he tried a health formula
that restored him to normal efficiency. He "took" some
psychosomatic medicine which cured him of an unhealthy
spiritual and mental condition.
Dr. Franklin Ebaugh of the University of Colorado Medical
School maintains that one third of all cases of illness in
general hospitals are clearly organic in nature and onset, one
third are a combination of emotional and organic, and one
third are clearly emotional.
Dr. Flanders Dunbar, author of Mind and Body, says, "It is
not a question of whether an illness is physical or emotional,
but how much of each."
Every thoughtful person who has ever considered the matter
realizes that the doctors are right when they tell us that
resentment, hate, grudge, ill will, jealousy, vindictiveness,
are attitudes which produce ill-health. Have a fit of anger and
experience for yourself that sinking feeling in the pit of your
stomach, that sense of stomach sickness. Chemical reactions
in the body are set up by emotional outbursts that result in
feelings of ill-health. Should these be continued either
violently or in a simmering state over a period of time, the
general condition of the body will deteriorate.
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In speaking of a certain man whom we both knew a
physician told me that the patient died of "grudgitis." The
physician actually felt that the deceased passed away because
of a long-held hatred. "He did his body such damage that his
resistance was lowered," the doctor explained, "so that when
a physical malady attacked him he did not possess the
stamina or renewing force to overcome it. He had
undermined himself physically by the malignancy of his ill
will."
Dr. Charles Miner Cooper, San Francisco physician, in an
article entitled, "Heart-to-Heart Advice About Heart
Trouble," says, "You must curb your emotional reactions.
When I tell you that I have known a patient's blood pressure
to jump sixty points almost instantaneously in response to an
outburst of anger, you can understand what strain such
reactions can throw upon the heart." One who is "quick on
the trigger," he wrote, is likely to blame someone else,
impulsively, for a fault or mistake, when it would be wiser
simply to avoid being so much disturbed by what is done and
is therefore unavoidable. He quoted the great Scottish
surgeon, John Hunter. Dr. Hunter had a heart condition
himself, and a thorough understanding of the effect of strong
emotion on his heart. He said that his life was at the mercy of
anyone who could annoy him. And, in fact, his death resulted
from a heart attack caused by a fit of anger when he forgot to
discipline himself.
Dr. Cooper concludes, "Whenever a business problem starts
to vex you or you begin to get angry, let yourself go limp all
over. This will dissipate your mounting inner turmoil. Your
heart asks that it be permanently housed in a lean, cheerful,
placid man who will intelligently curb his physical, mental,
and emotional activities."
So if you are under par I suggest that you do a very
scrupulous job of self-analysis. Honestly ask yourself if you
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are harboring any ill will or resentment or grudges, and if so
cast them out. Get rid of them without delay. They do not
hurt anybody else. They do no harm to the person against
whom you hold these feelings, but every day and every night
of your life they are eating at you. Many people suffer poor
health not because of what they eat but from what is eating
them. Emotional ills turn in upon yourself, sapping your
energy, reducing your efficiency, causing deterioration in
your health. And of course they siphon off your happiness.
So we realize today the effect of thnt. We know he can develop various kinds of
physiological symptoms because of a sense of guilt. Also one
may show definite physical symptoms as a result of fear and
anxiety. We know that healing has been accomplished when
the thoughts are changed.
Recently a diagnostician told me of a young woman who was
admitted to the hospital with a temperature of one hundred
and two degrees. She had a definite case of rheumatoid
arthritis; her joints were badly swollen.
In order to study the case thoroughly the doctor gave her no
medication except a slight sedative to relieve the pain. After
two days the young woman asked the doctor, "How long will
I be in this condition, and how long must I remain in the
hospital?"
"I think I must tell you," replied the physician, "that you will
probably be in the hospital for about six months."
"You mean it will be six months before I can get married?"
she demanded.
"I am sorry," he said, "but I cannot promise you anything
better than that."
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This conversation took place in the evening. The next
morning the patient's temperature was normal and the
swelling was gone from her joints. Unable to account for the
change, the doctor observed her for a few days, then sent her
home.
In a month she was back in the hospital in the same condition
as before: temperature one hundred and two, joints swollen.
Counseling disclosed that her father insisted that she marry a
certain man who would be an asset to him in his business
connections. The girl loved her father, wanted to do as he
wished, but did not want to marry a man whom she did not
love. So her subconscious mind came to her assistance and in
effect gave her rheumatoid arthritis and a temperature.
The doctor explained to the father that if he forced this
marriage his daughter could become an invalid. When told
that she need not go through with the marriage, the girl's
recovery was quick and permanent.
Do not get the idea that if you have arthritis you are married
to the wrong person! This incident merely illustrates the
profound effect of mental pain on physical conditions.
I was interested to read a statement by a psychologist that
infants can "catch" fear and hatred from people around them
more quickly than they can catch measles or other infectious
diseases. The virus of fear may burrow deeply into their
subconsciousness and remain there for a lifetime. "But," adds
the psychologist, "fortunately infants can also catch love and
goodness and faith and so grow up to become normal,
healthy children and adults."
In an article in the Ladies' Home Journal, Constance J.
Foster quotes Dr. Edward Weiss of Temple University
Medical School in a speech to the American College of
Physicians in which Dr. Weiss stated that chronic victims of
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pains and aches in the muscles and joints may be suffering
from nursing a smoldering grudge against someone close to
them. He added that such persons usually are totally unaware
that they bear a chronic resentment.
"To clear up any possible misunderstanding," the author
continues, "it is necessary to state emphatically that emotions
and feelings are quite as real as germs and no less
respectable. The resultant pain and suffering of diseases
caused primarily by the emotions are no more imaginary
than those caused by bacteria. In no case is the patient
consciously to blame for developing the disease. Such
persons are not suffering from any disease of the mind, but
rather from a disorder of their feelings, often linked to a
marital or parent-child problem."
In this same magazine article the story is told of a certain
Mrs. X who came to the doctor's office complaining of a
breaking out on her hands which was diagnosed as eczema.
The doctor encouraged Mrs. X to talk about herself. It
developed that she was a very rigid person. Her lips were
thin and unyielding. She was also rheumatoid. The doctor
sent Mrs. X to a psychiatrist who saw at once that there was
some irritating situation in her life which she was translating
outwardly in the form of a skin rash, thus taking out on her
own person the urge to scratch some thing or person.
The doctor finally put it to her bluntly. "What is eating you?"
he asked. "You're peeved at something, aren't you?"
"She stiffened up like a ramrod and marched right out of the
office, so I knew I'd hit the target too closely for comfort. A
few days later she came back. Due to the agony of the
eczema, she was ready to let me help her even if it meant she
had to give up a hate.
"It turned out to be a family row over a will with Mrs. X
feeling she had been treated unfairly by a younger brother.
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When she got rid of the hostility, she got well, and when she
made up the quarrel with her brother, within twenty-four
hours the eczema vanished."
That there is even a relationship between emotional
disturbance and the common cold is indicated by Dr. L. J.
Saul of the University of Pennsylvania Medical School, who
has made a study of this subject.
"Emotional disturbances are believed to affect the blood
circulation in the linings of the nose and throat. They also
affect glandular secretions. These factors make the mucous
membranes more susceptible to attack by cold viruses or
germ infection."
Dr. Edmund P. Fowler, Jr., of Columbia University's College
of Physicians and Surgeons, stated, "There are colds which
develop in medical students at the time of their examinations
and colds which develop in many persons before or after a
trip. Colds develop in housewives when they must care for a
large family. And one often sees a cold develop in a patient
when his mother-in-law comes to live in the house, and it
often disappears when she leaves." (Dr. Fowler does not
specify the effects on the mother-in-law of a daughter-in-law
or son-in-law. Perhaps she has a cold also.)
One of the cases Dr. Fowler reports concerned a twenty-five-
year-old salesgirl. When she visited his office her nose was
stuffy, the lining was red and congested, and she suffered
from a headache and a mild temperature. These symptoms
had persisted for nearly two weeks. Questioning disclosed
that they had started a few hours after a violent quarrel with
her fiance.
Focal treatments cleared up the cold but the young woman
was back in a few weeks with another attack. This time the
trouble had started after an argument with the butcher. Again
local treatments brought relief. But the girl continued to have
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recurring colds, and each time they were traced to a fit of
anger. Finally Dr. Fowler was able to persuade the girl that
her bad temper was at the root of her chronic cold symptoms.
When she learned to lead a calmer existence, her sneezes and
sniffles disappeared.
And yet people still think that when the Bible tells you not to
hate or to get angry that it is "theoretical advice." The Bible
is not theoretical. It is our greatest book of wisdom. It is
filled with practical advice on living and on health. Anger,
resentment, and guilt make you sick, modern physicians tell
us, which proves once again that the most up-to-date book on
personal well-being is the Holy Bible, neglected by so many
or regarded by them as purely a religious book and certainly
as one that is not practical. No wonder more copies are read
than all other books. That is because in this book we discover
not only what is wrong with us but how to correct it as well.
Dr. Fowler calls attention to the "emotional colds" suffered
by children who feel insecure. He reports that many cases of
chronic colds occur in children who come from broken
homes. An older child often has recurring respiratory
infection when a new baby is born because he feels neglected
and jealous. A nine-year-old boy had an extremely dictatorial
father and an indulgent mother. The conflict between the
strictness of one parent and the lenience of the other
obviously was disturbing to the child. He particularly feared
punishment by his father. This boy suffered for several years
from continuous coughs and sniffles. It was noted that the
colds disappeared when he went to camp — away from his
parents.
Since irritation, anger, hate, and resentment have such a
powerful effect in producing ill-health, what is the antidote?
Obviously it is to fill the mind with attitudes of good will,
forgiveness, faith, love, and the spirit of imperturbability.
And how is that accomplished? Following are some practical
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suggestions. They have been used successfully by many in
counterattacking especially the emotion of anger. A
consistent application of these suggestions can produce
feelings of well-being:
1. Remember that anger is an emotion, and an emotion is
always warm, even hot. Therefore to reduce an emotion, cool
it. And how do you cool it? When a person gets angry, the
fists tend to clench, the voice rises in stridency, muscles
tense, the body becomes rigid. (Psychologically you are
poised for fight, adrenaline shoots through the body.) This is
the old caveman hangover in the nervous system. So
deliberately oppose the heat of this emotion with coolness —
freeze it out. Deliberately, by an act of will, keep your hands
from clenching. Hold your fingers out straight. Deliberately
reduce your tone; bring it down to a whisper. Remember that
it is difficult to argue in a whisper. Slump in a chair, or even
lie down if possible. It is very difficult to get mad lying
down.
2. Say aloud to yourself, "Don't be a fool. This won't get me
anywhere, so skip it." At that moment it may be a bit hard to
pray, but try it anyway; at least conjure up a picture of Jesus
Christ in your mind and try to think of Him mad just as you
are. You can't do it, and the effort will serve to puncture your
angry emotions.
3. One of the best techniques for cooling off anger was
suggested by Mrs. Grace Oursler. She formerly employed the
usual "count to ten" technique but happened to notice that the
first ten words of the Lord's Prayer worked better. "Our
Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be Thy name." When
angry, say that ten times and your anger will lose its power
over you.
4. Anger is a great term expressing the accumulated
vehemence of a multitude of minor irritations. These
irritations, each rather small in itself, having gathered force
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by reason of the one being added to the other, finally blaze
forth in a fury that often leaves us abashed at ourselves.
Therefore, make a list of everything that irritates you. No
matter how inconsequential it may be or how silly each is,
list it just the same. The purpose in doing this is to dry up the
tiny rivulets that feed the great river of anger.
5. Make each separate irritation a special object of prayer.
Get a victory over each, one at a time. Instead of attempting
to destroy all of your anger, which as we have pointed out is
a consolidated force, snip away by prayer each annoyance
that feeds your anger. In this way you will weaken your
anger to the point where presently you will gain control over
it.
6. Train yourself so that every time you feel the surge of
anger you say, "Is this really worth what it is doing to me
emotionally? I will make a fool of myself. I will lose
friends." In order to get the full effect of this technique,
practice saying to yourself a few times every day, "It is never
worth it to get worked up or mad about anything." Also
affirm: "It isn't worth it to spend $1000 worth of emotion on
a five-cent irritation."
7. When a hurt-feeling situation arises, get it straightened out
as quickly as possible. Don't brood over it for a minute
longer than you can help. Do something about it. Do not
allow yourself to sulk or indulge in self-pity. Don't mope
around with resentful thoughts. The minute your feelings are
hurt, do just as when you hurt your finger. Immediately
apply the cure. Unless you do so the situation can become
distorted out of all proportion. So put some spiritual iodine
on the hurt at once by saying a prayer of love and
forgiveness.
8. Apply grievance drainage to your mind. That is, open your
mind and let the grievance flow out. Go to someone you trust
and pour it out to him until not a vestige of it remains within
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you. Then forget it.
9. Simply start praying for the person who has hurt your
feelings. Continue this until you feel the malice fading away.
Sometimes you may have to pray for quite a while to get that
result. A man who tried this method told me that he kept
account of the number of times he needed to pray until the
grievance left and peace came. It was exactly sixty-four
times. He literally prayed it out of his system. This is
positively guaranteed to work.
10. Say this little prayer: "May the love of Christ fill my
heart." Then add this line: "May the love of Christ for
— (insert the other's name) flood my soul." Pray this, mean it
(or ask to mean it), and you will get relief.
11. Actually take the advice of Jesus to forgive seventy times
seven. To be literal, that means four hundred ninety times.
Before you have forgiven a person that many times you will
be free of resentment.
12. Finally, this "wild, undisciplined, primitive urge in you
which flames to the surface can be tamed only by allowing
Jesus Christ to take control. Therefore, complete this lesson
by saying to Jesus Christ, "Even as You can convert a
person's morals, so now I ask You to convert my nerves. As
You give power over the sins of the flesh, so give me power
over the sins of the disposition. Bring my temper under Your
control. Give me Thy healing peace in my nervous system as
well as in my soul." If you are beset by temper, repeat the
above prayer three times every day. It might be advisable to
print it on a card and put it on your desk, or above the
kitchen sink, or in your pocketbook.
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Chapter 13
Inflow of New Thoughts Can Remake You
ONE OF THE most important and powerful facts about you
is expressed in the following statement by William James,
who was one of the wisest men America has produced.
William James said, "The greatest discovery of my
generation is that human beings can alter their lives by
altering their attitudes of mind." As you think, so shall you
be. So flush out all old, tired, worn-out thoughts. Fill your
mind with fresh, new creative thoughts of faith, love, and
goodness. By this process you can actually remake your life.
And where do you find such personality remaking thoughts?
I know a business executive, a modest man, but the type of
individual who is never defeated. No problem, no setback, no
opposition ever gets him down. He simply attacks each
difficulty with an optimistic attitude and a sure confidence
that it will work out right, and, in some strange way, it
always does for him. He seems to have a magic touch on
life — a touch that never fails.
Because of that impressive characteristic this man always
interested me. I knew there was a definite explanation of his
being this way and of course wanted to hear his story, but in
view of his modesty and reticence it was not easy to
persuade him to talk about himself.
One day when he was in the mood he told me his secret, an
amazingly simple but effective secret. I was visiting his
plant, a modern, up-to-date structure, much of it air-
conditioned. Latest-type machinery and methods of
production make it a factory of outstanding efficiency.
Labor-management relations seem as nearly perfect as is
possible among imperfect human beings. A spirit of good
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will pervades the entire organization.
His office is ultra-modemistically decorated and furnished
with handsome desks, rugs, and paneled with exotic woods.
The decorating scheme is five startling colors blended
together pleasantly. All in all it is the last word, and then
some.
Imagine, then, my surprise to see on his highly polished
white mahogany desk an old battered copy of the Bible. It
was the only old object in those ultra- modem rooms. I
commented upon this seemingly strange inconsistency.
"That book," he replied, pointing to the Bible, "is the most
up-to-date thing in this plant. Equipment wears out and
furnishing styles change, but that book is so far ahead of us
that it never gets out of date.
"When I went to college, my good Christian mother gave me
that Bible with the suggestion that if I would read and
practice its teachings, I would leam how to get through life
successfully. But I thought she was just a nice old lady" — he
chuckled — "at my age she seemed old — she wasn't really,
and to humor her, I took the Bible, but for years practically
never looked at it. I thought I didn't need it. Well," he
continued slangily, "I was a dope. I was stupid. And I got my
life in a terrible mess.
"Everything went wrong primarily because I was wrong. I
was thinking wrong, acting wrong, doing wrong. I succeeded
at nothing, failed at everything. Now I realize that my
principal trouble was wrong thinking. I was negative,
resentful, cocky, opinionated. Nobody could tell me
anything. I thought I knew everything. I was filled with
gripes at everybody. Little wonder nobody liked me. I
certainly was a 'washout.' "
So ran his dismal story. "One night in going through some
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papers," he continued, "I came across the long-forgotten
Bible. It brought up old memories and I started aimlessly to
read it. Do you know it is strange how things happen; how in
just a flashing moment of time everything becomes different.
Well, as I read, a sentence leaped up at me, a sentence that
changed my life — and when I say changed, I mean changed.
From the minute I read that sentence everything has been
different, tremendously different."
"What is this wonderful sentence?" I wanted to know, and he
quoted it slowly, '"The Lord is the strength of my life. ..in this
will I be confident.' (Psalm 27:1, 3)
"I don't know why that one line affected me so," he went on,
"but it did. I know now that I was weak and a failure because
I had no faith, no confidence. I was very negative, a
defeatist. Something happened inside my mind. I guess I had
what they call a spiritual experience. My thought pattern
shifted from negative to positive. I decided to put my faith in
God and sincerely do my best, trying to follow the principles
outlined in the Bible. As I did so I began to get hold of a new
set of thoughts. I began to think differently. In time my old
failure thoughts were flushed out by this new spiritual
experience and an inflow of new thoughts gradually but
actually remade me."
So concluded the story of this businessman. He altered his
thinking, and the new thoughts which flowed in displaced the
old thoughts which had been defeating him and his life was
changed.
This incident illustrates an important fact about human
nature: you can think your way to failure and unhappiness,
but you can also think your way to success and happiness.
The world in which you live is not primarily determined by
outward conditions and circumstances but by thoughts that
habitually occupy your mind. Remember the wise words of
Marcus Aurelius, one of the great thinkers of antiquity, who
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said, "A man's life is what his thoughts make of it."
It has been said that the wisest man who ever lived in
America was Ralph Waldo Emerson, the Sage of Concord.
Emerson declared, "A man is what he thinks about all day
long."
A famous psychologist says, "There is a deep tendency in
human nature to become precisely like that which you
habitually imagine yourself to be."
It has been said that thoughts are things, that they actually
possess dynamic power. Judged by the power they exercise
one can readily accept such an appraisal. You can actually
think yourself into or out of situations. You can make
yourself ill with your thoughts and by the same token you
can make yourself well by the use of a different and healing
type of thought. Think one way and you attract the
conditions which that type of thinking indicates. Think
another way and you can create an entirely different set of
conditions. Conditions are created by thoughts far more
powerfully than conditions create thoughts.
Think positively, for example, and you set in motion positive
forces which bring positive results to pass. Positive thoughts
create around yourself an atmosphere propitious to the
development of positive outcomes. On the contrary, think
negative thoughts and you create around yourself an
atmosphere propitious to the development of negative
results.
To change your circumstances, first start thinking differently.
Do not passively accept unsatisfactory circumstances, but
form a picture in your mind of circumstances as they should
be. Hold that picture, develop it firmly in all details, believe
in it, pray about it, work at it, and you can actualize it
according to that mental image emphasized in your positive
thinking.
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This is one of the greatest laws in the universe. Fervently do
I wish I had discovered it as a very young man. It dawned
upon me much later in life and I have found it to be one of
the greatest if not my greatest discovery, outside of my
relationship to God. And in a deep sense this law is a factor
in one's relationship with God because it channels God's
power into personality.
This great law briefly and simply stated is that if you think in
negative terms you will get negative results. If you think in
positive terms you will achieve positive results. That is the
simple fact which is at the basis of an astonishing law of
prosperity and success. In three words: Believe and succeed.
I learned this law in a very interesting manner. Some years
ago a group of us consisting of Lowell Thomas, Captain
Eddie Rickenbacker, Branch Rickey, Raymond Thornburg,
and others established an inspirational self-help magazine
called Guicleposts. This magazine has a double function:
first, by relating stories of people who through their faith
have overcome difficulties, it teaches techniques of
victorious living, victory over fear, over circumstances, over
obstacles, over resentment. It teaches faith over all manner of
negativism.
Second, as a non-profit, non-sectarian, inter-faith publication
it teaches the great fact that God is in the stream of history
and that this nation was founded on belief in God and His
laws.
The magazine reminds its readers that America is the first
great nation in history to be established on a definitely
religious premise and that unless we keep it so our freedoms
will deteriorate.
Mr. Raymond Thornburg as publisher and I as editor in
starting the magazine had no financial backing to underwrite
it. It was begun on faith. In fact, its first offices were in
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rooms above a grocery store in the little village of Pawling,
New York. There was a borrowed typewriter, a few rickety
chairs, and that was all; all except a great idea and great
faith. Slowly a subscription list of 25,000 developed. The
future seemed promising. Suddenly one night fire broke out,
and within an hour the publishing house was destroyed and
with it the total list of subscribers. Foolishly no duplicate list
had been made.
Lowell Thomas, loyal and efficient patron of Guideposts
from the very start, mentioned this sad circumstance on his
radio broadcast and as a result we soon had 30,000
subscribers, practically all the old ones and many new ones.
The subscription list rose to approximately 40,000, but costs
increased even more rapidly. The magazine, which has
always been sold for less than cost in order widely to
disseminate the message, was more expensive than
anticipated and we were faced with difficult financial
problems. In fact, at one time it seemed almost impossible to
keep it going.
At this juncture we called a meeting, and I'm sure you never
attended a more pessimistic, negative, discouraging meeting.
It dripped with pessimism. Where were we going to get the
money to pay our bills? We figured out ways of robbing
Peter to pay Paul. Complete discouragement filled our
minds.
A woman had been invited to this meeting whom we all
regarded most highly. But one reason she was included in
this meeting was because, on a previous occasion, she had
contributed $2,000 to help inaugurate Guideposts magazine.
It was hoped that lightning might strike twice in the same
place. But this time she gave us something of more value
than money.
As this dismal meeting progressed she remained silent for a
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long time, but finally said, "I suppose you gentlemen would
like me to make another financial contribution. I might as
well put you out of your misery. I am not going to give you
another cent."
This did not put us out of our misery. On the contrary, it put
us deeper into our misery. "But," she continued, "I will give
you something far more valuable than money."
This astonished us, for we could not possibly imagine
anything of more value than money in the circumstances.
"I am going to give you an idea," she continued, "a creative
idea."
"Well," we thought to ourselves unenthusiastically, "how can
we pay our bills with an idea?"
Ah, but an idea is just what will help you pay bills. Every
achievement in this world was first projected as a creative
idea. First the idea, then faith in it, then the means of
implementing the idea. That is the way success proceeds.
"Now," she said, "here is the idea. What is your present
trouble? It is that you lack everything. You lack money. You
lack subscribers. You lack equipment. You lack ideas. You
lack courage. Why do you lack all these requirements?
Simply because you are thinking lack. If you think lack you
create the conditions that produce a state of lack. By this
constant mental emphasis upon what you lack you have
frustrated the creative forces that can give impetus to the
development of Guideposts. You have been working hard
from the standpoint of doing many things, but you have
failed to do the one all-important thing that will lend power
to all your other efforts: you have not employed positive
thinking. Instead, you have thought in terms of lack.
"To correct that situation — reverse the mental process and
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begin to think prosperity, achievement, success. This will
require practice but it can be done quickly if you will
demonstrate faith.
The process is to visualize; that is, to see Guideposts in terms
of successful achievement. Create a mental picture of
Guideposts as a great magazine, sweeping the country.
Visualize large numbers of subscribers, all eagerly reading
this inspirational material and profiting thereby. Create a
mental image of lives being changed by the philosophy of
achievement which Guideposts teaches monthly in its issues.
"Do not hold mental pictures of difficulties and failures, but
lift your mind above them and visualize powers and
achievements. When you elevate your thoughts into the area
of visualized attainment you look down on your problems
rather than from below up at them and thus you get a much
more encouraging view of them. Always come up over your
problems. Never approach a problem below.
"Now let me continue further," she said. "How many
subscribers do you need at the moment to keep going?"
We thought quickly and said, "100,000." We had 40,000.
"All right," she said confidently, "that is not hard. That is
easy. Visualize 100,000 people being creatively helped by
this magazine and you will have them. In fact, the minute
you can see them in your mind, you will have them."
She turned to me and said, "Norman, can you see 100,000
subscribers at this minute? Look out there, look ahead of
you. In your mind's eye can you see them?"
I wasn't convinced as yet, and I said rather doubtfully, "Well,
maybe so, but they seem pretty dim to me."
She was a little disappointed in me, I thought, as she asked,
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"Can't you imaginatively visualize 100,000 subscribers?"
I guess my imagination wasn't working very well because all
I could see was the insufficient but actual 40,000.
Then she turned to my old friend Raymond Thornburg who
has been blessed with a gloriously victorious personality, and
she said, calling him by his nickname, "Pinky, can you
visualize 100,000 subscribers?"
I rather doubted that Pinky would see them. He is a rubber
manufacturer who gives his time freely from his own
business to help advance this inspirational, non-profit
magazine, and you would not ordinarily think that a rubber
manufacturer would respond to this type of thinking. But he
has the faculty of creative imagination. I noticed by the
fascinated look on his face that she had him. He was gazing
straight ahead with rather a look of wonder when she asked,
"Do you see the 100,000 subscribers?"
"Yes," he cried with eagerness, "yes, I do see them."
Electrified, I demanded, "Where? Point them out to me."
Then I, too, began to visualize them.
"Now," continued our friend, "let us bow our heads and
together thank God for giving us 100,000 subscribers."
Frankly I thought that was pushing the Lord rather hard, but
it was justified by a verse in the Scriptures where it says,
"And all things, whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing,
ye shall receive them." (Matthew 21:22) That means when
you pray for something, at the same time visualize what you
pray for. Believe that if it is God's will and is worthwhile, not
selfishly sought after, but for human good, that it is at that
moment given you.
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If you have difficulty in following this reasoning, let me tell
you that from that moment until the present writing
Guideposts never lacked for anything. It has found
wonderful friends and has had fine support. It has been able
always to meet its bills, purchase needed equipment, finance
itself, and as I write these words Guideposts is nearing the
half million mark and more subscriptions are coming in
regularly, sometimes as many as three or four thousand per
day.
I recite this instance not for the purpose of advertising
Guideposts, although I strongly recommend this magazine to
all my readers, and if you would like to be a subscriber, write
to Guideposts, Pawling, New York, for information. But I
tell the story because I was awed by this experience,
realizing that I had stumbled upon a law, a tremendous law
of personal victory. I decided to apply it thereafter to my
own problems and wherever I have done so can report a
marvelous result. Wherever I have failed to do so, I have
missed great results.
It is as simple as this — put your problem in God's hands. In
your thoughts rise above the problem so that you look down
upon it, not up at it. Test it according to God's will. That is,
do not try to get success from something that is wrong. Be
sure it is right morally, spiritually, and ethically. You can
never get a right result from an error. If your thinking is
wrong, it is wrong and not right and can never be right so
long as it is wrong. If it is wrong in the essence it is bound to
be wrong in the result.
Therefore be sure it is right, then hold it up in God's name
and visualize a great result. Keep the idea of prosperity, of
achievement, and of attainment firmly fixed in your mind.
Never entertain a failure thought. Should a negative thought
of defeat come into your mind, expel it by increasing the
positive affirmation. Affirm aloud, "God is now giving me
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success. He is now giving me attainment." The mental vision
which you create and firmly hold in consciousness will be
actualized if you continually affirm it in your thoughts and if
you work diligently and effectively. This creative process
simply stated is: visualize, prayerize, and finally actualize.
People in all walks of life who accomplish notable
achievements know the value of this law in their experience.
Henry J. Kaiser told me that at one time he was building a
levee along a riverbank, and there came a great storm and
flood which buried all his earth-moving machinery and
destroyed the work that had been done. Upon going out to
observe the damage after the water receded, he found his
workers standing around glumly looking at the mud and the
buried machinery.
He came among them and said with a smile, "Why are you
so glum?"
"Don't you see what has happened?" they asked. "Our
machinery is covered with mud."
"What mud?" he asked brightly.
"What mud!" they repeated in astonishment. "Look around
you. It is a sea of mud."
"Oh," he laughed, "I don't see any mud."
"But how can you say that?" they asked him.
"Because," said Mr. Kaiser, "I am looking up at a clear blue
sky, and there is no mud up there. There is only sunshine,
and I never saw any mud that could stand against sunshine.
Soon it will be dried up, and then you will be able to move
your machinery and start all over again."
How right he is. If your eyes are looking down in the mud
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and you feel a sense of failure, you will create defeat for
yourself. Optimistic visualization combined with prayer and
faith will inevitably actualize achievement.
Another friend of mine who started from the lowliest
beginnings has performed some outstanding achievements. I
remember him in his schooldays as an awkward,
unprepossessing, very shy country boy. But he had character
and one of the keenest brains I have ever encountered. Today
he is an outstanding man in his line. I asked him, "What is
the secret of your success?"
"The people who have worked with me across the years and
the unlimited opportunity given any boy in the United States
of America," he replied.
"Yes, I know that is true, but I am sure you must have some
personal technique, and I would be interested in having it," I
said.
"It all lies in how you think about problems," he replied. "I
attack a problem and shake it to pieces with my mind. I put
all the mental power I have upon it. Second, I pray about it
most sincerely. Third, I paint a mental picture of success.
Fourth, I always ask myself, 'What is the right thing to do?'
for," he said, "nothing will be right if it is wrong. Nothing
that is wrong will ever come out right. Fifth, I give it all I've
got. But let me emphasize again," he concluded, "if you're
thinking defeat, change your thoughts at once. Get new and
positive thoughts. That is primary and basic in overcoming
difficulties and in achieving."
At this very minute, as you read this book, potential ideas are
in your mind. By releasing and developing these ideas you
can solve your financial problem, your business situation,
you can care for yourself and your family, and attain success
in your ventures. A steady inflow and practical use of these
creative thoughts can remake your life and you along with it.
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There was a time when I acquiesced in the silly idea that
there is no relationship between faith and prosperity; that
when one talked about religion he should never relate it to
achievement, that it dealt only with ethics and morals or
social values. But now I reali z e that such a viewpoint limits
the power of God and the development of the individual.
Religion teaches that there is a tremendous power in the
universe and that this power can dwell in personality. It is a
power that can blast out all defeat and lift a person above all
difficult situations.
We have seen the demonstration of atomic energy. We know
that astonishing and enormous energy exists in the universe.
This same force of energy is resident in the human mind.
Nothing on earth is greater than the human mind in potential
power. The average individual is capable of much greater
achievement than he has ever realized.
This is true regardless of who is reading this statement.
When you actually learn to release yourself you will discover
that your mind contains ideas of such creative value that you
need not lack anything. By the full and proper use of your
power stimulated by God power, you can make your life
successful.
You can make just about anything of your life — anything
you will believe or will visualize, anything you will pray for
and work for. Look deeply into your mind. Amazing
wonders are there.
Whatever your situation may be, you can improve it. First,
quiet your mind so that inspirations may rise from its depths.
Believe that God is now helping you. Visualize achievement.
Organize your life on a spiritual basis so that God's
principles work within you. Hold firmly in your mind a
picture not of failure but of success. Do these things and
creative thoughts will flow freely from your mind. This is an
amazing law, one that can change anybody's life including
your own. An inflow of new thoughts can remake you
regardless of every difficulty you may now face, and I
repeat — every difficulty.
In the last analysis the basic reason a person fails to live a
creative and successful life is because of error within
himself. He thinks wrong. He needs to correct the error in his
thoughts. He needs to practice right thinking. When the 23rd
Psalm says, "He leadeth me in the paths of righteousness," it
not only means the paths of goodness, but the paths of right-
mindedness as well. When Isaiah says, "Let the wicked
forsake his way and the unrighteous man his
thoughts," (Isaiah 55:7) it not only means that a person is to
depart from evil and do good, but that he is to change his
thinking from wrong to right, from error to truth. The great
secret of successful living is to reduce the amount of error in
oneself and increase the amount of truth. An inflow of new,
right, health-laden thoughts through the mind creatively
affects the circumstances of life, for truth always produces
right procedures and therefore right results.
Years ago I knew a young man who for a while was one of
the most complete personality failures in my entire
experience. He had a delightful personality, but he failed at
everything. A person would employ him and be enthusiastic
about him, but soon his enthusiasm would cool and it was
not long until he was out of that position. This failure pattern
was repeated many times. He was a failure as a person as
well as an employee. He missed connections with
everything. He just couldn't do anything right, and he used to
ask me, "What is wrong with me that everything goes
wrong?"
Still he had a lot of conceit. He was cocky and smug, and
had the irritating habit of blaming everybody but himself.
Something was wrong with every office with which he was
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connected or every organization that employed him. He
blamed everybody else for his failures — never himself. He
would never look inside himself. It never occurred to him
that anything could be wrong with him.
One night, however, he wanted to talk with me, and as I had
to make a drive of about a hundred miles to deliver a speech
he drove there and back with me. On our return we stopped
along about midnight at a roadside stand for a hamburger and
a cup of coffee. I don't know what was in that hamburger
sandwich, but since this incident I have had a new respect for
hamburgers, for of a sudden he shouted, "I've got it! I've got
it!"
"You've got what?" I asked in astonishment.
"I've got the answer. Now I know what's the trouble with me.
It's that everything goes wrong with me because I myself am
wrong."
I clapped my hand on his back and said, "Boy, at last you are
on your way."
"Why, it's as clear as a crystal," he said. "I have been
thinking wrong, and as a result I have created wrong
outcomes."
By this time we were out in the moonlight standing alongside
my car, and I said to him, "Harry, you must go one step
further and ask God to make you right inwardly." I quoted
this passage from the Bible, '"Ye shall know the truth, and
the truth shall make you free.'" (John 8:32) Get the truth into
your mind and you will be free of your failures.
He became an enthusiastic practicing follower of Jesus
Christ. Through real faith and a complete change of thoughts
and personal habits, wrong thinking and wrong acting were
removed from his nature. He straightened out by developing
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a right (or righteousness) pattern instead of an error pattern.
When he was made right, then everything began to go right
for him.
Following are seven practical steps for changing your mental
attitudes from negative to positive, for releasing creative new
thoughts, and for shifting from error patterns to truth
patterns. Try them — keep on trying them. They will work.
1. For the next twenty-four hours, deliberately speak
hopefully about everything, about your job, about your
health, about your future. Go out of your way to talk
optimistically about everything. This will be difficult, for
possibly it is your habit to talk pessimistically. From this
negative habit you must restrain yourself even if it requires
an act of will.
2. After speaking hopefully for twenty-four hours, continue
the practice for one week, then you can be permitted to be
"realistic" for a day or two. You will discover that what you
meant by "realistic" a week ago was actually pessimistic, but
what you now mean by "realistic" is something, entirely
different; it is the dawning of the positive outlook. When
most people say they are being "realistic" they delude
themselves: they are simply being negative.
3. You must feed your mind even as you feed your body, and
to make your mind healthy you must feed it nourishing,
wholesome thoughts. Therefore, today start to shift your
mind from negative to positive thinking. Start at the
beginning of the New Testament and underscore every
sentence about Faith. Continue doing this until you have
marked every such passage in the four books, Matthew,
Mark, Luke, and John. Particularly note Mark 11, verses 22,
23, 24. They will serve as samples of the verses you are to
underscore and fix deeply in your consciousness.
4. Then commit the underscored passages to memory.
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Commit one each day until you can recite the entire list from
memory. This will take time, but remember you have
consumed much more time becoming a negative thinker than
this will require. Effort and time will be needed to unlearn
your negative pattern.
5. Make a list of your friends to determine who is the most
positive thinker among them and deliberately cultivate his
society. Do not abandon your negative friends, but get closer
to those with a positive point of view for a while, until you
have absorbed their spirit, then you can go back among your
negative friends and give them your newly acquired thought
pattern without taking on their negativism.
6. Avoid argument, but whenever a negative attitude is
expressed, counter with a positive and optimistic opinion.
7. Pray a great deal and always let your prayer take the form
of thanksgiving on the assumption that God is giving you
great and wonderful things; for if you think He is, He surely
is. God will not give you any greater blessing than you can
believe in. He wants to give you great things, but even He
cannot make you take anything greater than you are
equipped by faith to receive. "According to your faith (that
is, in proportion to) be it unto you." (Matthew 9:29)
The secret of a better and more successful life is to cast out
those old, dead, unhealthy thoughts. Substitute for them new,
vital, dynamic faith thoughts. You can depend upon it — an
inflow of new thought will remake you and your life.
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Chapter 14
Relax for Easy Power
"EVERY NIGHT IN these United States more than six
million sleeping tablets are required to put the American
people to sleep."
This startling statement was made to me several years ago by
a drug manufacturer at a convention of that industry where I
was giving a speech. Though his assertion seemed incredible,
I have been told by others who are in a position to know that
the above estimate is now an understatement.
In fact, I heard another good authority assert that the
American people are using about twelve million doses of
sleeping tablets per day. That is enough to put every twelfth
American to sleep tonight.
Statistics show that the use of sleeping tablets has risen 1000
percent in recent years. But a more recent statement is even
more startling. According to the vice-president of a large
drug manufacturing concern approximately seven billion
one-half-grain tablets are consumed yearly, which works out
at about nineteen million tablets per night.
What a pathetic situation. Sleep is a natural restorative
process. One would think that any person after a day's work
would be able to sleep peacefully, but apparently Americans
have even lost the art of sleeping. In fact, so keyed up are
they that I, a minister with ample opportunity to test the
matter, must report that the American people are so nervous
and high-strung that now it is almost next to impossible to
put them to sleep with a sermon. It has been years since I
have seen anyone sleep in church. And that is a sad situation.
A Washington official who loves to juggle figures, especially
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astronomical figures, told me that last year in the United
States there was a total of seven and a half billion headaches.
This works itself out at approximately fifty headaches per
head per annum. Have you had your quota yet this year? Just
how this official arrived at these figures he did not say, but
shortly after our conversation I noticed a report that in a
recent year the drug industry sold eleven million pounds of
aspirin. Perhaps this era might appropriately be termed "The
Aspirin Age," as one author has called it.
An authoritative source declares that every other hospital bed
in the United States is occupied by a patient who was put
there not because he encountered a germ or had an accident
or developed an organic malady, but because of his inability
to organize and discipline his emotions.
In a clinic five hundred patients were examined hand running
and 386, or 77 percent, were found to be ill of psychosomatic
difficulties — physical illness caused largely by unhealthy
mental states. Another clinic made a study of a large number
of ulcer cases and reported that nearly half were made ill, not
as the result of physical troubles, but because the patients
worried too much or hated too much, had too much guilt, or
were tension victims.
A doctor from still another clinic made the observation that
in his opinion medical men, despite all extraordinary
scientific developments, are now able to heal by the means
of science alone less than half the maladies brought them. He
declares that in many cases patients are sending back into
their bodies the diseased thoughts of their minds. Prominent
among these diseased thoughts are anxiety and tension.
This unhappy situation has become so serious that in our
own Marble Collegiate Church, Fifth Avenue at 29th Street,
New York City, we now have twelve psychiatrists on the
staff under the supervision of Dr. Smiley Blanton. Why
psychiatrists on the staff of a church? The answer is that
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psychiatry is a science. Its function is the analysis, diagnosis,
and treatment of human nature according to certain well-
authenticated laws and procedures.
Christianity may also be thought of as a science. It is a
philosophy, a system of theology, a system of metaphysics,
and a system of worship. It also works itself out in moral and
ethical codes. But Christianity also has the characteristics of
a science in that it is based upon a book which contains a
system of techniques and formulas designed for the
understanding and treatment of human nature. The laws are
so precise and have been so often demonstrated when proper
conditions of understanding, belief, and practice are applied
that religion may be said to form an exact science.
When a person comes to our clinic the first counselor is
perhaps a psychiatrist who in a kindly and careful manner
studies the problem and tells the patient "why he does what
he does." This is a most important fact to learn. Why, for
example, have you had an inferiority complex all your life
long, or why have you been haunted by fear, or, again, why
do you nurse resentment? Why have you always been shy
and reticent, or why do you do stupid things or make inept
statements? These phenomena of your human nature do not
just happen. There is a reason why you do what you do and it
is an important day in your life experience when at last you
discover the reason. Self-knowledge is the beginning of self-
correction.
Following the self-knowledge process the psychiatrist turns
the patient over to the pastor who tells him how to do what
he ought to do. The pastor applies to the case, in scientific
and systematic form, the therapies of prayer, faith, and love.
The psychiatrist and the minister pool their knowledge and
combine their therapies with the result that many people
have found new life and happiness. The minister does not
attempt to be a psychiatrist nor the psychiatrist a pastor. Each
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performs his own function but always in co-operation.
The Christianity utilized in this procedure is the undiluted
teachings of Jesus Christ, Lord and Savior of man's life. We
believe in the practical, absolute workability of the teachings
of Jesus. We believe that we can indeed "do all things
through Christ." (Philippians 4:13) The Gospel as we work
with it proves to be a literal fulfillment of the astonishing
promise, "Eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither have
entered into the heart of man, the things which God hath
prepared for them that love Him." (I Corinthians 2:9) Believe
(in Christ); believe in His system of thought and practice;
believe and you will overcome all fear, hate, inferiority,
guilt, and every form and manner of defeat. In other words,
no good thing is too good to be true. You have never seen,
never heard, never even imagined the things God will give to
those who love Him.
In the work of the clinic one frequent problem is that of
tension. This, to a very large degree, may be called the
prevailing malady of the American people. But not only the
American people seem to suffer from tension. The Royal
Bank of Canada some time ago devoted its monthly letter to
this problem under the title, "Let's Slow Down," and says in
part: "This monthly letter does not set itself up as a counselor
of mental and physical health, but it is attempting to break
down a problem that bedevils every adult person in Canada,"
and, I might add, in the United States as well.
The bank letter goes on to say: "We are victims of a
mounting tension; we have difficulty in relaxing. Our high-
strung nervous systems are on a perpetual binge. Caught up
as we are in the rush all day, every day, and far into the
night, we are not living fully. We must remember what
Carlyle called 'the calm supremacy of the spirit over its
circumstances.' "
When a prominent banking institution calls to the attention
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of its customers the fact that they are failing to derive from
life what they really want from it because they have become
victims of tension, it is certainly time something was done
about the situation.
In St. Petersburg, Florida, I actually saw a machine on the
street equipped with a sign, "What is your blood pressure?"
You could put a coin in a slot and get the bad news. When
you can buy a reading on blood pressure like you buy gum
out of a slot machine, it indicates that many people have this
problem.
One of the simplest methods for reducing tension is to
practice the easy-does-it attitude. Do everything more
slowly, less hectically, and without pressure. My friend
Branch Rickey, famous baseball man, told me that he would
not use a player no matter how well he hits, fields, or runs if
he is guilty of "overpressing." To be a successful big-league
baseball player there must be a flow of easy power through
every action and of course through the mind. The most
effective way to hit a ball is by the easy method, where all
the muscles are flexible and operating in correlated power.
Try to kill the ball and you will slice it or maybe miss it
altogether. This is true in golf, in baseball, in every sport.
From 1907 through 1919, except for one year, 1916, Ty
Cobb's batting average led the American League, a record so
far as I know that has never been surpassed. Ty Cobb
presented the bat with which he performed his extraordinary
feats to a friend of mine. I was permitted to take this bat in
my hand, which I did with considerable awe. In the spirit of
the game I struck a pose, as if to bat. Doubtless my batting
stance was not in any sense reminiscent of the immortal
slugger. In fact, my friend, who was himself at one time a
minor league baseball player, chuckled and said, "Ty Cobb
would never do it that way. You are too rigid, too tense. You
are obviously overtrying. You would probably strike out."
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It was beautiful to watch Ty Cobb. The man and the bat were
one. It was a study in rhythm, and one marveled at the ease
with which he got into the swing. He was a master of easy
power. It is the same in all success. Analyze people who are
really efficient and they always seem to do things easily,
with a minimum of effort. In so doing they release maximum
power.
One of my friends, a famous businessman who handles
important affairs and varied interests, always seems to be at
ease. He does everything efficiently and quickly but is never
in a dither. He never has that anxious, frazzled look on his
face which marks people who cannot handle either their time
or their work. I inquired the secret of his obviously easy
power.
He smiled and replied, "Oh, it isn't much of a secret. I just try
keep myself in tune with God. That's all. Every morning after
breakfast," he explained, "my wife and I go into the living
room for a period of quietness. One of us reads aloud some
inspirational piece to get us into the mood of meditation. It
maybe a poem or a few paragraphs of a book. Following that
we sit quietly, each praying or meditating according to his
own mood and manner, then together we affirm the thought
that God is filling us with strength and quiet energy. This is a
definite fifteen-minute ritual and we never miss it. We
couldn't get along without it. We would crack up. As a result
I always seem to feel that I have more energy than I need and
more power than is required." So said this efficient man who
demonstrates easy power.
I know a number of men and women who practice this or
similar techniques for reducing tension. It is becoming a
quite general and popular procedure nowadays.
One February morning I was rushing down the long veranda
of a Florida hotel with a handful of mail d work
on the basis of easy does it.
just in from my
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office in New York. I had come to Florida for a midwinter
vacation, but hadn't seemed to get out of the routine of
dealing with my mail the first thing in the morning. As I
hurried by, headed for a couple of hours' work with the mail,
a friend from Georgia who was sitting in a rocking chair with
his hat partially over his eyes stopped me in my headlong
rush and said in his slow and pleasant Southern drawl,
"Where are you rushing for, Doctor? That's no way to do
down here in the Florida sunshine. Come over here and 'set'
in one of these rocking chairs and help me practice one of the
greatest of the arts."
Mystified, I said, "Help you practice one of the greatest of
the arts ! "
"Yes," he replied, "an art that is passing out. Not many
people know how to do it anymore."
"Well," I asked, "please tell me what it is. I don't see you
practicing any art."
"Oh, yes, I am," he said. "I am practicing the art of just sittin'
in the sun. Sit here and let the sun fall on your face. It is
warmlike and it smells good. It makes you feel peaceful
inside. Did you ever think about the sun?" he asked. "It never
hurries, never gets excited, it just works slowly and makes no
noise — doesn't push any buzzers, doesn't answer any
telephones, doesn't ring any bells, just goes on a-shining, and
the sun does more work in the fraction of an instant than you
and I could ever do in a lifetime. Think of what it does. It
causes the flowers to bloom, keeps the trees growing, warms
the earth, causes the fruit and vegetables to grow and the
crops to ripen, lifts water to send back on the earth, and it
makes you feel 'peaceful like.'
"I find that when I sit in the sun and let the sun work on me it
puts some rays into me that give me energy; that is, when I
take time to sit in the sun.
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"So throw that mail over in the corner," he said, "and sit
down here with me."
I did so, and when finally I went to my room and got at my
mail I finished it in no time at all. And there was a good part
of the day left for vacation activities and for more "sittin 1 in
the sun."
Of course I know a lot of lazy people who have been sittin' in
the sun all their lives and never amounted to anything. There
is a difference between sittin' and relaxing, and just sittin'.
But if you sit and relax and think about God and get yourself
in tune with Him and open yourself to the flow of His power,
then sittin' is not laziness; in fact, it is about the best way to
renew power. It produces driving energy, the kind of energy
you drive, not the kind that drives you.
The secret is to keep the mind quiet, avoiding all hectic
reactions of haste, and to practice peaceful thinking. The
essence of the art is to keep the tempo down; to perform your
responsibilities on the basis of the most efficient
conservation of energy. It is advisable to adopt one or two
workable plans through the use of which you can become
expert in the practice of relaxed and easy power.
One of the best such plans was suggested to me by Captain
Eddie Rickenbacker. A very busy man, he manages to handle
his responsibilities in a manner indicating reserves of power.
I found one element of his secret quite by accident.
I was filming a program for television with him. We had
been assured that the work could be done quickly, leaving
him free to go to the many other matters on his daily agenda.
However, the filming was long delayed beyond the time
anticipated. I noted, however, that the Captain showed no
signs of agitation. He did not become nervous or anxious. He
did not pace up and down, putting in frantic calls to his
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office. Instead, he accepted the situation gracefully. There
were a couple of old rocking chairs at the studio, apparently
intended for use in a set other than ours. He sat in one rocker
in a very relaxed manner.
I have always been a great admirer of Eddie Rickenbacker
and I commented on his lack of tension. "I know how busy
you are," I said, "and I marvel at the way you sit quiet,
composed, and peaceful like."
For myself, I was a bit disturbed largely because I regretted
to take so much of Captain Rickenbacker's time. "How can
you be so imperturbable?" I asked.
He laughingly replied, "Oh, I just practice what you preach.
Come on, easy does it. Sit down here beside me."
I pulled up the other rocking chair and did a little relaxing on
my own. Then I said, "Eddie, I know you have some
technique to attain this impressive serenity. Tell me about it,
please."
He is a modest man, but because of my persistence he gave
me a formula which he says he uses frequently. I now use it
myself and it is very effective. It may be described as
follows:
First, collapse physically. Practice this several times a day.
Let go every muscle in the body. Conceive of yourself as a
jellyfish, getting your body into complete looseness. Form a
mental picture of a huge burlap bag of potatoes. Then
mentally cut the bag, allowing the potatoes to roll out. Think
of yourself as the bag.
What is more relaxed than an empty burlap bag?
The second element in the formula is to "drain the mind."
Several times each day drain the mind of all irritation, all
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resentment, disappointment, fmstration, and annoyance.
Unless you drain the mind frequently and regularly, these
unhappy thoughts will accumulate until a major blasting-out
process will be necessary. Keep the mind drained of all
factors which would impede the flow of relaxed power.
Third, think spiritually. To think spiritually means to turn the
mind at regular Intervals to God. At least three times a day
"lift up your eyes unto the hills." This keeps you in tune with
God's harmony. It refills you with peace.
This three-point program greatly impressed me, and I have
been practicing it for some months. It is an excellent method
for relaxing and living on the basis of easy does it.
From my friend Dr. Z. Taylor Bercovitz, of New York City,
I have learned much of the art of working relaxed. Often
when under pressure, with an office full of patients and
telephone calls coming in, he will suddenly stop, lean against
his desk, and talk to the Lord in a manner both natural and
respectful. I like the style of his prayer. He tells me that it
runs something like this: "Look, Lord, I am pushing myself
too hard. I am getting jittery. Here I am counseling people to
practice quietness, now I must practice it. Touch me with
your healing peace. Give me composure, quietness, strength,
and conserve my nervous energy so that I can help these
people who come to me."
He stands quietly for a minute or two. Then he thanks the
Lord and proceeds with full but easy power to do his work.
Often in making sick calls about the city he finds himself in a
traffic jam. He has a most interesting method of using these
potentially irritating delays as opportunities to relax. Shutting
off his engine, he slumps in his seat, putting his head back,
closing his eyes, and has even been known to go to sleep. He
says there is no reason to be concerned about going to sleep
because the strident honking of horns will awaken him when
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traffic begins to move.
These interludes of complete relaxation in the midst of traffic
last for only a minute or two, but they have energy-renewal
value. It is surprising how many minutes or fractions of
minutes during the day you can use to rest where you are. If
even in such fractional periods you deliberately draw on
God's power, you can maintain adequate relaxation. It isn't
length of relaxation time that produces power; it is the
quality of the experience.
I am told that Roger Babson, the famous statistician,
frequently goes into an empty church and sits quietly.
Perhaps he reads one or two hymns and in so doing finds rest
and renewal. Dale Carnegie, under tension, goes to a church
near his New York City office to spend a quarter-hour in
prayerful meditation. He says he leaves his office for this
purpose when busiest. This demonstrates control of time
rather than being controlled by it. It also indicates
watchfulness lest tension develop beyond a controllable
degree.
I encountered a friend on a train from Washington to New
York one night. This man is a member of Congress and he
explained that he was on his way to his district to speak at a
meeting of his constituents. The particular group he was
about to address was hostile to him, he said, and would
probably try to make things very difficult for him. Although
they represented a minority in his district, he was going to
face them just the same.
"They are American citizens and I am their representative.
They have a right to meet with me if they want to."
"You do not seem to be much worried about it," I
commented.
"No," he answered, "if I get worried about it, then I will be
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upset and will not handle the situation well."
"Do you have any particular method for handling such a
tense situation?" I asked.
"Oh, yes," he replied, "they will be a noisy crowd. But I have
my own way of meeting such situations without tension. I
will breathe deeply, talk quietly, speak sincerely, be friendly
and respectful, hold my temper, and trust in God to see me
through.
"I have learned one important fact," the Congressman
continued, "and that is in any situation be relaxed, keep calm,
take a friendly attitude, have faith, do your best. Do this, and
usually you can make things come out all right."
I have no doubt about the ability of this Congressman to live
and work without tension, and, what is more, successfully to
attain his objectives.
When we were doing some construction work at my farm in
Pawling, New York, I watched a workman swinging a
shovel. He was shoveling a pile of sand. It was a beautiful
sight. Stripped to the waist, his lean and muscular body
worked with precision and correlation. The shovel rose and
fell in perfect rhythm. He would push the shovel into the
pile, lean his body against it, and drive it deep into the sand.
Then, in a clear, free swing it came up and the sand was
deposited without a break in the motion. Again the shovel
went back into the sand, again his body leaned against it,
again the shovel lifted easily in a perfect arc. One almost had
a feeling that he could sing in rhythm to the motion of this
workman. Indeed the man did sing as he worked.
I was not surprised when the foreman told me that he is
considered one of his best workmen. The foreman also spoke
of him as good-humored, happy, and a pleasant person with
whom to work. Here was a relaxed man who lived with
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joyous power, master of the art of easy does it.
Relaxation results from re-creation, and the process of
recreation should be continuous. The human being is meant
to be attached to a continual flow of force that proceeds from
God through the individual and back to God for renewal.
When one lives in tune with this constantly re-creative
process he leams the indispensable quality to relax an
Now, how to master this skill. Here are ten rules for taking
the hard way out of your job. Try these proven methods for
working hard easily. They will help you to relax and have
easy power.
1. Don't get the idea that you are Atlas carrying the world on
your shoulders. Don't strain so hard. Don't take yourself so
seriously.
2. Determine to like your work. Then it will become a
pleasure, not drudgery. Perhaps you do not need to change
your job. Change yourself and your work will seem different.
3. Plan your work — work your plan. Lack of system
produces that "I'm swamped" feeling.
4. Don't try to do everything at once. That is why time is
spread out. Heed that wise advice from the Bible, "This one
thing I do."
5. Get a correct mental attitude, remembering that ease or
difficulty in your work depends upon how you think about it.
Think it's hard and you make it hard. Think it's easy and it
tends to become easy.
6. Become efficient in your work. "Knowledge is
power" (over your job). It is always easier to do a thing right.
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7. Practice being relaxed. Easy always does it. Don't press or
tug. Take it in your stride.
8. Discipline yourself not to put off until tomorrow what you
can do today. Accumulation of undone jobs makes your
work harder. Keep your work up to schedule.
9. Pray about your work. You will get relaxed efficiency by
so doing.
10. Take on the "unseen partner." It is surprising the load He
will take off you. God is as much at home in offices,
factories, stores, kitchens, as in churches. He knows more
about your job than you do. His help will make your work
easy.
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Chapter 15
How to Get People to Like You
WE MIGHT AS well admit it, we want people to like us.
You may hear someone say, "I don't care whether people like
me or not." But whenever you hear anyone say that, just put
it down as a fact that he is not really telling the truth.
The psychologist, William James, said, "One of the deepest
drives of human nature is the desire to be appreciated." The
longing to be liked, to be held in esteem, to be a sought-after
person, is fundamental in us.
A poll was taken among some high-school students on the
question, "What do you most desire?" By overwhelming
majority the students voted that they wanted to be popular.
The same urge is in older people as well. Indeed it is
doubtful if anybody ever outlives the desire to be well
thought of, to be highly regarded, or to have the affection of
his associates.
To be master of the art of popularity, be artless. Strive
deliberately after popularity and the chances are you will
never attain it. But become one of those rare personalities
about whom people say, "He certainly has something," and
you can be certain you are on the way to having people like
you.
I must warn you, however, that despite your attainments in
popularity you will never get everybody to like you. There is
a curious quirk in human nature whereby some people just
naturally won't like you. A quatrain inscribed on a wall at
Oxford says:
"I do not love thee, Dr. Fell,
The reason why I cannot tell;
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But this alone I know full well,
I do not love thee, Dr. Fell. "
That verse is very subtle. The author did not l ik e Dr. Fell. He
didn't know why but he just knew he didn't like him. It was
most likely an unreasonable dislike, for undoubtedly Dr. Fell
was a very nice person. Perhaps if the author had known him
better he would have liked him, but poor Dr. Fell never did
become popular with the author of those lines. It may have
been due simply to a lack of rapprochement, that baffling
mechanism by which we either do or do not "click" with
certain people.
Even the Bible recognizes this unhappy fact about human
nature, for it says, "If it be possible, as much as lieth in you,
live peaceably with all men." (Romans 12:18) The Bible is a
very realistic book and it knows people, their infinite
possibilities as well as their imperfections. The Bible advised
the disciples that if they went into a village and after trying
their best to get along with people still couldn't do so, they
were to shake off the very dust of the village from their
feet — "And whosoever will not receive you, when ye go out
of that city, shake off the very dust from your feet for a
testimony against them." (Luke 9:5) This is all by way of
saying that you will be wise if you do not let it too seriously
affect you if you do not achieve perfect popularity with
everyone.
However, there are certain formulas and procedures which, if
followed faithfully, can make you a person whom other
people like. You can enjoy satisfactory personal relationships
even if you are a "difficult" person or by nature shy and
retiring, even unsocial. You can make of yourself one who
enjoys easy, normal, natural, and pleasing relationships with
others.
I cannot urge you too strongly to consider the importance of
this subject and to give time and attention to its mastery, for
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you will never be fully happy or successful until you do.
Failure in this capacity will adversely affect you
psychologically. To be liked is of profounder importance
than mere ego satisfaction. As necessary as that is to your
success in life, normal and satisfactory personal relations are
even more important.
The feeling of not being wanted or needed is one of the most
devastating of all human reactions. To the degree to which
you are sought after or needed by other people will you
become a fully-released person. The "lone wolf," the isolated
personality, the retiring individual, these people suffer a
misery which is difficult to describe. In self-defense they
retire ever further within themselves. Their ingrowing,
introverted nature is denied the normal development which
the outgoing, self-giving person experiences. Unless the
personality is drawn out of itself and can be of value to
someone, it may sicken and die. The feeling of not being
wanted or needed produces frustration, aging, illness. If you
have a feeling of uselessness, if nobody needs or wants you,
you really ought to do something about it. It is not only a
pathetic way to live but is serious psychologically. Those
who deal with the problems of human nature constantly
encounter this problem and its unfortunate results.
For example, at a Rotary Club luncheon in a certain city two
physicians were at my table: one an elderly man who had
been retired for several years, the other the most popular
young doctor in town. The young doctor, looking frazzled,
dashed in late and slumped down with a weary sigh. "If only
the telephone would stop ringing," he complained. "I can't
get anywhere because people call me all the time. I wish I
could put a silencer on that telephone."
The old doctor spoke up quietly, "I know how you feel, Jim,"
he said. "I used to feel that way myself, but be thankful the
telephone does ring. Be glad people want and need you."
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Then he added pathetically, "Nobody ever calls me anymore.
I would like to hear the telephone ring again. Nobody wants
me and nobody needs me. I'm a has-been."
All of us at the table who sometimes feel a bit worn by
numerous activities did a lot of thinking as we listened to the
old doctor.
A middle-aged woman complained to me that she didn't feel
well. She was dissatisfied and unhappy. "My husband is
dead, the children are grown, and there is no place for me
anymore. People treat me kindly, but they are indifferent.
Everyone has his own interest and nobody needs me —
nobody wants me. I wonder, could that be a reason I do not
feel well?" she asked. Indeed that could very likely be an
important reason.
In a business office the founder of the firm just past seventy
was walking restlessly and aimlessly around. He talked with
me, while his son, present head of the business, whom I had
come to see, was on the telephone. The older man said
gloomily, "Why don't you write a book on how to retire?
That is what I need to know. I thought it was going to be
wonderful to give up the burdens of the job," he continued,
"but now I find that nobody is interested in anything I say. I
used to think I was a popular fellow, but now when I come
down here and sit around the office everyone says hello, then
they forget me. I might as well stay away altogether for all
they care. My son is running the business and he is doing a
good job of it, but," he concluded pathetically, "I'd like to
think they needed me a little bit."
These people are suffering one of the most pathetic and
unhappy experiences in this life. Their basic desire is to be
sought after and this desire is not being satisfied. They want
people to appreciate them. The personality longs for esteem.
But it isn't only in retirement that this situation develops.
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A girl of twenty-one told me that she had been unwanted
ever since birth. Someone had given her the notion she was
an unwanted child. This serious idea had sunk into her
subconscious, giving her a profound sense of inferiority and
self-depreciation. It made her shy and backward, causing her
to retreat into herself. She became lonely and unhappy and
was, in fact, an underdeveloped personality. The cure for her
condition was to revamp her life spiritually, especially her
thinking, which process in time made her a well-liked person
by setting her personality free of herself.
Countless other people, not particularly victims of deep,
unconscious psychological conflicts, have never mastered
the knack of being popular. They try hard enough. They even
go to extremes, often acting in a manner they do not really
enjoy, but which they employ only because of their intense
desire to have people like them. Everywhere today we see
people putting on an act because of their inordinate desire for
popularity in the superficial sense in which the word is often
used in modern society.
The fact is that popularity can be attained by a few simple,
natural, normal, and easily mastered techniques. Practice
them diligently and you can become a well-liked person.
First, become a comfortable person, that is, one with whom
people can associate without a sense of strain. Of some
persons it is said, "You can never quite get next to him."
There is always a barrier that you can't get over. A
comfortable person is easygoing and natural. He has a
pleasant, kindly, genial way about him. Being with him is
not unlike wearing an old hat or an old pair of shoes, or an
easy old coat. A stiff, reserved, unresponsive individual
never meshes into the group. He is always just a bit out of it.
You never quite know how to take him or how he will react.
You just aren't easy-like with him.
Some young people were talking about a seventeen-year-old
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boy whom they liked very much. Of him they said, "He is
good company. He is a good sport. He is easy to be with." It
is very important to cultivate the quality of being natural.
Usually that sort of individual is large-souled. Little people
who are much concerned about how you treat them, who are
jealous of their place or position, who meticulously stand on
their prerogatives, are stiff and easily offended.
A man who is an outstanding example of these truths is
James A. Parley, former Postmaster General of the United
States.
I met Mr. Parley for the first time a number of years ago.
Months later I met him in a large crowd of people and he
called me by name. Being human, I never forgot that, and it
is one reason I have always liked Mr. Parley.
An interesting incident illustrates the secret of this man who
is an expert in how to get people to like him. I was to speak
in Philadelphia at a book-and-author luncheon along with
Mr. Parley and two other authors. I did not actually witness
the scene I am about to describe, as I was late in arriving, but
my publisher did. The speakers at this luncheon were
walking along the hotel corridor together when they passed a
colored maid standing by a cart loaded with sheets, towels,
and other equipment with which she was servicing the
rooms. She was paying no attention to this group of people
as they turned aside to avoid her cart. Mr. Parley walked up
to her, put out his hand, and said, "Hello, there. How are
you? I'm Jim Parley. What's your name? Glad to see you."
My publisher looked back at her as the group passed down
the hall. The girl's mouth was wide with astonishment and
her face broke into a beautiful smile. It was an excellent
example of how an unegotistical, comfortable, outgoing
person is successful in personal relationships.
A university psychology department conducted an analysis
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of the personality traits by which people are liked or disliked.
One hundred traits were scientifically analyzed and it was
reported that one must have forty- six favorable traits in order
to be liked. It is rather discouraging to realize that you must
have so large a number of characteristics to be popular.
Christianity, however, teaches that one basic trait will go far
toward getting people to like you. That trait is a sincere and
forthright interest in and love for people. Perhaps if you
cultivate this basic trait, other traits will naturally develop.
If you are not the comfortable type of person, I suggest that
you make study of your personality with a view toward
eliminating conscious and unconscious elements of strain
which may exist. Do not assume that the reason other people
do not like you is because of something wrong with them.
Assume, instead, that the trouble is within yourself and
determine to find and eliminate it. This will require
scrupulous honesty and it may also involve the assistance of
personality experts. The so-called "scratchy" elements in
your personality may be qualities which you have taken on
through the years. Perhaps they have been assumed
defensively, or they may be the result of attitudes developed
in your younger days. Regardless of origin they can be
eliminated by a scientific study of yourself and by your
recognition of the necessity for change followed by a process
of personality rehabilitation.
A man came to our clinic at the church seeking help in the
problem of personal relationships. About thirty-five years of
age, he was the type of person whom you would certainly
look at twice if not three times. He was splendidly
proportioned and impressive. Superficially regarding him it
was surprising that people should not like him. But he
proceeded to outline an unhappy and continuous set of
circumstances and instances to illustrate his dismal failure in
human relations.
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"I do my best," he explained. "I have tried to put into practice
the rules I have been taught about getting along with people,
but get nowhere with the effort. People just don't like me and
what is more I am aware of it."
After talking with him it was not difficult to understand the
trouble. There was in his manner of speech a persistently
critical attitude thinly veiled but nonetheless apparent. He
had an unattractive manner of pursing his lips which
indicated a kind of primness or reproof for everybody, as if
he felt just a bit superior and disdainful toward other people.
In fact there was about him a noticeable attitude of
superiority. He was very rigid, with no flexibility of
personality.
"Isn't there some way to change myself so that people will
like me?" he demanded. "Isn't there some way I can stop
unconsciously rubbing people the wrong way?"
The young man was decidedly self-centered and egotistical.
The person he really liked was himself. Every statement,
every attitude was unconsciously measured in terms of how
it reacted on himself. We had to teach him to love other
people and to forget himself, which was of course a complete
reversal of his development. It was vital, however, to the
solution of his problem. I found that this young man was
irritable with people and he picked on them in his own mind,
though no outward conflicts with other persons developed.
Inwardly he was trying to make everybody over to suit
himself. Unconsciously people realized this, though perhaps
they did not define the trouble. Barriers were erected in their
minds toward him.
Since he was being unpleasant to people in his thoughts, it
followed that he was less than warm in his personal attitudes.
He was polite enough and managed not to be boorish and
unpleasant, but people unconsciously felt coolness in him, so
gave him the "brush-off" of which he complained. The
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reason they did so was because in his mind he had "brushed
them off." He liked himself too well, and to build up his self-
esteem he disliked others. He was suffering from self-love, a
chief cure for which is the practice of love for others.
He was bewildered and baffled when we outlined his
difficulty. But he was sincere and meant business. He
practiced the suggested techniques for developing love of
others in place of self-love. It required some fundamental
changes to accomplish this, but he succeeded in doing so.
One method suggested was that at night before retiring he
make a list of persons he had met during the day, as, for
example, the bus driver or the newsboy. He was to picture
mentally each person whose name appeared on the list, and
as he brought each face up before him he was to think a
kindly thought about that person. Then he was to pray for
each one. He was to pray around his little world. Each of us
has his own world, people with whom we do business or are
associated in one way or another.
For example, the first person outside the family whom this
young man saw in the morning was the elevator man in his
apartment house. He had not been in the habit of saying
anything to him beyond a perfunctory and growled good
morning. Now he took the time to have a little chat with the
elevator man. He asked him about his family and about his
interests. He found that the elevator operator had an
interesting point of view and some experiences which were
quite fascinating. He began to see new values in a person
who to him previously had been a mechanical robot, who ran
the elevator up and down to his floor. He actually began to
like the elevator operator and in turn the elevator man, who
had formed a pretty accurate opinion of the young man,
began to revise his views. They established a friendly
relationship. So the process went from person to person.
One day the young man said to me, "I have found that the
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world is filled with interesting people and I never realized it
before."
When he made that observation he proved that he was losing
himself, and when he did that, as the Bible so wisely tells us,
he found himself. In losing himself he found himself and lots
of new friends besides. People learned to like him.
Learning to pray for people was important in his
rehabilitation, for when you pray for anyone you tend to
modify your personal attitude toward him. You lift the
relationship thereby to a higher level. The best in the other
person begins to flow out toward you as your best flows
toward him. In the meeting of the best in each a higher unity
of understanding is established.
Essentially, getting people to like you is merely the other
side of liking them. One of the most popular men who lived
in the United States within the lifetime of most of us was the
late Will Rogers. One of the most characteristic statements
he ever made was, "I never met a man I didn't like." That
may have been a slight exaggeration, but I am sure Will
Rogers did not regard it as such. That is the way he felt about
people, and as a result people opened up to him like flowers
to the sun.
Sometimes the weak objection is offered that it is difficult to
like some people. Granted, some people are by nature more
likable than others, nevertheless a serious attempt to know
any individual will reveal qualities within him that are
admirable, even lovable.
A man had the problem of conquering feelings of irritation
toward persons with whom he was associated. For some
people he had a very profound dislike. They irritated him
intensely, but he conquered these feelings simply by making
an exhaustive list of everything he could possibly admire
about each person who annoyed him. Daily he attempted to
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add to this list. He was surprised to discover that people
whom he thought he did not like at all proved to have many
pleasing qualities. In fact, he was at a loss to understand how
he ever disliked them after becoming conscious of their
attractive qualities. Of course, while he was making these
discoveries about them, they, in turn, were finding new and
likable qualities in him.
If you have gone through life up to this point without having
established satisfactory human relationships, do not assume
that you cannot change, but it will be necessary to take very
definite steps toward solving the problem. You can change
and become a popular person, well liked and esteemed, if
you are willing to make the effort. May I remind you as I
remind myself that one of the greatest tragedies of the
average person is the tendency to spend our whole lives
perfecting our faults? We develop a fault and we nurse it and
cultivate it, and never change it. Like a needle caught in the
groove of a defective record on a gramophone, it plays the
same old tune over and over again. You must lift the needle
out of the groove, then you will have disharmony no longer,
but harmony. Don't spend more of your life perfecting faults
in human relations. Spend the rest of your life perfecting
your great capacities for friendliness, for personal relations
are vitally important to successful living.
Still another important factor in getting people to like you is
to practice building up the ego of other persons. The ego,
being the essence of our personalities, is sacred to us. There
is in every person a normal desire for a feeling of self-
importance. If I deflate your ego and therefore your self-
importance, though you may laugh it off, I have deeply
wounded you. In fact, I have shown disrespect for you, and
while you may exercise charity toward me, even so, unless
you are finely developed spiritually, you are not going to like
me very well.
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On the other hand, if I elevate your self-respect and
contribute to your feeling of personal worth, I am showing
high esteem for your ego. I have helped you to be your best
self and therefore you appreciate what I have done. You are
grateful to me. You like me for it.
The deflation of another person's ego may be mildly done
perhaps, but one can never evaluate how deep the
depreciation goes from even a remark or an attitude that is
not meant to be unkind. Here is the way in which ego is often
deflated.
The next time you are in a group and someone tells a joke
and everybody laughs with appreciation and pleasure except
yourself, when the laughter has died down say patronizingly,
"Well, that is a pretty good joke all right. I saw it in a
magazine last month."
Of course it will make you feel quite important to let others
know of your superior knowledge, but how does it make the
man feel who told the joke? You have robbed him of the
satisfaction of having told a good story. You have crowded
him out of his brief moment in the limelight and usurped
attention to yourself. In fact you have taken the wind out of
his sails and left him flat and deflated. He enjoyed his
momentary little prominence, but you took it away from him.
Nobody in that group is going to like you for what you did,
and certainly not the man whose story you spoiled. Whether
you like the joke or not, let the storyteller and the others
enjoy it. Remember he may be a little bit embarrassed and
shy. It would have done him good to have received a
response. Don't deflate people. Build them up and they will
love you for it.
While writing this chapter I enjoyed a visit with an old and
dear friend, Dr. John W. Hoffman, one-time president of
Ohio Wesleyan University. As I sat with him in Pasadena, I
realized once again how much this great personality has
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always meant to me. Many years ago, on the night before my
graduation from college, we had a banquet at our fraternity
house at which he was present and made a talk. After dinner
he asked me to walk with him to the president's house.
It was a beautiful moonlit night in June. All the way up the
hill he talked to me about life and its opportunities and told
me what a thrill awaited me as I entered the outside world.
As we stood in front of his house he put his hand on my
shoulder and said, "Norman, I have always liked you. I
believe in you. You have great possibilities. I shall always be
proud of you. You have got it in you." Of course he
overestimated me, but that is infinitely better than to
depreciate a person.
It being June and the night before graduation and excitement
being in my heart, my sentiments were pretty close to the
surface, and I said good night to him through a mist of tears
which I tried to conceal. It has been many years since then,
but I never forgot what he said nor how he said it on that
June night long ago. I have loved him all across the years.
I discovered that he made similar statements to many other
boys and girls long since become men and women and they,
too, love him because he respected their personalities and
was constantly building them up. Through the years he
would write to me and to others congratulating us on some
little thing that we had done, and a word of approval from
him meant much. Little wonder this honored guide of youth
has the affection and devotion of thousands of people whose
lives he touched.
Whomever you help to build up and become a better,
stronger, finer person will give you his undying devotion.
Build up as many people as you can. Do it unselfishly. Do it
because you like them and because you see possibilities in
them. Do this and you will never lack for friends. You will
always be well thought of. Build people up and love them
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genuinely. Do them good and their esteem and affection will
flow back toward you.
The basic principles of getting people to like you need no
prolonged and labored emphasis, for they are very simple
and easily illustrate their own truth. However, I list ten
practical rules for getting the esteem of others. The
soundness of these principles has been demonstrated
innumerable times. Practice them until you become expert at
them and people will like you.
1. Learn to remember names. Inefficiency at this point may
indicate that your interest is not sufficiently outgoing. A
man's name is very important to him.
2. Be a comfortable person so there is no strain in being with
you — be an old-shoe, old-hat kind of individual. Be homey.
3. Acquire the quality of relaxed easy-goingness so that
things do not ruffle you.
4. Don't be egotistical. Guard against giving the impression
that you know it all. Be natural and normally humble.
5. Cultivate the quality of being interesting so that people
will want to be with you and get something of stimulating
value from their association with you.
6. Study to get the "scratchy" elements out of your
personality, even those of which you may be unconscious.
7. Sincerely attempt to heal, on an honest Christian basis,
every misunderstanding you have had or now have. Drain off
your grievances.
Guide to
Confident Living. At that time he was considered by8. Practice liking people until you learn to do so genuinely.
Remember what Will Rogers said, "I never met a man I
didn't like." Try to be that way.
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9. Never miss an opportunity to say a word of congratulation
upon anyone's achievement, or express sympathy in sorrow
or disappointment.
10. Get a deep spiritual experience so that you have
something to give people that will help them to be stronger
and meet life more effectively. Give strength to people and
they will give affection to you.
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Chapter 16
Prescription for Heartache
"PLEASE GIVE ME a prescription for heartache."
This curious and rather pathetic request was made by a man
who had been informed by his doctor that the feelings of
disability of which he complained were not of a physical
nature. His trouble lay in an inability to rise above sorrow.
He was suffering from "an ache in his personality" as a result
of grief.
His doctor advised him to secure spiritual consultation and
treatment. So continuing to use the terminology of medicine,
he repeated his question, "Is there a spiritual prescription
which will reduce my constant inner suffering? I realize that
sorrow comes to everyone and I should be able to meet it the
same as others. I have tried my best but find no peace."
Again he asked with a sad, slow smile, "Give me a
prescription for heartache."
There is indeed a "prescription" for heartache. One element
in the prescription is physical activity. The sufferer must
avoid the temptation to sit and brood. A sensible program
which substitutes physical activity for such fruitless brooding
reduces the strain on the area of the mind where we reflect,
philosophize, and suffer mental pain. Muscular activity
utilizes another part of the brain and therefore shifts the
strain and gives relief.
An old country lawyer who had a sound philosophy and
much wisdom told a sorrowing woman that the best
medicine for a broken heart is "to take a scrubbing brush and
get down on your knees and go to work. The best medicine
for a man," he declared, "is to get an ax and chop wood until
physically tired." While this is not guaranteed to be a
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complete cure for heartache, yet it does tend to mitigate such
suffering.
Whatever the character of your heartache, one of the first
steps is to resolve to escape from any defeatist situation
which may have been created around yourself, even though it
is difficult to do so, and return once again to the normal
course of your life. Get back into the main stream of life's
activities. Take up your old associations. Form new ones.
Get busy walking, riding, swimming, playing — get the blood
to coursing through your system. Lose yourself in some
worthwhile project. Fill your days with creative activity and
emphasize the physical aspect of activity. Employ healthy
mind- relieving busyness, but be sure that it is of a
worthwhile and constructive nature. Superficial escapism
through feverish activity merely deadens pain temporarily
and does not heal, as, for example, parties and drinking.
An excellent and normal release from heartache is to give
way to grief. There is a foolish point of view current today
that one should not show grief, that it is not proper to cry or
express oneself through the natural mechanism of tears and
sobbing. This is a denial of the law of nature. It is natural to
cry when pain or sorrow comes. It is a relief mechanism
provided in the body by Almighty God and should be used.
To restrain grief, to inhibit it, to bottle it up, is to fail to use
one of God's means for eliminating the pressure of sorrow.
Like every other function of the human body and nervous
system, this must be controlled, but it should not be denied
altogether. A good cry by either man or woman is a release
from heartache. I should warn, however, that this mechanism
should not be used unduly nor allowed to become a habitual
process. Should that happen, it partakes of the nature of
abnormal grief and could become a psychosis. Unrestraint of
any kind should not be allowed.
I receive many letters from people whose loved ones have
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died. They tell me that it is very difficult for them to go to
the same places they were in the habit of frequenting
together or to be with the same people with whom they
associated as a couple or as a family. Therefore they avoid
the old-time places and friends.
I regard this as a serious mistake. A secret of curing
heartache is to be as normal and natural as possible. This
does not imply disloyalty or indifference. This policy is
important in avoiding a state of abnormal grief. Normal
sorrow is a natural process and its normality is evidenced by
the ability of the individual to return to his usual pursuits and
responsibilities and continue therein as formerly.
The deeper remedy for heartache, of course, is the curative
comfort supplied by trust in God.
Inevitably the basic prescription for heartache is to turn to
God in an attitude of faith and empty the mind and heart to
Him. Perseverance in the act of spiritual self-emptying will
finally bring healing to the broken heart. This generation,
which has suffered fully as much if not more heartache than
people in preceding eras, needs to relearn that which the
wisest men of all time have known, namely, that there is no
healing of the pain suffered by humanity except through the
benign ministrations of faith.
One of the greatest souls of the ages was Brother Lawrence,
who said, "If in this life we would know the serene peace of
Paradise, we must school ourselves in familiar, humble, and
loving converse with God." It is not advisable to attempt to
carry the burden of sorrow and mental pain without Divine
help, for its weight is more than the personality can bear. The
simplest and most effective of all prescriptions for heartache
then is to practice the presence of God. This will soothe the
ache in your heart and ultimately heal the wound. Men and
women who have experienced great tragedy tell us that this
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prescription is effective.
Another profoundly curative element in the prescription for
heartache is to gain a sound and satisfying philosophy of life
and death and deathlessness. For my part, when I gained the
unshakable belief that there is no death, that all life is
indivisible, that the here and hereafter are one, that time and
eternity are inseparable, that this is one unobstructed
universe, then I found the most satisfying and convincing
philosophy of my entire life.
These convictions are based upon sound foundations, the
Bible for one. I believe that the Bible gives us a very subtle,
and as will be proved ultimately, a scientific series of
insights into the great question, "What happens when a man
leaves this world?" Also the Bible very wisely tells us that
we know these truths by faith. Henri Bergson, the
philosopher, says that the surest way into truth is by
perception, by intuition, by reasoning to a certain point, then
by taking a "mortal leap," and by intuition attaining the truth.
You come to some glorious moment where you simply
"know." That is the way it happened to me.
I am absolutely, wholeheartedly, and thoroughly convinced
of the truth of which I write and have no doubt of it, even to
an infinitesimal degree. I arrived at this positive faith
gradually, yet there came one moment when I knew.
This philosophy will not ward off the sorrow which comes
when a loved one dies and physical, earthly separation
ensues. But it will lift and dissipate grief. It will fill your
mind with a deep understanding of the meaning of this
inevitable circumstance. And it will give you a deep
assurance that you have not lost your loved one. Live on this
faith and you will be at peace and the ache will leave your
heart.
Take into your mind and heart one of the most marvelous
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texts in the Holy Bible — "Eye hath not seen, nor ear heard,
neither have entered into the heart of man, the things which
God hath prepared for them that love Him." (I Corinthians
2 : 9 )
This means that you have never seen, no matter what you
have seen, however wonderful it is, you have never seen
anything to compare with the marvelous things that God has
prepared for those who love Him and who put their trust in
Him. Moreover, it says that you have never heard anything to
compare with the astonishing marvels that God has laid up
for those who follow His teachings and live according to His
spirit. Not only have you never seen nor ever heard but you
have never even dimly imagined what He is going to do for
you. This sentence goes all out in promising comfort and
immortality and reunion and every good thing to those who
center their lives in God.
After many years of reading the Bible and being intimately
connected with all the phases of the lives of hundreds of
people, I wish to state unequivocally that I have found this
Biblical promise to be absolutely true. It applies even to this
world. People who really practice living on a Christlike basis
have the most incredible things happen to them.
This passage also relates to the state of existence of those
now living on the other side and our relationship, while we
live, to those who have preceded us across that barrier which
we call death. I use the word "barrier" somewhat
apologetically. We have always thought of death as a barrier
with a concept of a separatist nature.
Scientists working today in the field of parapsychology and
extra-sensory perception and experimenting in precognition,
telepathy, clairvoyance (all of which were formerly
considered paraphernalia of the cranks, but which are now of
sound, scientific usage in the laboratories), are expressing
themselves as believing that the soul survives the barrier of
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time and space. In effect, we are on the edge of one of the
greatest scientific discoveries in history which will
substantiate, on a laboratory-exploratory basis, the existence
of the soul and its deathlessness.
For many years I have been accumulating a series of
incidents, the validity of which I accept and which bear out
the conviction that we live in a dynamic universe where life,
not death, is the basic principle. I have confidence in the
people who have described the following experiences and am
convinced that they indicate a world impinged upon or
intertwined with our own through the meshes of which
human spirits, on both sides of death, live in unbroken
fellowship. The conditions of life on the other side, as we
know them in mortality, are modified. Undoubtedly those
who have crossed to the other side dwell in a higher medium
than we do and their understanding is amplified beyond ours,
yet all the facts point to the continued existence of our loved
ones and the further fact that they are not far away, and still
another fact implied, but no less real, that we shall be
reunited with them. Meanwhile, we continue in fellowship
with those who dwell in the spirit world.
William James, one of America's greatest scholars, after a
lifetime of study said he was satisfied that the human brain is
only a medium for the soul's existence and that the mind as
now constituted will be exchanged at last for a brain that will
allow the owner to reach out into untapped areas of
understanding. As our spiritual being is amplified here on
earth and as we grow in age and experience we become more
conscious of this vaster world all around us, and when we die
it is only to enter into an enlarged capacity.
Euripides, one of the greatest thinkers of antiquity, was
convinced that the next life would be of infinitely greater
magnitude. Socrates shared the same concept. One of the
most comforting statements ever made was his remark, "No
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evil can befall a good man in this life or in the next."
Natalie Kalmus, scientific expert in technicolor, tells about
the death of her sister. The following account given by this
scientifically trained woman appeared in the inspirational
magazine Guicleposts.
Natalie Kalmus quotes her dying sister as saying, " 'Natalie,
promise me that you won't let them give me any drugs. I
realize that they are trying to help relieve my pain, but I want
to be fully aware of every sensation. I am convinced that
death will be a beautiful experience.'
"I promised. Alone, later, I wept, thinking of her courage.
Then as I tossed in bed on through the night, I realized that
what I thought to be a calamity my sister intended to be a
triumph.
"Ten days later the final hour drew near. I had been at her
bedside for hours. We had talked about many things, and
always I marveled at her quiet, sincere confidence in eternal
life. Not once did the physical torture overcome her spiritual
strength. This was something that the doctors simply hadn't
taken into account.
"'Dear kind God, keep my mind clear and give me peace,' she
had murmured over and over again during those last days.
"We had talked so long that I noticed she was drifting off to
to sleep. I left her quietly with the nurse and retired to get
some rest. A few minutes later I heard my sister's voice
calling for me. Quickly I returned to her room. She was
dying.
"I sat on her bed and took her hand. It was on fire. Then she
seemed to rise up in bed almost to a sitting position.
" 'Natalie,' she said, 'there are so many of them. There's
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Fred... and Ruth. ..what's she doing here? Oh, I know!'
"An electric shock went through me. She had said Ruth.
Ruth was her cousin who had died suddenly the week before.
But Eleanor had not been told of Ruth's sudden death.
"Chill after chill shot up and down my spine. I felt on the
verge of some powerful, almost frightening knowledge. She
had murmured Ruth's name.
"Her voice was surprisingly clear. 'It's so confusing. So many
of them!' Suddenly her arms stretched out as happily as when
she had welcomed me! 'I'm going up,' she said.
"Then she dropped her arms around my neck — and relaxed
in my arms. The will of her spirit had turned final agony into
rapture.
"As I laid her head back on the pillow, there was a warm,
peaceful smile on her face. Her golden-brown hair lay
carelessly on the pillow. I took a white flower from the vase
and placed it in her hair. With her petite, trim figure, her
wavy hair, the white flower, and the soft smile, she looked
once more — and permanently — just like a schoolgirl."
The mention of her cousin Ruth by the dying girl and the
evident fact that she saw her clearly is a phenomenon that
recurs again and again in the incidents which have come to
my attention. So repetitive is this phenomenon and so similar
are the characteristics of this experience as described by
many that it amounts to a substantial evidence that the people
whose names are called, whose faces are seen, are actually
present.
Where are they? What is their condition? What sort of body
have they? These are questions that are difficult. The idea of
a different dimension is probably the most tenable, or it may
be more accurate to believe that they live in a different
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frequency cycle.
It is impossible to see through the blades of an electric fan
when it is in a stationary position. At high speed, however,
the blades appear to be transparent. In the higher frequency
or the state in which our loved ones dwell, the impenetrable
qualities of the universe may open to the gaze of one passing
into the mysteries. In deep moments of our own lives it is
entirely possible that we enter to a degree at least into that
higher frequency. In one of the most beautiful lines in
English literature, Robert Ingersoll suggests this great truth,
"In the night of death, hope sees a star and listening love can
hear the rustle of a wing."
A famous neurologist tells of a man who was at death's door.
The dying man looked up at the physician sitting beside his
bed and began to call off names which the physician wrote
down. The doctor was personally unfamiliar with any name
mentioned. Later the physician asked the man's daughter,
"Who are these people? Your father spoke of them as if he
saw them."
"They are all relatives," she said, "who have been dead a
long time."
The physician said he believes his patient did see them.
Friends of mine, Mr. and Mrs. William Sage, lived in New
Jersey and I was often in their home. Mr. Sage, whom his
wife called Will, died first. A few years later, when Mrs.
Sage was on her deathbed, the most surprised look passed
across her face, and it lighted up in a wonderful smile as she
said, "Why, it is Will." That she saw him those about her bed
had no doubt whatsoever.
Arthur Godfrey, famous radio personality, tells of being
asleep in his bunk on a destroyer in World War I. Suddenly
his father stood beside him. He put out his hand, smiled, and
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said, "So long, son," and Godfrey answered, "So long, Dad."
Later he was awakened and given a cablegram telling him of
the death of his father. The time of his passing was given,
and it was the precise period during which Godfrey in his
sleep "saw" his father.
Mary Margaret McBride, also a famous radio personality,
was overwhelmed with grief upon the death of her mother.
They had been very close to each other. She awakened one
night and sat on the edge of her bed. Suddenly she had the
feeling, to use her own words, that "Mama was with me."
She did not see her mother nor hear her speak, but from that
time on, "I knew that my mother isn't dead — that she is near
by."
The late Rufus Jones, one of the most famous spiritual
leaders of our time, tells about his son Lowell who died at
twelve years of age. He was the apple of his father's eye. The
boy took sick when Dr. Jones was on the ocean bound for
Europe. The night before entering Liverpool, while lying in
his bunk, he experienced an indefinable, inexplainable
feeling of sadness. Then he said that he seemed to be
enveloped in the arms of God. A great feeling of peace and a
sense of a profound possession of his son came to him.
Upon landing in Liverpool he was advised that his son had
died, his death occurring at the precise hour when Dr. Jones
had felt a sense of God's presence and the everlasting
nearness of his son.
A member of my church, Mrs. Bryson Kalt, tells of an aunt
whose husband and three children were burned to death
when their house was destroyed by fire. The aunt was badly
burned but lived for three years. When finally she lay dying a
radiance suddenly came over her face. "It is all so beautiful,"
she said. "They are coming to meet me. Fluff up my pillows
and let me go to sleep."
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Mr. H. B. Clarke, an old friend of mine, was for many years
a construction engineer, his work taking him into all parts of
the world. He was of a scientific turn of mind, a quite
restrained, factual, unemotional type of man. I was called
one night by his physician, who said that he did not expect
him to live but a few hours. His heart action was slow and
the blood pressure was extraordinarily low. There was no
reflex action at all. The doctor gave no hope.
I began to pray for him, as did others. The next day his eyes
opened and after a few days he recovered his speech. His
heart action and blood pressure returned to normal. After he
recovered strength he said, "At some time during my illness
something very peculiar happened to me. I cannot explain it.
It seemed that I was a long distance away. I was in the most
beautiful and attractive place I have ever seen. There were
lights all about me, beautiful lights. I saw faces dimly
revealed, kind faces they were, and I felt very peaceful and
happy. In fact, I have never felt happier in my life.
"Then the thought came to me, 'I must be dying.' Then it
occurred to me, 'Perhaps I have died.' Then I almost laughed
out loud, and asked myself, 'Why have I been afraid of death
all my life? There is nothing to be afraid of in this.' "
"How did you feel about it?" I asked. "Did you want to come
back to life? Did you want to live, for you were not dead,
although the doctor felt that you were very close to death.
Did you want to live?"
He smiled and said, "It did not make the slightest difference.
If anything, I think I would have preferred to stay in that
beautiful place."
Hallucination, a dream, a vision — I do not believe so. I have
spent too many years talking to people who have come to the
edge of "something" and had a look across, who
unanimously have reported beauty, light, and peace, to have
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any doubt in my own mind.
The New Testament teaches the indestructibility of life in a
most interesting and simple manner. It describes Jesus after
His crucifixion in a series of appearances, disappearances,
and reappearances. Some saw Him and then He vanished out
of their sight. Then others saw Him and again He vanished.
It is as if to say, "You see me and then you do not see me."
This indicates that He is trying to tell us that when we do not
see Him, it does not mean He is not there. Out of sight does
not mean out of life.
Occasional mystical appearances which some experience
indicate the same truth, that He is near by. Did He not say,
"...because I live, ye shall live also." (John 14:19) In other
words, our loved ones who have died in this faith are also
near by and occasionally draw near to comfort us.
A boy serving in Korea wrote to his mother, saying, "The
strangest things happen to me. Once in a while at night,
when I am afraid, Daddy seems to be with me." Daddy had
been dead for ten years. Then the boy wistfully asks his
mother, "Do you think that Daddy can actually be with me
here on these Korean battlefields?" The answer is, "Why
not?" How can we be citizens of a scientific generation and
not believe that this could be true? Again and again proofs
are offered that this is a dynamic universe, surcharged with
mystic, electric, electronic, atomic forces, and all are so
wonderful that we have never yet comprehended them. This
universe is a great spiritual sounding house, alive and vital.
Albert E. Cliff, well-known Canadian writer, tells of the
death of his father. The dying man had sunk into a coma and
it was thought he was gone. Then a momentary resurgence of
life occurred. His eyes flickered open. On the wall was one
of those old-time mottoes which said, "I Know That My
Redeemer Liveth." The dying man opened his eyes, looked
at that motto, and said, "I do know that my Redeemer liveth.
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for they are all here around me — mother, father, brothers,
and sisters." Long gone from this earth were they all, but
evidently he saw them. Who is to gainsay?
The late Mrs. Thomas A. Edison told me that when her
famous husband was dying he whispered to his physician, "It
is beautiful over there." Edison was the world's greatest
scientist. All his life he had worked with phenomena. He was
of a factual cast of mind. He never reported anything as a
fact until he saw it work. He would never have reported, "It
is very beautiful over there" unless, having seen, he knew it
to be true.
Many years ago a missionary went to the South Sea Islands
to work among a cannibal tribe. After many months he
converted the chief to Christianity. One day this old chief
said to the missionary, "Remember the time you first came
among us?"
"Indeed I do," replied the missionary. "As I went through the
forest I became aware of hostile forces all around me."
"They did indeed surround you," said the chief, "for we were
following you to kill you, but something prevented us from
doing it."
"And what was that?" asked the missionary.
"Now that we are friends, tell me," coaxed the chief, "who
were those two shining ones walking on either side of you?"
My friend, Geoffrey O'Hara, famous song writer, author of
the popular World War I song, "Katy," also "There Is No
Death," "Give a Man a Horse He Can Ride," and other songs,
tells of a colonel in World War I whose regiment was wiped
out in a bloody engagement. As he paced up and down the
trench he says he could feel their hands and sense their
presence. He said to Geoffrey O'Hara, "I tell you, there is no
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death." Mr. O'Hara wrote one of his greatest songs using that
title, "there is no death."
Of these deep and tender matters I personally have no doubt
whatsoever. I firmly believe in the continuation of life after
that which we call death takes place. I believe there are two
sides to the phenomenon known as death — this side where
we now live and the other side where we shall continue to
live. Eternity does not start with death. We are in eternity
now. We are citizens of eternity. We merely change the form
of the experience called life, and that change, I am
persuaded, is for the better.
My mother was a great soul, and her influence on me will
ever stand out in my life as an experience that cannot be
surpassed. She was a wonderful conversationalist. Her mind
was keen and alert. She traveled the world over and enjoyed
wide contacts as a Christian leader in missionary causes. Her
life was full and rich. She had a marvelous sense of humor.
She was good company, and I always loved to be with her.
She was considered by all who knew her an unusually
fascinating and stimulating personality.
During my adult years whenever I had the opportunity I
would go home to see her. I always anticipated the arrival at
the family home, for it was an exciting experience in which
everyone talked at once as we sat around the breakfast table.
What happy reunions — what glorious meetings. Then came
her death, and we tenderly laid her body in the beautiful little
cemetery at Lynchburg in southern Ohio, a town where she
had lived as a girl. I was very sad the day we left her there,
and went away heavy-hearted. It was in the fullness of
summertime when we took her home to her last resting
place.
It came autumn, and I felt that I wanted to be with my
mother again. I was lonely without her, therefore I decided to
go to Lynchburg. All night long on the train I thought sadly
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of the happy days now gone and how things were utterly
changed and would never be the same again.
So I came to the little town. The weather was cold and the
sky overcast as I walked to the cemetery. I pushed through
the old iron gates and my feet rustled in the leaves as I
walked to her grave where I sat sad and lonely. Of a sudden
the clouds parted and the sun came through. It lighted up the
Ohio hills in gorgeous autumn colors, the hills where I grew
up as a boy, which I have always loved so well, where she
herself had played as a girl in the long ago.
Then all of a sudden I seemed to hear her voice. Now I didn't
actually hear her voice, but I seemed to. I am sure I heard it
by the inward ear. The message was clear and distinct. It was
stated in her beloved old-time tone, and this is what she said,
"Why seek ye the living among the dead? I am not here. Do
you think that I would stay in this dark and dismal place? I
am with you and my loved ones always." In a burst of inner
light I became wondrously happy. I knew that what I had
heard was the truth. The message came to me with all the
force of actuality. I could have shouted, and I stood up and
put my hand on the tombstone and saw it for what it is, only
a place where mortal remains lay. The body was there, to be
sure, but it was only a coat that had been laid off because the
wearer needed it no longer. But she, that gloriously lovely
spirit, she was not there.
I walked out of that place and only rarely since have I
returned. I like to go back there and think of her and the old
days of my youth, but no longer is it a place of gloom. It is
merely a symbol, for she is not there. She is with us her
loved ones. "Why seek ye the living among the dead?" (Luke
24 : 5 )
Read and believe the Bible as it tells about the goodness of
God and the immortality of the soul. Pray sincerely and with
faith. Make prayer and faith the habit of your life. Learn to
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have real fellowship with God and with Jesus Christ. As you
do this you will find a deep conviction welling up in your
mind that these wonderful things are true indeed.
"...if it were not so, I would have told you." (John 14:2) You
can depend upon the reliability of Christ. He would not let
you believe and hold convictions so sacred in nature unless
they are absolutely true.
So in this faith, which is a sound, substantial, and rational
view of life and eternity, you have the prescription for
heartache.
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Chapter 17
How to Draw upon That Higher Power
FOUR MEN WERE sitting in the locker room of a country
club after a game. Talk about golf scores drifted into a
discussion of personal difficulties and problems. One man
was especially despondent. The others, his friends, realizing
his unhappy state of mind, had arranged this game to get his
mind off his difficult situation. They hoped a few hours on
the golf course might afford him some relief.
Now, as they sat around after the game, various suggestions
were offered him. Finally one of the men arose to go. He
knew about difficulties, for he'd had plenty himself, but he
had found some vital answers to his problems. He stood
hesitantly, then laid his hand on his friend's shoulder.
"George," he said, "I hope you won't think I am preaching at
you. Really, I'm not, but I would like to suggest something.
It's the way I got through my difficulties. It really works if
you work at it, and it's this. 'Why not draw upon that Higher
Power?' "
He slapped his friend affectionately on the back and left the
group. The other men sat mulling this over. Finally the
discouraged man said slowly, "I know what he means and I
know where the Higher Power is. I only wish I knew how to
draw upon it. It's what I need all right."
Well, in due course he discovered how to draw upon that
Higher Power, and it changed everything for him. Now he is
a healthy, happy man.
The advice given at the golf club is really very wise. There
are many people today who are unhappy and depressed and
just not getting anywhere with themselves or with
conditions. And they do not need to be that way. Really they
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don't. The secret is to draw upon that Higher Power. And
how is that done?
Let me tell you about a personal experience. When quite
young I was called to a large church in a university
community and many of my congregation were professors in
the university as well as leading citizens of the city. I wanted
to justify the confidence of those who gave me such an
outstanding opportunity and accordingly worked very hard.
As a result I began to experience overstrain. Everyone should
work hard, but there is no virtue in overtrying or
overpressing to such an extent that you do not work
efficiently. It is somewhat like making a golf shot. Try to
"kill" the ball and you execute the shot poorly. You can do
likewise in your job. I began to get rather tired and nervous
and had no feeling of normal power.
One day I decided to call on one of the professors, the late
Hugh M. Tilroe, a great friend of mine. He was a wonderful
teacher, and he was also a great fisherman and hunter. He
was a man's man, an outdoor personality. I knew that if I did
not find him at the university he would be out on the lake
fishing, and sure enough there he was. He came ashore at my
hail. "The fish are biting — come on," he said. I climbed in
his boat and we fished awhile.
"What's the matter, son?" he asked with understanding. I told
him how hard I was trying and that it was getting me down
nervously. "I have no feeling of lift or power," I said.
He chuckled. "Maybe you're trying too hard."
As the boat scraped the shore he said, "Come in the house
with me." As we entered his cabin he ordered, "Lie down
there on that couch. I want to read you something. Shut your
eyes and relax while I find the quotation."
I did as directed, and thought he was going to read me some
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philosophical or perhaps diverting piece, but instead he said,
"Here it is. Listen quietly while I read it to you. And let these
words sink in. 'Hast thou not known? Hast thou not heard,
that the everlasting God, the Lord, the Creator of the ends of
the earth, fainteth not, neither is weary? There is no
searching of his understanding. He giveth power to the faint;
and to them that have no might he increaseth strength. Even
the youths shall faint and be weary, and the young men shall
utterly fall. But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew
their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they
shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not
faint.'" (Isaiah 40:28-31) Then he asked, "Do you know from
what I am reading?"
"Yes, the fortieth chapter of Isaiah," I answered.
"I'm glad you know your Bible," he commented. "Why don't
you practice it? Now relax. Take three deep breaths — in and
out slowly. Practice resting yourself in God. Practice
depending upon Him for His support and power. Believe He
is giving it to you now and don't get out of touch with that
power. Yield yourself to it — let it flow through you.
"Give your job all you've got. Of course you must do that.
But do it in a relaxed and easy manner like a batter in a big-
league ball game. He swings the bat easy-like, and doesn't try
to knock the ball out of the park. He just does the best he can
and believes in himself because he knows that he has lots of
reserve power." Then he repeated the passage again. " 'They
that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength.' "
That was a long time ago, but I never forgot that lesson. He
taught me how to draw upon that Higher Power, and believe
me, his suggestions worked. I continue to follow my friend's
advice, and it has never failed me in the more than twenty
years that have passed since then. My life is crowded with
activity but that power formula gives me all the strength I
need.
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A second method for drawing upon that Higher Power is to
learn to take a positive, optimistic attitude toward every
problem. In direct proportion to the intensity of the faith
which you muster will you receive power to meet your
situations. "According to your faith be it unto
you," (Matthew 9:29) is a basic law of successful living.
There is a Higher Power, and that Power can do everything
for you. Draw upon it and experience its great helpfulness.
Why be defeated when you are free to draw upon that Higher
Power? State your problem. Ask for a specific answer.
Believe that you are getting that answer. Believe that now,
through God's help, you are gaining power over your
difficulty.
A man and his wife who were in real trouble came to see me.
This gentleman, a former magazine editor, was a
distinguished figure in music and artistic circles. Everyone
liked him for his geniality and friendliness. His wife was
held in similar high regard.
She was in poor health and as a result they had retired to the
country where they were living in semi-seclusion.
This man told me he had experienced two heart attacks, one
quite severe. His wife was in a steady decline and he was
deeply concerned about her. The question he put was this:
"Can I get hold of some power that can help us recover
ourselves physically and give us new hope and courage and
strength?" The situation as he described it was a series of
discouragements and defeats.
Frankly I felt that he was a bit too sophisticated to permit
himself to adopt and utilize the simple trust that would be
necessary if faith were to rehabilitate him. I told him I rather
doubted he had the capacity to practice simple faith enough
to open the sources of power according to the techniques of
Christianity.
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But he assured me he was in earnest and was open-minded
and would follow any directions given. I saw his honesty and
the real quality of his soul and have had a great affection for
him ever since. I gave him a simple prescription. He was to
read the New Testament and the Psalms until his mind was
saturated with them. I gave him the usual suggestion of
committing passages to memory. Principally I urged him to
utilize the formula of putting his life in the hands of God, at
the same time believing that God was filling him with power,
and his wife also, and that the two of them were to believe
unfalteringly that they were being guided in even the most
commonplace details of their lives.
They were also to believe that in co-operation with their
physician, whom I happened to know and admire, that the
healing grace of Jesus Christ was being given them. I
suggested that they picture the healing power of the Great
Physician as already working within them.
Seldom have I seen two people who became more gloriously
childlike in their faith and whose trust was more complete.
They became enthusiastic about the Bible and would often
telephone me about "some wonderful passage" they had just
found. They gave me fresh insights into the truths of the
Bible. It was a truly creative process working with this man
and his wife.
The next spring Helen (that is the wife's name) said, "I have
never experienced a more wonderful springtime. The flowers
this year are the loveliest I have ever seen, and have you
noticed the sky with its extraordinary cloud formations and
the delicate colors at dawn and sunset? The leaves seem
greener this year, and I have never heard the birds sing with
such ecstasy and melody." When she said this there was an
ecstatic light on her face and I knew she had been reborn in
the spirit. And she began to improve physically, regaining a
large share of her old-time strength. Her native creative
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power began to flow forth once again and life took on new
meaning.
As for Horace, there has been no more heart trouble, and
physical, mental, and spiritual vigor mark him as
extraordinarily vital. They have moved into a new
community and have become a center of its life. Wherever
they go they touch people with a strange uplifting force.
What is the secret which they discovered? Simply that they
learned to draw upon that Higher Power.
This Higher Power is one of the most amazing facts in
human existence. I am awestruck, no matter how many times
I have seen the phenomenon, by the thorough-going,
tremendous, overwhelming changes for good that it
accomplishes in the lives of people. Personally, I am so
enthusiastic about all that the Higher Power can do for
people that I am loath to bring this book to a close. I could
recite story after story, incident after incident of those who
by laying hold of this power have had a new birth of life.
This power is constantly available. If you open to it, it will
rush in like a mighty tide. It is there for anybody under any
circumstances or in any condition. This tremendous inflow
of power is of such force that in its inrush it drives
everything before it, casting out fear, hate, sickness,
weakness, moral defeat, scattering them as though they had
never touched you, refreshing and restrengthening your life
with health, happiness, and goodness.
For many years I have been interested in the problem of the
alcoholic and in the organization known as Alcoholics
Anonymous. One of their basic principles is that before a
person can be helped he must recognize that he is an
alcoholic and that of himself he can do nothing; that he has
no power within himself; that he is defeated. When he
accepts this point of view he is in a position to receive help
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from other alcoholics and from the Higher Power — God.
Another principle is the willingness to depend upon the
Higher Power from whom he derives a strength which he
does not himself possess. The working of this power in men's
lives is the most moving and thrilling fact in this world. No
other manifestation of power of any kind is equal to it.
Materialistic power achievement is a romantic story. Men
discover laws and formulas and harness power to do
remarkable things. Spiritual power also follows laws.
Mastery of these laws works wonders in an area more
complicated than any form of mechanics, namely, human
nature. It is one thing to make a machine work right. To
make human nature work right is something else. It requires
greater skill, but it can be done.
I sat one day under swaying palm trees in Florida listening to
the story of a demonstration of Higher Power activity in the
life of a man who narrowly escaped tragedy. He told me that
he started drinking at the age of sixteen, "as it was the so-
called smart thing to do." After twenty-three years,
beginning as a social drinker, he "came to the end of the road
on April 24, 1947." A growing hatred and bitterness toward
his wife who had deserted him and toward his mother-in-law
and sister-in-law culminated in his decision to kill these three
women. I relate the story as he told it to me, in his own
language.
"To strengthen myself for this gory task I went into a bar. A
few more drinks would give me the courage to commit this
triple murder. As I entered the bar I saw a young man by the
name of Carl drinking coffee. Although I had hated Carl
from boyhood I was utterly astounded to note his immaculate
appearance, and I was also astonished to see him drinking
coffee in a bar where he had spent on an average of $400 a
month for drinks alone. Also I was mystified by what
seemed a strange light on his face. Being fascinated by his
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appearance, I approached Carl and asked, 'What happened to
you that you are drinking coffee?'
"'I have not had a drink for a year,' Carl replied.
"I was utterly amazed, because Carl and I had been on many
drinking bouts together. A strange incident in this affair is
that even though I hated Carl I was strangely moved. I could
not help but listen when he asked, 'Ed, did you ever want to
quit drinking?'
"'Yes, I have quit a thousand times,' I replied.
"Carl smiled and said, 'If you really want to do something
about your problem, get sober and attend a meeting at the
Presbyterian Church at nine on Saturday. It is a meeting of
Alcoholics Anonymous.'
"I told him I had no interest in religion, but that maybe I
would come. I was unimpressed, but still I could not get that
light in his eyes out of my mind.
"Carl did not insist that I attend the meeting, but repeated
that if I wanted to do something for myself he and his
associates had an answer to my problem. After making that
statement Carl left and I stood up to the bar to order a drink,
but somehow it had lost its appeal. So, instead, I went home,
the only home I had remaining, my mother's home.
"May I explain that I had been married for seventeen years to
a very fine girl, but being an impatient person and having no
faith in me due to my drinking, she finally decided upon
getting a divorce, so not only my job and all my material
assets but my home also were completely lost.
"Upon getting to my mother's home I wrestled with a bottle
until 6 A.M., but still could not take the drink. I kept thinking
of Carl's appearance. So on Saturday morning I went to Carl
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and asked him what I could do to keep from taking a drink
until nine o'clock that night when the meeting would be held.
"Carl said, 'Every time you come to a bar or whisky sign or
beer garden, just say one little prayer — "Please, God, get me
past this place,'" and then he added, 'Run like hell. That will
be cooperating with God. He will hear your prayer and the
running will be your part.'
"I did exactly as Carl told me to do. For many hours, anxious
and shaky, accompanied by my sister, I walked around the
streets of the town. Finally at eight o'clock my sister said,
'Ed, there are seven drinking joints between here and the
place where you are to attend the meeting. You go by
yourself, and if you don't make it and come home drunk we
will still love you and hope for the best, but somehow I feel
that this meeting will be different than any you ever
attended. 1 With God's help I got by those seven places.
"At the church entrance I happened to look around and the
sign over one of my favorite drinking places glared me
straight in the eyes. The battle to decide whether to go into
that bar or into the Alcoholics Anonymous meeting is one I
shall never forget, but a Power greater than myself pulled me
to the meeting.
"Upon entering the meeting room I was utterly astounded to
receive the firm handshake of my ex-hated friend, Carl. My
resentment toward him was disappearing. A round of
introductions began to many men in all walks of life —
doctors, lawyers, bricklayers, millwrights, coal miners,
construction workers, plasterers, laborers — all types were
there. I had been drinking with some of these men for the last
ten to twenty-five years and here they were all sober on a
Saturday night, and, above all, they were happy.
"What happened at that meeting is rather vague. All I know
is that a rebirth had taken place. I felt different deep within.
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"Happily leaving the meeting room at midnight, I went home
with a glorious air-lifting feeling and slept peaceably for the
first time in more than five years. Upon awakening the next
morning, I recall something clearly saying to me, 'There is a
Power greater than yourself. If you will turn your will and
your life over to the care of God as you understand Him, He
will give you strength.'
"It was Sunday morning, and I decided to go to church. I
attended a service where the preacher was a man whom I had
hated from childhood. (The author wishes to comment at this
point how inevitably hate is associated with emotional and
spiritual sickness. When the mind is emptied of hate, a long
step has been taken toward recovery. Love is a tremendous
curative force.) This preacher was one of those sedate,
swallowtailed-coat-wearing Presbyterian ministers. I had no
use for him, but that was my fault. He was all right really. I
sat nervously through the singing and the collection taking.
Then the preacher read his Scripture, and his sermon was
based upon the theme, 'Never belittle anyone's experience —
he had it.' I shall never forget that sermon as long as I live. It
taught me a valuable lesson — never to belittle an experience
because someone had it, for he and God know the depth and
sincerity of that experience.
"Later I came to love this minister as one of the greatest,
most sincere men I have ever known.
"Just where my new life began is a matter that is difficult to
determine. Whether it was when I met Carl in the bar, or
wrestling past the drinking places, or at the Alcoholics
Anonymous meeting, or at the church, I do not know. But I,
who had been a hopeless alcoholic for twenty-five years,
suddenly became a sober man. I could never have done this
alone, for I had tried it a thousand times and failed. But I
drew upon a Higher Power and the Higher Power, which is
God, did it."
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I have known the narrator of the foregoing story for several
years. Since becoming "dry" he has had to face some
difficult financial and other problems. But never once has he
weakened. In talking with him I find myself strangely
moved. It isn't what he says or even the way he says it, but
one is conscious of a power emanating from this man. He is
not a famous person. He is an everyday, hard-working
salesman, but the Higher Power is in him, flowing through
him, operating within his experience, and it transmits itself to
others. It transmitted itself to me.
This chapter is not intended as a dissertation on alcoholism,
although I will use still another reference in connection with
this problem. I cite these experiences to show conclusively
that if there is a Power able to deliver a person from
alcoholism, this same Power can help any other person to
overcome any other form of defeat he may face. There is
nothing more difficult to overcome than the problem of
alcoholism. The Power that can accomplish that difficult feat
can, I assure you, help you to overcome your difficulties
whatever they may be.
Let me give still another experience. I narrate this incident
for the same purpose, namely, to emphasize that there is a
Power which can be applied, drawn upon, and used that
mysteriously but surely gives to people who demonstrate
faith the most remarkable victories.
In the Hotel Roanoke at Roanoke, Virginia, one night a man
who has since become a good friend told me the following
story. Two years before he had read my book, A himself
and by others to be an utterly hopeless alcoholic. He is a
businessman in a Virginia town and is of such ability that
despite his drinking problem he was able to keep going with
fair success. He had absolutely no control over his drinking,
however, and evident deterioration was taking place.
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Upon reading the book above mentioned, the idea was
lodged in his mind that if he could only get to New York he
could be cured of his difficulty. He came to New York but
was dead drunk when he arrived. A friend took him to a
hotel and left him. He recovered sufficient consciousness to
call a bellboy and told him that he wanted to go to the
Townes Hospital, a famous institution for alcoholics,
presided over by the late Dr. Silkworth, one of the greatest
men in the field of alcoholism — now deceased but never to
be forgotten.
After robbing him of one hundred or more dollars which he
had in his pocket, the bellboy delivered him to the hospital.
After several days of treatment, Dr. Silkworth came in to see
him and said, "Charles, I think we have done for you all that
we can do. I have a feeling that you are well."
This was not Dr. Silkworth's usual practice, and the fact that
he handled this case in this manner causes one to sense the
guiding hand of a Higher Power.
Still somewhat shaky, Charles made his way downtown until
he found himself outside the office door of the Marble
Collegiate Church, 1 West 29th Street, New York City. It
happened to be a legal holiday and the church was closed.
(Other than such holidays the church is always open.) He
stood there hesitantly. He had hoped that he might go into
the church and pray. Not being able to gain entrance, he did a
strange thing. He took from his wallet one of his business
cards and dropped it through the mail slot in the door.
The instant he did that a tremendous wave of peace came
over him. He had an amazing sense of release. He put his
head against the door and sobbed l ik e a baby, but he knew
that he was free, that some tremendous change had happened
to him the validity of which is attested by the fact that from
that minute on there has been no turning back. He has lived
in complete sobriety from that moment.
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There are several features about this incident which mark it
as impressive. For one, Dr. Silkworth seemed to have
released him from the hospital at the proper psychological,
spiritual, and shall we say supernatural moment, indicating
that the doctor himself was the subject of Divine guidance.
When Charles told me this story in the Hotel Roanoke two
years after it happened, I had a feeling as he related it that I
had heard it before in precise detail. But he had never told
me this story. In fact, I had never previously talked to him. It
occurred to me that perhaps he had written the story to me
and I had read it, but he said he had never written me. I then
asked him if he had told the story to one of my secretaries,
associates, or any other person who could have related it to
me, but he said he had never told the story to any other
individual save his wife and I had not met her until that
night. Apparently this incident had been transmitted to my
subconscious at the time it happened for now I
"remembered" it.
Why did he drop the card in the mail slot? Perhaps he was
symbolically reporting to his spiritual home, reporting to
God. It was a dramatic and symbolic separation of himself
from his defeat and the turning to a Higher Power which
immediately took him out of himself and healed him.
The incident indicates that if there is deep desire, intensity of
longing, and a sincere reaching out after the Power that it
will be given.
In this chapter I have related victory stories out of human
experience each in its own way indicating the continual
presence and availability of a life-renewing Power, beyond
but resident within ourselves. Your problem may not be
alcoholism, but the tact that the Higher Power can heal a
person of this most difficult malady emphasizes the
tremendous truth related in this chapter and throughout the
entire book that there is no problem, difficulty, or defeat that
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you cannot solve or overcome by faith, positive thinking, and
prayer to God. The techniques are simple and workable. And
God will help you always, just as the writer of the following
letter was helped.
"Dear Dr. Peale: When we think of all the wonderful things
that have happened to us since we first met you and started
coming to the Marble Church, it seems nothing short of a
miracle. When you realize that just six years ago this month I
was totally broke — in fact thousands of dollars in debt — a
complete physical washout — and had hardly a friend in the
world because of my excess drinking — you can see why we
have to pinch ourselves every now and then to realize that
our good fortune isn't all a dream.
"As you well know, alcohol wasn't the only problem I had
six years ago. It has been said that I was one of the most
negative people you ever saw. That's only a half truth. For I
was filled with gripes, all sorts of irritation, and was one of
the most supercritical, impatient, cocky individuals that you
could have possibly met even in all your travels.
"Now, please don't think I feel I have overcome all these
obsessions. I haven't. I am one of those people that have to
do a day-to-day job on myself. But gradually, by trying to
follow your teachings, I am learning to control myself and be
less critical of my fellow man. And it is like being released
from a prison. I just never dreamed that life could be so full
and wonderful. Sincerely, (Signed) Dick."
Why not draw upon that Higher Power?
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Epilogue
YOU HAVE FINISHED this book. What have you read?
Simply a series of practical and workable techniques for
living a successful life. You have read a formula of belief
and practice which should help you win victory over every
defeat.
Examples have been given of people who have believed and
who have applied the suggested techniques. These stories
have been told to demonstrate that through the same methods
you can obtain the same results as they did. But reading is
not enough. Now please go back and persistently practice
each technique given in this book. Keep at it until you obtain
the desired results.
I wrote this book out of a sincere desire to help you. It will
give me great happiness to know that the book has helped
you. I have absolute confidence and belief in the principles
and methods outlined in this volume. They have been tested
in the laboratory of spiritual experience and practical
demonstration. They work when worked.
We may never meet in person, but in this book we have met.
We are spiritual friends. I pray for you. God will help you —
so believe and live successfully.
NORMAN VINCENT PEALE
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